Do you still hate the people who bullied you?

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ZamerZ · Accepted Answer

As unlikely as it is to run into them again, working on my imaginative revenge plot is very comforting. So yeah, they left marks on me that impacted my life in very bad ways and some of the things they pulled still influence me. I suppose it hurt more because I used to get along with my bullies really well in primary school, but when I ran into them again in confirmation class was very scarring because I had absolutely no idea why they decided to bully me. Personally, I'm exclusively a dick to people who warrant it with obnoxious behavior and have always been that way. I never did anything to any of them, I was just breathing the same air as them.

So, it came quite as a shock when they began to corner and touch me when the pastor wasn't looking and in school, too. To this day, it made me very wary of people and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around most of them because you never know what they'll do next.

My little revenge plot as in "... and then they'll all be sorry!!" is really just a thing to keep me entertained, comforted and cope at the same time. As the introduction reads in Jhonen Vasquez' Johnny The Homicidal Maniac:

"Think of someone who pissed you off [...] The big bully who spat in your face when you were eight. Now, in your head, relive that moment. This time, however, don't just stand there and take it. This time you've got a knife. Pull it out from behind your back and watch the status flip-flop. Suddenly, [they aren't] cocky. The playground bully is crying for his mother. Smell their fear. Then, kill them. Kill them like you see in the movies. Make it as horrible as possible. Release that monster and stab that knife deep into their face. [...] Now that you've committed murder in your dream world, relax. Take a deep breath, give your monster a high five and put him away. You've just used an evil fantasy to keep you civilized and sane.

Some may call this irresponsible advice. They kid themselves that their monster doesn't exist. And when a person lies to themselves, there is less chance for spiritual growth. More than likely, their monster will step out of the Dreamworld and into the Realworld. That's how a society gets messy. Lots of neglected, hungry monsters."

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. I'd be lying if I said i didn't scroll through there Facebook every now and again to feel smug but their a single baby daddy living on a council estate or at there nans. I've been bullied my entire life for lots of different things and lots of different ways but it's mainly because I'm dyslexic and struggle to stick up for myself

Most recently I was bullied at my old work place because they were pretty much jealous of the fact I was still young and had a happy life whilst most of them were in unhappy relationships or divorced more than once or even never been romantically involved with anyone with at all. I was warned before I started but not in detail of what these women were like.

I was mentally and physically abused on a daily basis. I honestly felt like I was working in a woman prison is the only thing I can compare it too.

I worked there for 7 months then I moved in with my boyfriend and got a new job in his home town I found it really hard to trust people at first but now I have so many amazing friends who are so kind to me and really understanding they really don't know how much I appreciate them.

Looking back oh how them women treated me it still hurts as I can't imagine ever being that horrible to someone and actually being proud of it to the point they chased me out of my job like they have done to so many others. I guess I find comfort in knowing but I wasn't the only one to suffer at their hands but its also a horrible feeling having to work with a bunch of people who hate you and are constantly out to get you.

I still get uneasy now at work if a middle aged woman tries to befriend me as I feel like I can't trust her and she's probably out to get me out if some jealous rivalry.

But these women had such sad life and I have a life they will never have, I have amazing genuine friends who care about me, a good job, a house and amazing Fiance and for that I think why do I care so much about these sad little women they are nothing to me nor anyone else.

As for the boys who bullied me at school yes I do still hate them as they've never grown up and are still losers and I make sure to remind them if that whenever they try and talk to me now

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I had just moved to different location different School and I used to have to take the bus there was a kid that lived a couple blocks from me and he was a little bit slower than most people just a little bit different than most people but he was a good guy

One day walking down the hall I see a crowd of people yelling screaming as I'm walking by I see this guy being picked on by this bigger guy and I took like three more steps as I was walking by and I said I cannot let this happen so I went over there made my way through all the crowd and I basically told the guy that I was going to kick his ass if he ever touched my friend again but these guys the bullies

They went on to bully my friends friends so I had to put a stop to that for the long story short

After graduating from school 3 to 5 years down the road to run into these bully guys and you see where their life is gone the some are just so f***** up you can't believe it

