Why are people more content with living in mediocrity instead of trying for more?

[MLGbreezy]

This is in reference to to dating , in any or most areas of life this mentality is pretty much frowned upon but I’ve noticed in dating a common term I hear and even in some other areas of life is “be realistic “

Im so sick of hearing that damn phrase from people when there are so many examples of life and in our history the literally contradict that way of thinking.

Example I’ve been tryna shoot my shot with girl for all intents and purposes she’s out my league a pretty girl with money and a large following online despite a lot of key changes in my relationship with this girl that might point towards potential I’ve continuously been argued with and told it won’t happen and to quote on quote be realistic when I know in my gut there’s something more.

Bet people told that girl who married Justin Bieber the same thing when she was just a fan wanting to marry him, Now she’s his wife.

Or in other areas like science everyone told the inventory’s of the air plane it’d never happen well we all know the ending to that story. Stop down playing people’s dreams because you believe it’s unrealistic based on your small minded world view.

Even in my own life I’ve done things at points and seen things that I thought were impossible but I was proven wrong and I proved myself wrong. Maybe I’m stupid or a fool for thinking the way I do but why to would I want to keep a realistic world view instead of shooting for something more even if I do end up failing I’d rather have know I tried and failed then to have never tried at all.

[bobalife]

Interesting take, I noticed how common people normalized and is appealed to the bare minimum, lower standard, discouragement of dating, or not taking leap of faith.
If she’s what you want, go shoot your shot. YOLO. Goodluck😊

[MLGbreezy]

Even outside of dating there this weird notion sometimes that you shouldn’t even try and you should just be quite on quote realistic I hate when people say that because it’s like they are trying to bring you down to there level based on there perception of what you yourself are capable and those are the same people I feel like hold so many back in life especially in dating

[bobalife]

The best thing to do is block all those background noises and just focus on what you want. Once you do that, then it won’t bother you anymore and you do you. If you let it continue to bother you, then you’ll feel some type of way.

[exitseven]

I am not content living in mediocrity. I married somebody who is really awesome.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Ariesman81]

Fear. Fear controls 90% of people's decisions.

[MLGbreezy]

It’s astonishing to me that someone else will sit there and tell you that you need to be realistic with your expectations and goals when especially when they know nothing about you but based on the little they do know you just not cut out for whether it is your are trying to accomplish. Is that not a toxic mindset to have? I feel like you’re literally crippling your own potential.

[Ariesman81]

That's what fear does. It cripples growth and exploration of potential.

[Anonymous]

People in general are lazy.

[MLGbreezy]

Sometimes I think I’m living in the twilight zone for even trying. People calling me delusional and saying this or that isn’t gonna happen or this person isn’t interested based on arguments that are 50/50 at best but yet I’m the crazy one.

I’ve come to keen that there’s a lot of people at certain level with a certain mindset and I need to protect myself from falling into the trap of quote on quote sensible arguments or being more realistic cause it’s just another excuse to stay where you are and not reach for more in my opinion.