Are these work rules still accurate about what is appropriate and what is inappropriate?

[Kelley1]

[Zack-Bann]

Pretty much


And I don’t see anything wrong with it


People talk about double standards but the truth is: it’s an involuntary human behavior.


Attractive people trigger a positive feeling in others which allows compliments to be seen as warm and heartfelt


Unattractive people come off as desperate like the compliment they give is so you notice them and give them appreciation and validation (that they haven’t earned)


And the unattractive person could be a kind soul deep down, but they will never be able to put forward that kind soul unless they optimize the appearance to at least come off as someone trying to take care of themselves

[lightbulb27]

That is correct!

Comments are welcome... unless they are unwelcome.

I had a woman at work grope me for at least 20 seconds... it was great and I really appreciated it at the time. Nothing came of it.

If I had done that to a woman, I'd been fired and possible harassment lawsuit to employer.

[lil_will_12]

This really isn't an example of double standards tbh

The reason being: you *enjoyed it, so obviously you wouldn't report it. In most cases, if a woman got groped at work, i dont think she’d like it, and would report it bc if a man did that he should be fired, and same goes for women too. You literally could have reported her, yet you chose not to bc you enjoyed it😂 so, this is not a valid example of double standards🤷‍♂️

[lightbulb27]

@lil_will_12 I think men are a lot more tolerant than women. Were different. If it was meant for power and control, it be different.

[lil_will_12]

I personally dont think its about tolerance, women could be scared bc of potential harassment or rape. Men have nothing to be afraid of in these scenarios, except potentially getting fired🤷‍♂️

[lightbulb27]

@lil_will_12 correct. we are different and perceive risks differently. I felt no threat.

[FreyaRed]

There is nothing worse than slimy compliments and cheap flattery on workplace, no matter how good they compliment giver looks. I go to work to earn money, not for finding a date or getting my ego caressed.

[blueonblack22]

Not to say men (or women) should be doing this. I’ve gotten unwelcome attention from female colleagues myself when I was much younger. We are talking much older, overweight and not exactly attractive female colleagues. I didn’t lose sleep over it but it was very awkward.

There were also 1-2 rare moments when I got from an attractive female colleagues. But they were both in relationships and I didn’t want to go there. Also I wondered if it was some sort of cruel sh*t test.

But still I don’t believe you “no matter how good they compliment giver looks”. There are a few men out there who would change your mind real quick on that. Workplace or not.

[Kayleigh2005]

Wow, do unattractive guys actually do that at work?

[Kelley1]

It must have been his posture.

[Kayleigh2005]

Still in college but never thought about it

[Kelley1]

Guys that like you go to the extreme to give you compliments. That can be annoying. When it is too much, I say. "You are just like every guy, they all tell me that." That quietens them a bit because guys don't like being told they are no different than every other guy.

They get offended and say, "Don't be rude, I was giving you a compliment."

"So does every guy and you are just like them." I don't care if they go off and sulk.

[KostasKouvalis]

Maybe they think they're attractive

[Kelley1]

@KostasKouvalis That and on social media sites, they all claim 8 inches or more.

[KostasKouvalis]

Like this one 😂

[blueonblack22]

@Kayleigh2005 in this day and age those guys won’t last long in the workplace.

[Kayleigh2005]

@blueonblack22 yea 😀

[blueonblack22]

This why fewer and fewer men compliment women nowadays. The fear of the second type of reaction above outweighs the benefits of first reaction. Most of us are somewhere in between on looks with the first guy and second guy

But positive attention/reinforcement really is very important for a lot of women whether they admit it or not. And now they are getting less and less of it from men it is making a lot of them depressed.

[Kelley1]

That is not true. We don't need and we don't want the compliments. Every guy I meet compliments me. Moreover on social media, without exceptions, every guy that messages me says, "You are beautiful or words to that effect." I'm tired of it. I don't like hearing it. Sometimes I say, "Every guy tells me that." Then he gets upset and says, "Don't be rude, I was giving a compliment."

