Why can't some pwople just keep their mouths shut?

[jongreat46]

Why is it that some people feel the need to say something offensive and then get offended and mad when the person they made the comment towards fights back and calls them on it. Like my family, they always make comments about my weight and say, "oh you need to lose weight" so I lost weight and when I was skinny I got comments of, "you lost so much weight but you look too thin" so one day I had enough and said to my dad and older brother "why do you always have to make a negative comment about my body image" and they got defensive and accused me of being sensitive so I went off and called them on their narcissism and even threw a low blow at my dad and said, "you want to talk about being sensitive where we're you when you left me and my mom for two years", and my dad is one of those boys who thinks he is all macho. It's not just my dad and older brother, why is it that people who have something subconsciously negative to day get mad when they are called our on their negativity and negative remarks.

[ohsheeT]

Well maybe someday. You find yourself and forgive what's happens in your past. And understand what happens in your future is your choice..

When you truly know who you are then what people say to you cannot hurt you if that's not the way you see it it's the only way that it hurts you is if you see it that way if they're right in one way or another

And maybe one day if somebody is right or just talking it really won't matter because you have decided who You are you have decided who you're going to be that is your choice in life we get to choose who we want to be by the things we say and do. Nobody else. They're just words vibration of the voice box it puts out a sound. That we put into a word that we all understand.. but truly what other people say does not matter it's what you believe in who You are

And everything that's happened in your past between people there are two sides to every story. And sometimes it's only their story it's not ours. What matters is that you found yourself no matter how the story went. And if you haven't then you're going to blame and you're going to point to finger and you're going to have drama all your life.

So if I was to say anything it would be let the past go choose who you want to be by the things you say and do you be the size that you want to be and no matter what anybody says love yourself because it doesn't really matter what they say it only matters if you are healthy and happy and one with yourself

[Hulk_kitty]

Don't take negative comments from anyone personally, remember I what others say about you or to you, is a reflection of them.

family and friends saying this about you, they are actually saying they are insecure about their own body image.

If a person is secure in themselves, they won't feel the need to put others down.

When people critise or put you down, it doesn't define you, it defines them.

Not taking things personally, is very hard, but you have work yourself.

[Hulk_kitty]

Also need to learn to laugh at yourself, and and use a good come back. People said to Arnold Schwarzenegger, We never want to look like you, Arnold replied, Don't worry you never will.

[FreyaRed]

They just put you down and the topic they choose is to hurt you, because you show reaction when they provoke.
You need to be more careful when you talk with them while they seem to be friendly, because this is the moment they fathom out your weak spots. Sarcasm, cynicism and when you predict their actions are effective tools to keep such people under control.

[gorydetails]

sounds like you're a little bitter