Am I too hard on myself or are my generation just really lacking compared to me?

[Puppystarfish23]

I'm always thinking I'm such a loser and I can be really harsh on myself.

I've recently turned 25, I have a boyfriend who I'm moving in with eventually in are first home together, I'm learning to drive and I have okayish job..

I always feel like I'm so much more behind others my age but social media definitely doesn't help. I see people I went to school with living in the city, having fancy jobs and flash cars etc but then you find out mummy and daddy are helping them out or they are in lots of debt.

I like to think everything I own I earned myself, I've never had a hand out from anyone.

I grew up in a very working class household but my family worked there arse off to give ourselves a better life. So I really appreciate the value of money and having a stable job.

I speak to others my age and its came to a massive shock to me how much more money I have then them and how many of them still depend on there parents.

Seeming as I was bullied at school for having dyslexia and being poor I feel really proud of myself to have gotten were I am today compared to those who tried to make me feel like I'd never achieve anything in my life.

I also always feel I like I'm so ugly and fay but then I see how unhealthy others around my age are and I start to think wow okay maybe I'm just mean to myself.

Updates

1 y

Also I live in the UK so cost of living is very expensive compared to the US so that's why I'm buying my first home at 25. Life is a lot different compared to americans in the UK.

Also this is not me saying I'm better then anyone else its just came to a massive shock to me how far behind others my age and older are compared to me when I thought I was the one who was behind

Updates

1 y

Everyone assumes I come from money but everything I have I bought myself from money I earned

[Changiis07]

You are very hard on yourself. Plus social media does not help at all which is why I deactivated both IG and Facebook. Nothing really good comes out of those. We spend so much time on there and then we lose energy to do other things. It's healthy to disconnect for a day and increase it by weeks and months as well. Trust me it helps a ton. Or delete the app and download it later so you aren't as tempted to go on it as much. As for being to hard on yourself it's hard not to compare yourself to others, but we all grew up differently and some choice our parents made didn't help but that doesn't define us. You are smart and have a job and aren't depending on anyone. You have food on the table so that means you aren't starving. If others your age have more money or big houses heck good for them. We don't what they went through, maybe their parents help, maybe they earned it all on their own with hard work. Either way be nicer to yourself

[FreyaRed]

Enjoy your life and don't think about frivolities.

[exitseven]

Social Media just shows how great peoples' lives are. It is all BS. They never mention that they were indicted for fraud or was caught cheating by their wife.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[BigManSAB]

Keep working on yourself and don’t look to others and you’ll live a happy life

[Jennz6]

I think you’re being too hard on yourself