Rachel Reeves, a British politician was spotted sobbing in the House of Commons. The reason doesn't matter here. But if you were there how would you have dealt with her?
Tell her to man the feck up and grow a pair
Remind her of all the people's lives she's fecked up
Tell her if she can't stand the heat stay our of the kitchen. Unless she's making you a sandwich
It doesn't really happen much but I'm told by a nurse, nurses cry all the time. Maybe to get hugs.
I did make a woman cry at work. She and another were being a power couple and were highly aggressive. My job was to review their data modeling.
It was my practice that if I thought an area wasn't understood well to ask a question and if the answer was rambling I would know they didn't. I want answers in one sentence or less.
I'd go onto other aspects and in a while come back and ask the same question in a different way.
On the third cycle back she said "That's the third time you have asked that. You are making me angry."
I just looked and back and said "So". She burst into tears.
Sometimes you just need to let them have a good cry during a data model review.
When she regained composure she said she would look into it more and that was all I was wanting.
@RavVid can you elaborate on what data modeling is and for what purpose, I'm intrigued? PM me if you want. I'm getting all sorts of thoughts of what it could be but the thing that comes to mind repeatedly is that it is interviewing couples where one is foreign and wants to move to your country and be a citizen and you have to interrogate them.
@Communicationisking Nothing as exciting as interrogation unfortunately. Or fortunately. It is very mundane. IT systems consist of code which does things and data that is stored. Data modelling is like creating business forms on paper to be filled in but they have got more complicated with IT.
It is important to get it right as if it is not either the system won't work right or the costs will increase. I should have written IT model but I am nerdy enough for nerdiness to flow out my fingers.
The key point was these two women thought review was misogynist and that being aggressive would fix it. When I failed to react to aggression, they got upset and one started crying. That wasn't going to fix the model. So I patiently let her cry till she got some composure back and agreed to look into it more.
The best fitting answer to the poll was hug her but if it was just a question I would answer just see if she is ok and ask if there is anything you can do to help or whatever, more often than not you don't get much out of a crying woman so that's when you step up an just give them a hug but if they still have it together enough to get words out then just listen and don't but in at all just listen till they get it all out. Generally there is a hug after this too and this also goes for men as sometimes people in this emotional situation just need someone to genuinely listen to them and be heard.
LOL as someone who got caught crying in the lunch room at work when I was 18. My boss came to talk to me and gave me a "Rome wasn't built in a day" talk haha He was always really considerate of me and never yelled at me even when he would shout at others so I was lucky..
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ignore. this goes for anybody, male or female. not my place to fix things that are their own issues. don't really want to "lend support" either as it's awkward. everyone always says "oh i'm here if you want to talk" but they never actually care.
To the guy who said, "Tell her to man the feck up and grow a pair," my response is this: Guess what, pal? She is NOT a man. Why do you want her to act like one? Grow a pair? She already HAS a pair, but not what YOU mean! She's a woman. She will NEVER become a man no matter how much you want her to! And that's okay. If a woman is crying at work, maybe she just got news of a death in her family! You have NO idea what the problem is!
I would honestly take her aside and ask her what’s wrong, then would assist from there.
If it was my colleague or friend, I absolutely would want them to leave them better than when I first saw them cry because that is what I would want someone to do for me.
- there had been a cleaner girl who was treated unfairly by the boss. I hugged her, and later confronted the boss (he's dead meanwhile, but I swear that it wasn't me)
- Miss ''Ae'' once shed some tears - I poked her with some additional verbal pain.
I would be more sympathetic if it was a normal woman, but politicians shouldn't cry in public unless there is a good reason to like they are dealing with a political issue that involves death or family pain or if they personally had lost someone.
I was sympathetic when judge Larry Seidlin cried at the Anna Nicole Smith trial because I think he was genuinely sad that people around Smith were acting like vultures.
If she's mentally available, I'd just talk to her, because someone crying in public can be someone in great pain. A pain that would be massive enough to shatter social inhibitions is not something light in my surroundings.
but honestly if you're a woman in politics you should toughen up and not show personal 'weakness' in public. as a politician you need to project a reliable & competent image.
I hate seeing people crying and my first reaction to seeing someone crying is usually to comfort them, I don’t need to know the reason, just make sure they feel a little better and if they need anything they can count on me.
I would ignore her. If she wants to set feminism back half a century, let the feminists have a go at her. They don’t need a man’s help after all. It’s 2025. 😂😂😂
Depends where I'm working. If I'm onboard ship I might encourage her (or any other Labour politician) to have a quick swim to feel better. I'll even open the gate in the railings for her...
Hugging is not permitted in the workplace. If it was someone I like I'd give her coffee and a biscuit. If it was Rachel Reeves I'd tell her to go home and don't bother coming back.
The last time that happened at work I shed a few tears in sympathy with her. That's not particularly useful, but at least she didn't feel like she was alone.
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