Feel too much vs Feeling Nothing at all. Which one is worse in your opinion and why?

[thegreenyogi]

[Rosexøxø]

I was going to say feeling nothing can prolong self preservation but many times not feeling will just cause damages to self and others if it’s emotional/social numbness. Physical numbness is dangerous because any external stresses and injuries go undetected and eventually we could die. Worst case scenario. Emotional it’d probably be very similar, but we could also injure others and be unaware to it. Or just… Not. Care. Which wouldn’t be very ideal.

The worst case examples of indifferences and numbness range from a few socially toxic, and some criminals.

While it may have initially bought time to feel nothing, it can lower awareness and increase the chances of hurting others and self in damaging ways. Prolonged damages and you can guess the outcomes.

So it’d unfortunately be better to feel everything. I say hesitatingly. But it’s probably true. This is possibly easier to manage, balance, or guard. Meanwhile emotions and things like it can hardly be taught to the unfeeling. They may get it on a different plane of understanding but never fully feel it as it is/may be.

Also lack of feeling from wear out is also difficult- in the sense it’s difficult to regain passion for something that has become boring and uninteresting.

Having emotions is like having tools. If you have the materials, you have stuff to work with and can… (here’s the word people won’t like) manipulate lol but manipulate via self and in a positive way. Can be cultivated.

If the tool box is empty and there’s no materials, it’s going to be a lot more challenging to obtain them, and make anything from nothing.

In short, emotions can be regulated, or appeased. Lack of emotions or absence of emotions is more difficult to overcome or work with. Something is always better than nothing.(in my opinion).

[Rosexøxø]

I could say more but I’m not sure if my points are well expressed in my opinion and I just hope it remains somewhat clear at least.

[Rosexøxø]

Also I can’t forget to add, when I said emotional numbness can lead to death, it may seem extreme, but it’s true. It’s not uncommon that a certain number of depressed people are suicidal and not only that, but there are others who engage in unhealthy and risky behaviors BECAUSE of the emotionally numb state. Substance abuse and quite literally abuse and taking things out on other people or animals. Self harm is also on the table for the people who are depressed / emotionally absent. If not self harm, they may simply NEGLECT self especially without proper hygiene and good habits. If good habits were not reality for the emotionally numb they will neglect themselves and those areas of neglect will receive deterioration and susceptibility to be exploited, yes, by nature and other humans. Parasites. Other negative people.

So emotional numbness can by all means injure others and/or self, with every level of extreme from “less severe,” to fatal. If there’s good habits and social practices kept in place I’d say only then would emotional numbness be tolerable and okay to coexist with. Otherwise I vote for the regulation of too many emotions or heightened emotions.

[Genie23]

I already feel too much at times , lol. Sometimes I feel like I'd rather feel numb but then I think that would cause problems with my relationship with people as I wouldn't be able to feel compassion and empathy anymore so I'd feel the distance. So, I feel maybe feeling numb is more damaging than feeling too much.

[Chazmatazz269]

You can’t really feel “nothing at all”. That’s just something people say about one of the stages of trauma response. It’s still quite painful, especially when time comes to work through it or let it k*ll you.
If i could feel nothing at all, i would do it in less than a heartbeat.
Feeling too much is torture in a world with too little empathy and even less love.

[Miristheiss]

Feeling?

There is a saying for men, "you can love your girl but don't be in love with her", meaning it is good to love your woman, if she is loyal and treats you with respect but don't be in love with her by making her your entire world and putting her on a pedestal, being a pushover and letting her lead the relationship.

[Rosexøxø]

That’s kind of sad, and what it implies. I don't know the whole thing just seems very sad.

[Miristheiss]

@Rosexøxø
Elaborate?

