Do you think that because you accomplished something that means others should be able to?

[msc545]

I keep hearing this from people that were homeless or down on their luck that then use it as a reason to blame others for not improving.

Is this fair?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I didn’t accomplish even the 100th piece of what everyone who knew me always expected me, starting from school, including college, and more,

people always expected me to do wonder, they told me I am born to be a president, my ex was a bit disappointed I didn’t took part in politics, he thought I could do that as well.

My college friends were saying I was a future prime minister.

My school friends at 17, told me they pictured me at 27 in a red fancy cabrio having two young men in my passenger seat, driving to a prom anniversary and they were thinking I’d be very rich by now.

When my college friends heard of me falling in love with my ex, first they didn’t believe, cause they thought I was different.

Guess, they thought I was too ambitious and too career oriented to ever fall in love.

I kind of disappointed everyone.

But do I care?

No.

I am not a president,

not a prime minister,

not a millionaire

like everyone expected.

I sure know I have a potential of being any of them, if I wished to and If I worked into that.

But, what they don’t know is that, behind that face of strong, heartless person everyone believed I was, there was me, not so strong and not so heartless.

It was just a face I had to have to survive in a situation where I lived.

In truth, I think I accomplished a lot.

I made it out from the hell where I live, where everyone was helpless, there were 12 people living in one small apartment and I never had more than 2 square meters for myself.

As soon as I left though, I supported my family and still do that.

Instead of being helpless like them, I managed to get on my own feet, thanks to them.

Because my parents always told me “We pay everything we’ve got for your education, that’s all we can. You are alone in the world, remember this, nobody can help you, you need to help yourself.”

I had lots of opportunities from law school, during college, some from Norway, some from Spain, some from Britain, I didn’t go, I didn’t want my parents to gave had to take loans. Even though they were more than willing and supported me to do that.

I always felt like I did not have the right to just live for my own, or to expect help from them, instead even if it meant sacrificing my career goals, I must have paved my way on my own.

Whatever I do, I do perfectly, I know I’ve got a huge potential, I always knew that, because coming from my place, you are taught to be nothing but best, because you are competing with people who are not hungry, who have some basic comfort, a cozy place to sleep.

You have to be nothing short of best.

What I believe I accomplished is that, I sometimes feel happy. Little things make me happy, because I had none of them growing up.

And my happiness matters a lot for me. I think everyone has a right to just be happy.

Let’s say, Would I be happier if I tried my best to really become a president?

I doubt that.

I am on my own, I can do things I never thought I could do in the past, I think I am fine and I think I did well judging the background I am coming from.

In the past, when I was a child, I blamed my parents for not being as strong as others’ parents. I thought they didn’t accomplish anything

Later on, I learned to respect them, for making me into who I am today, if anyone says they’ve not accomplished anything, I want them to stand in front of me and look at my eyes.

I think they did great.

Not everyone is lucky, for me, I have learned to mold luck into my side, but not everyone is like that and they do still deserve respect.

That’s why I show my respect to average people, but never to authorities. Authorities got to show me the respect.

[msc545]

Well said!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I find it hard to imagine you have read all of it so soon.

But thanks.

[msc545]

I read ridiculously fast...

[Apple1996]

No everyone's situation in life is different and we all have different strengths and weaknesses so I don't expect someone to be able to do the same things as i did to accomplish something.

If they were seeking help I'd tell them what I did to get there but that might not work for them so more would just be little inspiration to get them on their own path.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No, our experience shapes who we are. I can carry 100 bags of concrete 2 miles away faster than someone who only exercises by walking to their car to get macdonalds.

Being a member of mensa, i'll likely outscore someone randomly selected on any standardized test.

With 9 combat tours I can find, fix and finish the enemy better than someone who went to summer fat camp.

The list goes on. It's not the matrix, we can't expect people to just "download how to fly a helicopter" and go save the day. For some people that ship long since sailed.

[BoopBoopBeep]

omnomnom MHOs taste like chocolate. Tango mike!

[richardcory]

People have different innate abilities, and all they can be expected to do is to use those abilities.

[msc545]

Agreed, but in many cases they are unable to use the abilities you referenced.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Depends on what they mean. What one person has the ability to accomplish another person may not.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I wish people the best in life, if I can't make it than I will have to seek shelter else where.

[lightbulb27]

No… its just a relative point to show possibilities.

[DermalPunch]

It is in a way because I have come to see that people do not seize opportunities.

[exitseven]

No, I am probably in the top ten percentile of humans. Not everyone can follow in my footsteps.

[Anonymous]

How could you be a president and a prime minister?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I believe that question is for me, I was into law and politics, board member of a few international organizations that were specialized in exactly that. I was a master of public speaking, I was extremely charismatic and well spoken as well as well versed in the skills it takes to succeed among the biggest pressures of competition.

Wherever I went, I easily found my place, I was voted as a president of one of the huge organizations until I took my candidate off. Because I wanted to travel to China and see a world.

Then I fell in love and love makes all of us a bit of idiots, I became a total idiot with it. Gave up the life I knew before, just to be with that person.

I was just too romantic and everything I did, I did with all my heart, that’s why I was successful, because I poured my heart into anything I did, and that’s why I fell in love wholeheartedly.

I don’t regret that though, it would be a pitiful life to live and not have loved, I am happy I made the choices I made.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

The only thing I’d change is that, instead of totally giving up on my life as I knew it, I’d keep some part of it, I’d keep growing in that field, without harming my relationship.

Without totally investing in love, I’d balance some part to invest in myself.