Do you think people who insult other people based on their appearance are likely not satisfied with their own physical appearance?

[Anonymous]

I think this is probably true.

I find it hard to believe a person with such high self esteem would go around calling other people insults based on their appearance or making criticising comments.

[patois]

Nope. It's just their personal judgement of your appearance. It's like if they look at the sky and say it's blue when it's a bright sunny day or pink at sunset or grey on a dark stormy day. They see what they see and they are voicing their opinion. Someone having an opinion is not a reflection of their self esteem.

You however, seeking validation from others based on your physical appearance and you feeling insulted when someone doesn't shower you with compliments on your personal appearance is a strong indicator of your low self-esteem. It means you are desperate for approval. You are not grounded in a healthy view of yourself, thus you need others to tell you that you are fine or great to feel less bad about yourself. This is behavior that is often rooted in desperation. You likely don't have very many options, so when you think you have a chance and someone shoots you down, you feel horrible about it.

In contrast someone with a healthy self esteem and a high level of confidence doesn't need anyone to reassure them that they are attractive. They know they have a lot of good traits, and that is often reinforced by many people being attracted to them. Thus when someone calls them ugly, it doesn't match up with their reality and they can easily brush off that one occurrence as the person having bad taste or being mentally retarded or something. When you have a lot of options, one person not finding you appealing isn't a hit to your ego because thousands of other people do find them attractive. Therefore you can never insult them by calling them ugly, because it's just not going to ring true based on their personal experience.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sometimes. I also think at times the insults are a reaction when someone feels hurt.

[NotTacocaT6969]

The bully at my elementary school became a bully because she was self-conscious about her braces.


The bully in middle-school tortured his fellow students because he was being abused at home.


The first bully in high-school behaved that way because getting in trouble forced his parents to pay attention to him.


The last bully in high-school went around bullying overweight girls because he was ashamed that he found them attractive.


There are many reasons bullies exist.

[Anonymous]

yes , actually there was a pretty girl that i know , I saw her once judging a woman's physical appearance , and i wondered why would a pretty girl judge her lik e that when she herself is pretty? turns out she was also insecure

so yes m people who insult others are also not satisfied with their looks *even though they might be also attractive*

[matty1889]

I don't know because womens go to insult is you have a tiny willy so I don't know lol