If you carry that with you the rest of your life it's going to be such a waste of time and energy and it's going to hold you back from everything and every place you're supposed to be going let It Go that was then this is now and lives life right now

Because if you're still thinking about them they're still winning and forget that that is no life to live right there

If you can't get it out of your head seek them out take somebody with you and confront them tell them how you feel and if you have to kick your ass kick their ass LOL sorry I'm just a firm believer in I hate bullies

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I do. There was a guy who picked on me in junior high. He was 3 or 4 years older because he got left back a few times I think he quit school in tenth grade. I never heard from him again. I got into weight training and when I was a senior in high school I was pretty big and I imagine I would have been more than a match for this guy who would have been 20 or 21 by then. I did try to find out where he was but the internet had not been a thing and I never knew what became of him. I really would have tracked him down and given him a proper beat down

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I was severely bullied in school and I don't hate them, but I just don't forget what they did to me was terrible, and I see things this way Karma will get them for all the mental pain they put me through, so my heart goes out to people who have been bullied.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

I was called horrible names now and then at school but i always attacked them back a dont let anyone break my stride i do remember a gang of girls ganged on me for kicking fuck out of 2 people they hung out with but they asked me to fight them so am no gonny say no like a pussy so my friend had a girl that was a cousin in this gang so they all gatherd around on me and said am my cousin said you have been battering everyone am like your cousin was asking me to fight them all so i said yes so my friend was asking me to fight these people i did then she ran away and told her cousin and the gang everytime so they where asking her to get people to fight with me why couldn't they just come down and ask me to fight them obv pussy basterds had to gang up on me now there was like 6 of them a couldn't fight them by maself they didn't attack me but the fact is there shit bags the 2 main girls didn't ask me to fight them but asked me to fight all the other girls like shit bags

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I made amends with people who attempted to bully me way back in the past.

It started out with them attempting to bully me or my friends or the weak we felt sorry for but they picked on the wrong people.

I fought back but pushed too far because I wanted to teach them a harsh lesson and found myself bullying them.

I wanted them to tremble as my presence got closer.

With my lead, my "troops" & did this to those supposedly bullies for years.

I sought them out after college and apologized to them.

I even gave a few of them jobs in my businesses.

Those people still work for me today.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Hate is a strong word...
More like I don't waste my time or energy concerning myself with them anymore.

I was a quiet, meek geek growing up, and some (stupid) people confused that with me being "stuck up"- this was before people really knew what an introvert was.

I no longer associate or talk to anyone that bullied or mocked me. They are blocked on ALL social media. Nor do I care if they want to "make amends." They can make amends by making sure they don't treat others poorly like they treated me and others

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah I still do from high school, hopefully karma got them. I was so put off by how some kids treated me in high school and before it’s probably why I never went to college figuring they will always be like that in school even though they usually are not by that time but the whole experience kept me from continuing education. It’s sad how it affects you later in life keeping you from getting further in life because of those types of kids and it never ends, there will always be bullies in school for every generation with no way to stop it, only thing that works is when you beat the bully up, nothing else works, talking is useless

Billlewis · Answer

Oh my goodness, no! I've actually looked up some of the guys who used to bully me for their girlfriend's amusement back in high school, and I was able to reach two of them. I told them that those repeated abuses were instrumental in facilitating my development as a long term success. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am for their assistance.

petitedollbabee · Answer

4 of them, yes. What they did was too severe, I don’t think I’ll ever stop hating them, even if they apologised. The rest of my bullies I have forgiven.

electromagnetic · Answer

I don’t exactly hate them. I just pretty much forgot about them. They’re not worth the time.
Funny, I’ve been watching this Korean show called The Glory and it follows that theme where a girl devoted her life to making the people who bullied her suffer.

A_Bell · Answer

I was never bullied. I don't know why, but probably because I never cared what other kids thought of me so never reacted, so I wasn't any fun to mess with.

Also I was much younger than my 5 sisters, so I was never competitive with them, just the baby.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I didn't hate them then. I hated getting bullied, but I knew one day they'd get their comeuppance. It'd be pretty pathetic to spend the rest of my life focused on that and not the myriad of things that's occurred since then. Plus most of them got their ass whooped eventually, being as how they were all training me how to fight in a multitude of styles.

