I will start this with the understanding that there is indeed a massive difference. Ask any man, anywhere, why they feel depressed, and you will never hear them say that it is because they are unloved. They will tell you that its because they feel helpless, Powerless, like they are not in control of their own lives. Its part of why you hear things like "I dont understand why he killed him self, he seemed so happy". The problem with this, society, specifically therapists, only deal with female depression. The below image illustrates my point correctly.
Feminists will often chalk this up to "Toxic masculinity" When in reality feminists are the absolute last people who should be commenting on the state of depression in men, quite simply because they are ill equipped to understand it.
I have personally experienced the above from multiple different therapists. It took me years to find one who really understood it and helped. And no, not with medications, Not with drugs, None of that. He ended up helping me by encouraging me to go out and do traditional male things. Things which prior therapists told me that i should never do. Like going out with my buddies to a shooting range and doing target practice. Helping a friend build a shed. Going hunting. Getting my hands dirty, feeling useful. Helping regain some of the power i felt i had lost. Helped me unlearn the helplessness. This resulted in better work performance, better home life, better personal life. I even took on new hobbies and learned new skills. Society, specifically the mental health industry needs to stop treating men as if they are women, and assuming that the things that help women, nearly never help men. In some cases sure. But in most cases its more detrimental than helpful.
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