[Rosexøxø]

I don't know just seems like a cap on love and limitations on intimacy. We have boundaries with OTHER people and strangers. I feel like there shouldn’t be any boundaries in an intimate partnership. They should both care for each other I would guess more so sacrificial, but if it were confirmed to be unhealthy for the two, then I suppose sacrificial love isn’t the way. But at the same time it seems to lack vulnerability and INTIMACY lol transparency. It seems to have a guard up and it’s just weird to associate having a guard up in a relationship that’s supposed to be so distinguished and set apart than other relationships.

I mean, feel free to stick by what you said, I just personally have a difficult time grasping those words and it’s a bit disheartening if everyone shared this same thinking and lived according to it. I don't know just so saddening lol

Oh well, for now.. (in my pov lol).

[Miristheiss]

@Rosexøxø
I would say a lot of women say things they want or wish for but many don't really know what they respond to.
I don't women really respect a man if they know they can get away with anything. If he is s pushover and she can manipulate him and get her way, if he always cancels what he wants to accommodate her.
If, on the other hand, she knows her man will tell her no when she gets out of line, if she knows her man is strong and has core principals he lives by and that if she crosses the line he will just walk away in a heartbeat, if she knows he is strong and he has his life goals that he is following and she can trust in his leadership and vision. I believe most women really want that and that him being so fixated on her that she could get away with anything because he is afraid to lose her she'll really end up disgusted by him.

There is a difference in most cases between what women say they want but deep down really respond to.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah I understood all those points and those aren’t unheard of. It makes sense. I can respect that approach, but it still is disheartening. Even that coupled with the original claim seems depressing.

I’d also add there’s not only a difference in the person’s claims and their level of responsiveness (in this case the lady’s). But a difference also in individual to individual.

So some ladies may align and fit that description perfectly while others will not, and have their own categories, even amongst the other women who ALSO don’t fit such description. But if what you’re speaking of is individuality. That a man doesn’t LOSE himself for anyone, neither man, nor lady. I can respect it, but anything in relations to control, manipulation, indifference etc. I wouldn’t support.

I think (again, me personally), if men who uphold this logic or maybe even principle, were to be this way in a way that seems indifferent and/ or calloused to her needs, desires, and even should be HUMBLE/ or well intentioned suggestions, I would say that is in my pov and description- sad. lol

Cause overall I do think it could be better, but C’est la vie yk. And if men’s individuality and personalities are in question or on debate. I wouldn’t want to interfere with that. So let those who agree with this logic agree, and those who disagree, to disagree.

[petitedollbabee]

Feeling nothing at all is worse. Emotions make you human, without them you feel like a zombie. And after time you start to miss them and you become tired of the “nothing” ness. I have experienced both ends of the extreme and I would rather feel too much, because at least you can work on that and find ways to control it or tone it down.

[HawkPerception]

Feeling nothing at all is definitely worse. Going through life is to experience emotions. Happiness, sadness, excitement, anger, etc. Although some are negative, it's all about experiencing them. It's an empty life without experiencing emotions..

"It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Feeling nothing at all causes cravings you can never fulfill, which I believe is the worst of the two. Feeling too much can be handled with a series of emotional releases. Not fun, but much more manageable by comparison

[Simslover92]

Feeling nothing at all. Being numb to everything sucks. It's a depressing feeling.

[MemeSupreme]

feeling too much is but its short lived and usually leads to you feeling nothing at all bc of being overwhelmed lol

they kinda go hand in hand

[FreyaRed]

Feeling too much. Feelings bring a fog into mind.

[Shiprex]

Feeling nothing.

Why bother if there's nothing to stimulate or rewards are irrelevant?

[Anonymous]

I think it can be equally bad. Unless you're feeling too much of good feelings.

[seeyounexttuesday]

nothing at all. It would allow you to harm others without emotional consequence.

[Panthero80]

Being numb and feeling nothing is the worst.

[Anonymous]

That is my week. A mixture of both.

[Jerre]

Feeling nothing at all is worse for me

[Jerre]

@thegreenyogi Thank you for the Like

[Anonymous]

I feel nothing so definitely feeling too much