Siri137 · Answer

Bullies are the most loathesome, contemptible creatures on the face of this earth, and I don't often think about them now, but when I do I imagine doing all kinds of really nasty things to them. Yes, I do hate them, and I'll never, EVER forgive them! May they all rot in hell.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

Not really. They don't exist in my life. The best way to get back at a person from the past that tries to contact you is give them the reply of silence or refuse to even acknowledge their existence. For example if they tell you ''Hi, I'm your Jessie your former bully and I'm sorry'', you can reply with an ''I'm sorry. I don't know any Jessie. I don't know what you're talking about''.

FreyaRed · Answer

Nope. I don't have such emotions or at least those emotion don't last long enough to influence me.
I just gave some of them who bullied me because I came back from another country and made some small language mistakes similar "favor" back as I became the one with whom others want to be friends with.

integrale77 · Answer

Yes I do one of the 2 main bullies I had to face every day tried to send a friend request on Facebook a few years ago I rejected it he'd have to go a long way to gain any form of friendship with me the other one well he got into trouble and may have done some time?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I don't hate them because hatred is a waste of my emotional energy but I don't like them and I want God to remove them for me. Some he has already removed and others are being removed as we speak. The bible says God does not eliminate all your enemies at once, he does it gradually.

snowboarder720 · Answer

Interesting enough I RANDOMLY got a message from a childhood bully that apologized for what he did a long time ago. He said that he still to this day regrets what he did. I honestly forgot all about about him and the instance. I forgave him, not because he deserves to move on from the past but so I can give myself permission to overcome the hate from my childhood.
He deserves to feel guilty and it’s his problem to deal with and not mine 💯

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. I have so many insecurities that still haunt me in my adulthood.

They bullied me all through school for being fat and ugly. Of course after graduation and leaving school. I got a glow up. I look completely different.

But those memories are still there and those insecurities are still there.

I wish nothing but the absolute worst for them. Every last one of them. You have no idea the amount of times I fantasized about literally taking them out. 🔪

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah man I hate the people who have bullied me but luckily I almost never heard from them again. I saw one of my bullies she got even more pretty but back in school she dumb as a rock and I had to tutor her. But most bullies were troubled children. Tbh nobody seems to be doing AMAZING

Anonymous · Answer

Nah mine had a taste of karma hit them. One got cancer. One became a junkie/ alcoholic and got kicked out of her government hosuing. The teacher who bullied me is now dead. The other bully got stuck with a guy for over 10 years who kept choosing to be in prison over her.

Anonymous · Answer

No😂

My bully from primary school is still living at home with his alcoholic father. The others still live in the hood.

The dude who beat me in high school is probblaby in same place as before. And the rich brats I dont know, don't care.

It's Devils job not mine:)

Luopio27 · Answer

My life's biggest and worse enemies have been

therapists
psychologist
psychiatric doctors

And their allies. The damage they have done is worse than what racists strangers, school bullies or work place assholes combined have done.

I won't go into detail of what they have done, but those gaslighters of all people will never ever get forgivness from me.

catarecute · Answer

bullies are people who you should feel sorry for. they are uneducated, unkind, narcissistic, unhappy, never truly themselves, easily brainwashed by media, small minded, low self esteem, unintelligent, often raciest, hateful... and so on

Succubus08 · Answer

Nope, i won't be enjoying life now if i still do hate them, the fact that they became my closest friends... Honestly they're those people who also experience or having trouble coping up because of what they believe and not just that but also from where they grew up or there surroundings, they tend to bully just to feel superior because they're also being bullied back home... They're the sweetest ever...

Sour-rose · Answer

Bruh... I don't remember their names. So anyways, I woke up at like 9 and proceeded to sleep some more. I tell ya, living somewhere besides your home makes it the best sleep ever. <3

Simslover92 · Answer

No I never hated them. I just felt sorry for them as I got older because I realized they probably were getting bullied at home. Bullies usually are bullies because it stems from somewhere else.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I wouldn't say that I "hate" them. But I am still bothered by the memories. Bullying is really some bad stuff.

