Is it normal for a 26 year old male to lose most of his interest in women altogether?

[Anonymous]

Between all of the toxic things I see on social media (mainly the "fuck all men!" rhetoric), the whole "e girls" trend and social distancing... I've found myself just not being all that interested anymore. I know I am asexual and have been flip-flopping on whether or not I'm aromantic, but I have to wonder if any other guys hit a point where they've stopped and said "enough is enough" and just stopped caring about dating or whether or not they have a partner.

I'm not perfect, but I have my own car/place/work full time and make enough to live how I want and to me that's about all I need. Friends would be nice, but being ASD and working 3rds is gonna render that completely impossible.

[Anonymous]

This is why I lost interest in women in westernized countries, the culture is way too divisive of the sexes. I am talking to some women from East Asian countries and they seem like far better human beings than the average woman I meet here in the US.

I assume divisive culture there isn't as prevalent.

[Kyle-Jackson78]

just date men i switched teams and i can't be more happy

[Asker]

I've thought about it in the past ngl. I've followed some femboys on Instagram and think some of them are really cute, so it's a start!

[Diodoro]

If you don't go out, don't work out, kinda eat shitty, lead a sedentary lifestyle, don't average 7-9 hours sleep

Then yea, that's normal. Because you're crippling your testosterone production and not putting yourself in a position to even be with a girl.

If you don't have a shot in hell Because you're not playing then why would you be motivated without some kind of push?

If you simply go out and are a social guy with everyone, that alone would disamuse you of a loss of interest in girls. You'd likely be more excited to stay and play, curios to see where the night might take you

[Asker]

I average 9-12 hours of sleep depending on whether or not I'm working. Usually 7-9 if I am, 10-12 if I'm not.

[Diodoro]

That's a plus at least

[Lolaaa53553373333]

I'm sorry you're going through this, and a lot of guys probably share your sentiments (There are a lot of them on the site and in real life), so it's not like you're alone even though I can't really understand what you guys go through to get to that conclusion all I know it's not from bad intentions that you speak this way more like frustration. Maybe try to stay off social media and talk to girls and people in general more outside (ASD definitely isn't gonna help but try to "learn" socializing if you can since that that's the main cause of frustration), dress better, workout, like take care about your looks, get emotional support and adrenaline rushes, read things and you'll be okay I hope😊

[Lolaaa53553373333]

I read your other reply, if what you're saying is true then I don't think you need what I wrote, you just need some luck in being around good women

[Sparks32]

I haven't really dated in 20 years. My step mother threatened to frame me for rape. my wife slept with other guys and got them to try beat me up for reasons i can't understand. one day i got charged for domestic violence for simply calling her a bitch after she smashed a dinner plate across my face. assault with a foreign object is a lesser crime then speaking to her with a demeaning manner. then there is divorce settlements that almost always favor women. I'm to afraid to date anymore it's clearly too dangerous. ever seen fatal attraction? there are 100 times more bunny boilers then unicorns out there. We all need company from other human beings so you will have to weigh up whether or not a relationship is worth the risk for you but if she raises red flags within the first month of dating get rid of her Quick.

[IMuser]

Your mind is wandering with question "are women worth it?"

You have low libido (or are an asexual) so you are considering the benefits and disadvantages of being with a girl. Your asexualness rules out the "sex" factor.

This is something only you can answer. Just keep on living being single till you find an answer to this

[Oigit]

In general you focus on the negatives of something you are going to lose interest in it. The internet can make it really easy to focus on the negatives. When it comes to people social media makes that really, really easy. So I'd start by disconnecting yourself from social media for a while and see if it changes anything.

[Anonymous]

I think so. It seems nowadays women are only good for and want to be used for sexual release and nothing more. Women generally are fucking multiple guys at the same time and there's just too much shit out there. I don't even know if decent good women exist anymore. It's risky too for men, between divorce, cheating and being used, there's really no point to relationship anymore.

[Asker]

For me the scariest thing is getting baby trapped because I don't want kids and although sex isn't that interesting to me I've done it in the past because my exes wanted it. I actually kicked a girl out of my apartment that I met off Bumble in the summer because she confessed that she got drunk and had sex with another guy right as I was getting comfortable with her, and I have no regrets. She must have really been a problem because I also reported her to the app and I was informed that they decided to remove her.

[ManHater]

Sometimes women just turn men off because of other reasons. Just takes one bitch to say fuck all women. Most women are evil bitches.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I feel you dude. Same here, I sometimes even believe I got bitter

[Anonymous]

not really, just shows you're eating into being an incel.

[bewilderedunfiltered]

Nothing wrong with it. I think women often feel the same way about men as well.

[OddBeMe]

I feel like you’ve entered a rabbit hole of inceldom. I would hope reading women’s responses here you’d figure out not all or even a majority say “fuck all men!”

[Asker]

Again, I don't understand why people are jumping to the whole "incel" thing. Unless that involves more than just being angry that you can't get sex. As mentioned earlier... I don't like sex and have no interest in it.

[OddBeMe]

And you watch mgtow youtube right? Post about it and feel a community with mgtow’s?

[Asker]

Hah... I sure don't. MGTOW is just as toxic as something like r/femaledatingstrategy. I find that community just as insufferable and annoying... hardly much different than the people they complain about.

[OddBeMe]

Huh usually guys your age need brainwashing to give up on sex.

May I ask, what makes you stop from asking some girl out for coffee or a beer?

[Asker]

"Usually guys your age need brainwashing to give up on sex"

Well, blanket statements like this definitely remind me why I don't bother. That's honestly kind of sexist, but I don't think society is ready to talk about that yet so I'll let it be.

Well, I was sexually and emotionally abused by women in the past and the way I see them act now definitely doesn't help. Guess I'm just content on my own.

[OddBeMe]

Apologies, but what does “sexually and emotionally abused” mean exactly? I’ve spoken to mgtow’s (you said you aren’t one, I know) and they say similar and when I press they describe basic guy/girl dating crap like breakups, maybe she cheated.

[Asker]

All good. Yes, I've been cheated on but I've also had far worse than that happen. By emotionally abused, I mean that my ex would get upset if I didn't want to hang out with her 24/7 (even if I was sick), we had to do whatever she wanted or she'd throw a whole ass temper tantrum, she would get angry and assumed I was cheating if a woman our age so much as LOOKED AT ME for any reason whatsoever... that kind of thing. And of course nobody believed me because these things don't happen to men.

Sexually abused... I was forced into sexual situations I didn't want to be in. Some of them actually caused physical harm without going into too much detail. (I know there are younger people on here and I don't want to delve into NSFW territory too much)

[OddBeMe]

Well the sexual abuse I’d say is rare. Or at least never reported by men because “masculinity”. I’m sorry for that.

But the rest of what you described is basic relationship stuff. I’m not trying to beat you up. But human emotion and arguing will be apart of any relationship. In fact that’s what makes it fun.

So whatever happened to you sexually, I hope you can recover and find love. It’s absolutely the only thing keeping me from putting a gun to my head. As I’m typing this my wife is lying soundly next to me. It’s the best feeling in the world. And I’d hate for you to miss out on it.

[Mustardy_awake]

Kinda abnormal but i see your point on something