Meeting someone who’s in recovery?

[Anonymous]

Myself in recovery as a Cross Addict. I feel”Norm” ladies all think we are lower than low, very sick, shouldn’t be part of society etc. that’s why I rather meet someone in the same boat as me.

addiction has been around for years and yet we get treated so harshly. I’m sick of hearing “just stop using” that doesn’t fix all. The norms will never understand it. And don’t call us selfish because you don’t have this disease or deny you do even though you think using is cool.

[Anonymous]

I've never used. I married a guy that was in recovery. He was clean for 4 years before he relapsed. I spent 3 years trying to save him, when I realized I couldn't. He had to save himself. I nearly lost everything before I finally walked away. I gave him a chance, I believed in him. Look what it got me. You're talking about people judging, while you are doing the same thing.

[Asker]

Difference though. I know the only reason why you’re with him.

[Opinion Owner]

And why is that?

[Asker]

He has $. Tall good looking. Nice car. No woman can resist all those

[Opinion Owner]

You couldn't be more wrong. He has nothing.

[Asker]

Why were you with him though 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

Because when I met him, he was a good guy. I felt comfortable with him. I look him. Clean and sober, he's a great person. The problem is, he can't deal with life. Every time things go wrong, he goes back to using.

[Asker]

Not saying using is the way to go, it bad yea. But there’s so much pressure in life, especially pressure given by people who are “norms”. It’s hard to handle. Norms will never understand us.

[Opinion Owner]

It wasn't the using that was the biggest issue. It was all that goes along with it. The lying, the stealing, the cheating, the abusive behavior, the gaslighting, those sorts of things.

[petitedollbabee]

Ok, so what’s the question?

[Asker]

Am I right to think norm women are too snooty to date?

[petitedollbabee]

No, you’re generalising, but thats no different than some ‘norm’ women thinking that all recovery addicts are the same. However, the issue with dating a woman who is also in recovery, is that relapse is twice as likely to happen. So while yes, you get the advantage of having a partner who knows what you're going through, you also get the disadvantage of possibly being enabled with a relapse in your addiction.

[Asker]

Hardly women ever seek treatment. Been in a rehab place. It’s mostly full of guys anyway. Women are more deniers.

[DrPepper12]

CrossFit?

[Asker]

Cross addicted.

[DrPepper12]

Addicted to Jesus?

[Asker]

Ok ur messing around lol