Anemone978 · Answer

Not the ones from HS because most my bullies became my friends once I became a sort of class clown.. but my elementary ones yes they can be raped or be murdered for all I care..

Sonorous · Answer

Nah, I just find it hilarious that I'm wayy better looking than them now. And they're the ones that bullied me for being fat & ugly!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I don't hate them, but I definitely look back on those days of my life thinking  what on Earth? Why did this person go after me, of all people?

libsaretards · Answer

No. I am grateful to them. Their crap made me stronger and taught me examples of what not to be. Some of them have even reached out and apologized to me.

Wonderingguyy · Answer

I don’t even think about them now, so I don’t often have hateful thoughts about them. But when I do think about them it makes me quite upset for my child-self.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Nah. HS was an awkward time for all of us and I forgave them a long time ago.

Anonymous · Answer

I haven’t seen or spoken to them in over 10 years so I don’t know if they regret the way they treated me.

If they truly regret and feel guilt by the way they treated me in the past than I could probably stop hating them.

ShesRad80 · Answer

no-- i dont care enough about them to hate them. what goes around comes around

wishiwasfiction · Answer

Kind of, there is a manager that has given me hell. I am not one to usually hate, but I hate her

lightbulb27 · Answer

No i understand and have empathy for them. doesn't mean id permit it again.

Anonymous · Answer

No one ever bullied me except a girl in seventh grade who said I looked like a skinny boy. I don’t hate her anymore because I filled out and now I have all the attention I could want.

jshm2 · Answer

Hate? I joined them , and even bullied a couple of them in later years.

bolverk · Answer

No, they do not bother me, they haven't since I left school/tech college, who and what they are now is irrelevant to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Hate is a strong word I don't hate anybody. But most of the people in life who's bullied have not changed thier view on me. If it was advantageous for them to try to bully me now they would. We both just moved on in our lives.

MysticDevice · Answer

Nah, cause I got my payback by being more successful in life. Some of them became teen parents and others ended up in prison.

jeffend888 · Answer

I'm sure they are living their best lives somewhere. They usually do.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

He changed when we met again. Even though it was pretty awkward, I have no reason to have vengeance or just cut ties with them unless they remain thesame.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't. Those who had tried actually hate... ME :D  I can't help that.

Jazzy54 · Answer

If the problem has been solved, I don’t waste time thinking about them.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I’ve no time hating people who bullied me, even if they did repent. I’m too busy loving people who love me.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Yes and hate is all they deserve  im misogynistic because I was bullied by girls in school  I’m all for the oppression of women

AverageNerd · Answer

As a kid I hated them. As an Adult I blame the teachers and parents who were present yet did nothing.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I don’t. I carry no biterness in my heart. I was never one myself but to all those that did me wrong in the past, I’d be willing to make amends and carry on in the present.

jimmy2 · Answer

I really believe that most of the mass shootings are kids to 18isj are those who are bullied all the way through and just get enough to finally breake and shoot away

Anonymous · Answer

No. I respect them. I was fat, weak, pathetic and now I'm not.

Anonymous · Answer

yes but i'm pretty sure their life is way worse off than mine now lmao

Anonymous · Answer

yea i still do even though it was pretty minor as far as bullying goes

Staximus · Answer

I didn't get bullied too much, I was the guy who kicked the bullies asses

Dnice1 · Answer

No I have moved on but I haven't forgotten about it

aquamarine321 · Answer

No, I don’t even remember them, unless I see them plus I’m actually in a better position than them

Grovermint · Answer

I never hated them. Hell, now I don't even think about them. They're a distant memory.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

No I don't care, and probably wouldn't recognize them if I saw them again.

noohair · Answer

I have tried with success to eliminate have from my vocabulary. It is used so casually.

TiaNour · Answer

I never had a bully since I was chill with everyone back in school

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I was severely bullied in school and I don't hate them, but I just don't forget what they did to me was terrible, and I see things this way Karma will get them for all the mental pain they put me through, so my heart goes out to people who have been bullied.

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I was severely bullied in school and I don't hate them, but I just don't forget what they did to me was terrible, and I see things this way Karma will get them for all the mental pain they put me through, so my heart goes out to people who have been bullied.

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