Whether you are pro choice or pro life, why doesn’t the law mention the father’s responsibility?
It doesn't require anyone to stay together... often it's the woman deciding that. Divorce and break ups are still legal (and common).
I have several friends who were never married to the women they dated (and had children with)... and they have to still pay child support. They do, on occasion, get to see their kids (some of them), but that is also largely dependent on women.
If she decides to just not show up at a meeting place, he doesn't see those kids for several weeks (if not months)... and now he has to go to the courts (if he wants more hassle to get the courts) to say "naughty, naughty! you should show up for custody handoffs!" (but won't really do much about it to enforce it)) to make sure she actually shows up. Luckily he won a small case so she's more obligated to actually let him see his kids. He gets to also occasionally talk to them on the phone, so at least they don't grow up thinking he doesn't care.
One friend, who supposedly has partial custody, hasn't seen his first born in probably 10 years, because she fought him so hard on it. She changed numbers constantly, moved around, and keeps his kid from him (he used to pay child support, but it's hard to find her, so at least with those games, he doesn't have to pay). but he's kind of given up trying, and wasting money on trying to find her and their "kid" and trying to get courts to help him - so he's created a new life for himself.
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Because all too often, the woman DOESN'T WANT HIM AROUND.
Many women sleep with men that they know full well would make horrible relationship partners or fathers - but they're hot, and they're dangerous, and in many cases she was drunk or high, and it seemed like a fun thing to do at the time. Later on, when she's sober and thinking a little more, she wants nothing to do with that man other than to pay child support. If you tried to pass a law forcing the man to be with the woman, it would be WOMEN who would overwhelmingly complain about that law and do their best to vote it down.
Oh, they do remind him in court of his responsibility to his child by paying child support he will never pay and got away with it.
Of course this takes place in a courtroom during the divorce because he cheated on his child's mother.
It isn't rosey for everyone! Some guys shouldn't get a woman pregnant even if they are married.
In biblical times, it was law for a man to stay with a woman he got pregnant. Marriage, in those days, was a form of protection for women, protection from shame and from destitution. Women in this day and age, with their ability to provide for themselves and own their own property, do not have any incentive for keeping the man around.
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Imagine court ordering men to earn 4 times what it takes to raise a child annually.
That why it’s the law is made up by men. The man does NOT have to have to live with all the problem associated with pregnancy for nine months, the pain of delivery, be a mother for the next eighteen years or more, be treated as an outcast by other, getting blamed for her fault in becoming pregnant and the list goes on.
The man gets nothing but people praising him for forcing her to have the child. As for paying child support good luck on that.
New law he forces the mother in carrying the baby. He must wear a fake pregnancy tummy for nine months, take gag medicine every few days, do all the other stuff women go through, on delivery day he is place in reverse order and his butt (I know the opposite) is opened up (yes he will be awake). He will take the baby home with him because he is the one who forced the girl to have the baby. His responsibility not hers. Oh he has to pay the mother the same as paying a surrogate mother for having a baby.Yeah in those states where abortion is not allowed they should set strict rules on the father as well. Either pay up to fully support the mother and child or to stick around and marry the woman. It's wrong to force a child into the world knowing that it might not have a active father
In states where abortion is not legal, there is no law requiring the mother to keep the child. There's always adoption. It's not about responsibility, it's about the belief that abortion takes a life.
The fathers responsibility is child support or being present. What do you mean? Men have had to be responsible for the child for a long time. The removal of abortion is giving women the equality they so desperately crave. She makes a mistake and gets pregnant well now she has to take accountability and can't just run to planned parenthood to murder the unborn child
First, a law doesn't "force" a woman to give birth. Birth is natural and will happen whether you like it or not. Unless you get an induction, birth is never forced.
Second, the laws about abortion only apply to those who can get pregnant (aka WOMEN) and the abortionist.
There are already a lot of laws surrounding men and their children. Taking away the option to kill their children doesn't take any rights away from women, it doesn't give men any additional rights.Because unfortunately the two are not equivalent. Sadly, you can force a pregnant woman to give birth (or at least you can get); you can’t force a guy to be a good father.
Fathers already are at least financially responsible, even though mothers are not. Even men that are proven with DNA to not be the father because his wife cheated are still often held responsible for kids that aren't theirs.
Many women need to spend their lives in prison for what they have done, right along with the sexist corrupt judges.
Give it time, a lot of fundamentalists don't believe in separation or birth control. Tyrants never stop finding new ways to exert control over others until you remove them from power or kill em
Sometimes the father isn't a good person… sometimes the baby is the product of non-consensual intercourse… It's a very complicated topic.
Cause there is bias in the system. It takes two to tango, and both should b held accountable.
Because the people behind the abortion restriction laws don't really give a shit about the child's welfare AFTER it's born, it's just a ruse. Also, because it's primarily men who are in the legislature and they're not going to be held accountable for sex that results in a pregnancy! Are you kidding?
Make NO mistake about it - if MEN got pregnant, abortion would be legal up to 16 weeks in EVERY damn state, and you KNOW it's true!
A worrying proportion of women would not know who the father is, nor want him to be around where they do know.
Abortion isn't the problem, poor social norms are. In some cases, encouraged by the state.
As it is, the state demands the absent parent pay dues if they are not physically supporting the child.
Guess what? I agree, the father helped create the child, so should he stay and help take care of the child?
You're damn right, he should. If he was worth the salt he sweats, he'd stay right there and helpIt did, that was called marriage.
They then tried to make up for the fact that they distort marriage (with no falt divorce). Via child support, as well as allowing the woman to give up the child at any time.Because fathers already have too much responsibility and women have zero.
Can a man opt out of fatherhood if the mother attempts to baby trap him?Usually the woman prefers welfare and child support to having the baby daddy around, it's sick.
The law not allowing pregnancy termination is wrong. end of.
Child support is in place to try to curb that. Forcing people to be together would be worse for the child.
If the law forced a pregnant woman to deliver? Please elaborate.
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