IS it better to be loved or feared?

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Why?

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Loved- because it’s less energy/ strain. Helps everyone come to more agreeable decisions, and provides more understanding.

Feared- is the second and least preferred option because it provides no understanding, or has false perceptions involved. It promises no loyalty and the possibility of no help when you’re at a weak point, or need care for yourself. It presents even possible betrayal if they fear you. To be feared does promote time-efficiency, but the possibility of more mess-ups and possible discourse among the others.

I prefer loved, but in a world where people are selfish, not understanding, and even disrespectful. I hope to attain a *reverent fear.* If I have anyone fear me, I would have no use of that, really. I would get nothing genuine. If I had it in a position of power, I would simply not pay any mind to it and try to get things done, and once done, leave everyone so they can tend to the resources, and simply not have to “fear” me anymore.

I benefit from love. Fear does nothing for me, but allows me to work without anyone opposing me. It’s a path of less resistance, but an opportunity for an exposed back and paranoia. An opportunity for our own demise.

When someone is feared and they abuse that, it always leads to hate. Even if the others perceive them as being abusive- bitter hate will ensue.

USLegionary · Accepted Answer

My grandfather said that the worst thing about living to be an old man is that no one saw you as dangerous anymore. There's something in that.

Nowadays people will screw you over, destroy you or be verbally abusive because as long as its legal thevlaw will protect them. If you are law abiding hard working tax paying citizen they expect that you will just let it go. Whereas is the old days if you screwed a man over or insulted him he might look to get into a fist fight and punch you in the face. Now the police will arrest him and the person he hits will get $10-100,000 thousand depending and probablycost him his job. Of course a criminal doesn't care about legal consequences and has nothing to lose. I think that's why you see so many Karen's starting shit, in the olde days if a Karen started shit in the street it was perfectly reasonable and acceptable to bitch slap the shit out of her.

I think in general as a man it's better to be acknowledged as potentially dangerous thag way you get left alone, bullies prey on those they see as weaker than them.

So as a man loved by your girl, family and friends but feared by everyone else.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Accepted Answer

Loved. If someone seriously fears you that fear can push them to killing you. No one here is God where they can't be touched. There's always someone out there that can f*#& up big time.

DynamicKicker · Answer

I'd say more like respected. Loved by people is a good thing of course, but for example with fighting like boxing or martial arts; they don't fear but rather respect. Say a guy has like 1-punch KO power, they aren't afraid in the fight but they're forced to respect the power and have to work around it because if they go in guns blazing, they know any shot can shut their lights off.

abc3643 · Answer

George C. Scott in the movie "Patton" as General George S. Patton during WW 2:

"In about fifteen minutes, we're going to start turning these boys into fanatics - razors. They'll lose their fear of the Germans. I only hope to God they never lose their fear of me."

NathanDavis · Answer

I know a lot of cartel people... they are feared yes, but they also live in paranoia and constant fear of what that implies

jshm2 · Answer

Depends, as a man should be loved by his family, but feared by his enemies, and not the other way round.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

If people fear you that means that you will always have to look over your shoulders and sleep with one eye open  look at every gangster movie it never ends well someone is always gunning for you

LiamJHayden · Answer

Loved. Someone fears you enough he might decide to end you before you do him.

Iron_Man · Answer

To be loved you don’t want to leave a bad legacy behind

shortster · Answer

Feared, it is far safer to be feared. Or at least according to Niche.

westend12 · Answer

Both. I want them to fear how much they love me - Michael Scott

DizzyDesii · Answer

Why would i want to be feared

SnowedIn · Answer

Loved.

Blackcupcake · Answer

loved.

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