[blueonblack22]

@Kelley1 yes I believe you believe what you are saying.

But you are also an attractive 20 year old woman. Of course you are going to hear compliments from guy (particularly online given it’s much safer for guys vs in person).

But if this suddenly ceased you at first would initially feel relieved. But after some time goes by (6 months, 1 year….) you would definitely start to miss it. You would start to question your own attractiveness.

If you don’t believe me then why are overweight and/or middle aged women often so loud, angry and bitchy? It’s because they WANT to be noticed. They crave attention even if it’s negative attention. Not all of them of course but I do see this.

The overweight woman rarely gets real male attention. Yet she sees her skinnier/prettier counterparts get attention from men all the time: jealousy.

The middle aged woman might of turned a lot of heads when she was younger. But she took that for granted and didn’t work on her personality. Now fewer and fewer men are noticing her. And it depresses the hell out of her.

Compliments do matter to women. Now I do realize you sometimes get them from where you don’t want them. But I swear if you never got compliments at all it would eventually really depress you. Even drive you crazy.

[WhitneySnow]

I’ve seen this question before. You’re a girl. Have you ever done that?

[Kelley1]

I wouldn't. It is a good way to be shunned.

[WhitneySnow]

I wouldn’t do it either. It’s unfair to guys who aren’t conventionally attractive.

[LiamS95]

Good answer and neither guy probably meant anything by saying that except as a simple compliment to boost the ladies day.

[WhitneySnow]

@LiamS95 I agree with you

[Kelley1]

@LiamS95 Hearing what every guy says when he sees a pretty woman does not boost my day. It only proves he is common and boring. However, I just reply "Thanks."

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t think it’s common and boring, but I usually just say “Thanks” too. Better not to encourage someone I have no interest in dating.

[Kelley1]

In that area, we agree. Don't leave any opening for the guy to get his foot in the door or else there is no end to it.

[love_conquers_lust]

No.

It takes tact. If you’re unsure, just shut up because you will come off as creepy.

Second, if you’re one of those unproductive douches who blows smoke up people’s butts all day and sits around bull shitting, people are going to know who you are, and not in a good way.

[KostasKouvalis]

Oh yeah, that's VERY accurate. There was a guy on "Survivor" one season who got #MeTooed for getting too touchy with contestants and crew. I was watching that thinking, "These women wouldn't be complaining if the guy looked like Fabio."

[FoxnEagle]

Yup, still applicable, not much seems to have changed.

[Makeushiver]

If it involves human behavior its probably n still happening g sometimes somewhere. That'\ s a bit much bit it's a 2 panel cartoon with little room for subtlety and nuance.

[Sharkstealth]

This is definitely an example of womens equal rights and the way they are protected.

[Massageman]

Isn't it sad that people can't simply accept a compliment without having to consider the likelihood that it is a "leading" comment?

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't know; probably. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Jamie05rhs]

Hey, @Kelley1. We were debating on a comment thread a few days ago, but now I cannot find that comment. I think you replied to me, but I never got a chance to read your reply. Do you remember what question that was?

[WestofNowhere]

Just don't compliment women. Problem solved. Let them compliment each other 50 times a day.

[genericname85]

it's not "rules", it's just how things are.

[Likes2drive]

Seems to be how it is in the real world, attractive people are looked at differently

[bobby_bush_eater]

I think it's more so a metaphor about human behavior.

[Stu234432]

Been there, my supervisor is a lot younger than me.

[Gwendoline]

I think it's pretty accurate actually lol

[exitseven]

Yes, that is pretty much the way it is.

[paledreams]

I keep everything squeaky clean 🫧🪥

[Dan290290]

Did that happen to you? Sorry if so

[Iron_Man]

Unfortunately people are mean

[animesenpai]

Seems accurate

[eagle1951]

yeah i've been through this one

[Twalli]

Extremely

[ChicoFromThe305]

Lmao wtf 😂