Am I a bad person for enjoying the fantasy of being rescued by a man? Or for wanting to be seen as helpless and in need of protection? Why does every modern take on a series or character have to turn the damsel in distress into a strong independent woman?
Why is the "damsel in distress" trope a bad thing?
Because we are neither children nor ancient era's women who hasn't seen the world. Who didn't know how to defend herself because she was surrounded by family, so she was protected. She was secured and men were the one who dealt with people and solved problems.
Now things have changed drastically, women are as alert and smart as men. When I say smart, I mean they know what to do if someone has bad intention. If someone's trying to fool you, harass you or threaten you, you know what to do. You are educated, you are exposed to the world after you turn 18 and leave home. You know how to tackle. Many women even watch crime shows or read newspapers and know how to be aware. Many are quick to take actions, some even got enrolled in a self defence class so they won't get harmed if her guy or her loved one isn't around.
You cannot expect your guy to be around all the time to save you. I was naive when I was younger and my guy friends and my boyfriend helped me but of course, it wasn't always possible for them to be around me or close to me always. I had to take action too. So, I learnt how to tackle difficult situations and even slap if someone misbehaves with me and speak up... Now I am very confident how to deal with any kind of people. Be it crazy people, creeps, people who try to harass you or intimidate you... or any situation. It feels good to be an adult and not depending on others.
Yes and relationships between men and women have gone down the drain. We didn't evolve to be able to appreciate a different kind of relationship dynamic.
People think our culture can somehow just raise men & women differently and they will somehow accept this, but we spent millions of year in this kind of relationships.
Our minds, voices, and bodies all evolved to work this way, we come close to extinction before we successfully adapt.
Let me ask my ex who is the zero hero when it comes to that. hahaha
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Anonymous
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This is a classic story feature because it appeals to the primordial desires and instincts of both sexes.
It is natural for a man to want to protect his woman and children. The more clearly a woman plays into that instinct the more easily a man will do what is necessary to help her and his family.
It is like wise natural for a woman to seek in a man security, the more a woman treats a man as her protector and a source of security the better her own instincts will facilitate the relationship as well.
Telling theses stories this way isn't just because they naturally appeal to people but they teach us how to work together in a way that is more complementary of our basic human natures.
You might have noticed how much more diffiuclt relationships between men and women can be when we try to abandon this dynamic. Its just not what we were evolved to do.
There is nothing wrong with that, it is a classic story device, discarding it when it would work to launch two characters together creating a lot of pole on hole friction is a shame to me. Hmm, decent example, I met my wife when she was 18, her parents hated me, so they took it out on her, that launched us closer together. Within maybe a month of meeting each other we were living together. Without that push (ironically from the parents who hated me) I find it doubtful that we would have gotten that close as she was young and inexperienced, much less that fast. You're right that a lot of women do hope for that, along with it being a good mechanism to move fictional, as well as stories in reality along.
Because society has changed. Not everyone can see eye to eye. People change the narative to what they think is best. There are women who dont agree with the damsel in distress. They dont find men saving them to be ideal. There are men who just give up because they dont want to be yelled at. Its pretty sad if you open a door for the lady and she yells at you for being a gentlemen. So guys just dont do those things out of fear for being berated over his kind act.
Women tell us men we can do it ourselves. We dont need you. We dont want to be saved.
Leave me alone or she will yell rape. Or threaten to mace us.
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Anonymous
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I don't think it's a bad thing. You can still raise strong daughters with "traditional" values. I think society just THINKS you have to be one or the other. I have 4 sisters. All are married form 18 to 37 years. And most importantly they've STAYED MARRIED. Why? Because them and thier spouses respect eachother. Trust me, my sister's are far from weak.
I have noticed this new batch of 18-24 year old females are a lot more feminine (and h0rny) than I ever remember them. I like a helpless little femme waiting for Daddy to rescue her
I've discovered that even the most independent woman still seeks a man who can sweep her off her feet. Its just her standard is so high it automatically excludes the 99% so she comes across "feminist" and "woke".
Because its too overused. When its in 100% of all the stories it gets boring. Also there are many different kind of women (or people in general) and there should be different kinds of stories.
"expendable" - because they need to risk their lives and do everything, and you will not help them just because you want to play a great, feminine, lady.
Well, I think the best is middle ground. Not too "damsely", but not to feminist to "hate men". But that is just my opinion, as I am rather inclined to equal treatment.
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