Why is it ok for a man to have been with 200 women, but a disgrace if a woman has been with 6?

[Anonymous]

Some unfair standards don't you think?

[aceleon]

no. i don't want to go to the old keys and locks thing.

it is all about winning against the odds

girls are the wanted gender so it is more of an accomplishment if they don't get it with.

guys are the less desired gender so if they are able to get a woman it is an accomplisment.

sorry for the symbolism but think about hunter and prey, a hunter who hunts most is the better hunter while the prey who manages to not get caught is the winner.

like i said, it is all about winning against the odds/the hand you were dealt with.

and any girl (or the pseudo feminist guy who says this to give the impretion of modernity to look good to girls) who says otherwise is covering up for their dirty laundries.

there is no such thing as not having double standarts life and nature itself is a big double standart, if the standarts were the same we would not be 2 gender since there would be no reason to have such thing.

[Miristheiss]

Is it ok for a guy to do that?

That is up to women to decide if he is desirable long term.

Men do not decide that... women do.

Also, you do not get to tell a man what his standards are. A women who has slept with 200 men? That is irredeemably disgusting. No way I would ever have considered her. Some weak simps will I guess.

I do not have to justify that to women. You cannot lecture us or shame us that we are obligated to go long term with promiscuous women if those are not our standards.

Women do not get to dictate what our relationship standards are.

Society told you being loose and promiscuous is empowering and there are no long term consequences? You can sleep around all through your 20s and then find some great guy to want you long term after you are done sleeping around and he will love with all his heart and cherish you?

Maybe. You are free to go that route.

Go for it.

[Anonymous]

The people saying that are men. As usual they’re hypocrites who love to blow up theirbown egos and imginary worth on the dating market while shaming women for anything. Women can’t do anything right if you ask those men. No matter what, it’s always her fault. Never a mans fault. A woman got married to her first ever partner who was great to her, lost her virginity to him on the wedding night, had kids and did everything loving her man and he cheated, abused her and it all ended in divorce because of it? It’s all her fault anyway and now she’s a disgusting used up single mom that nobody wants (according to them). She should have known better. There are lots of men like this and it’s like talking to a brick wall with them. It’s always womens fault, never the mans fault no matter what and that’s it - in their mind.

[AvaRay]

Double standards hv always been society’s laziest way to control women..

A man’s past is seen as experience, a woman’s as shame..

But the truth is, character isn’t measured by numbers, it’s reflected in how we treat others..

Respect, loyalty, n honesty don’t depend on gender but they depend on integrity..

The world still has a lot of unlearning to do..

[OlderAndWiser]

Not everyone thinks a high body count is a sign of a manly man.

[ohsheeT]

This is why you stay away from people and there drama it's no one's business on How many guys you have been with

And believe me f or the guy that has been with 200 girls. The only people that are saying it's ok. Are guys that have never been with a women

[BCRanger10]

I think it's wrong either way, and apparently, so do a lot of other people. Here's a question I asked on this very subject.

[DonaldDarko]

Women know if a child is there's by default. Men don't know if it's their child so they don't want a woman that sleeps around. Ultimately it's all about reproduction and passing on your genes. All the rest is just a way to dress it up and make it seem less crude and animalistic than it is.

[Anonymous]

THERE IS NO DOUBLE STANDARD BECAUSE IT DOESN'T EXIST

Where do people get this stupid idea society celebrates promiscuous men for their high body counts like it's some blatantly "obvious" double standard?

[Chazmatazz269]

Literally nobody has ever said that, clown.
I defy you to produce empirical evidence that proves that at any time in human history it was widely considered acceptable for men to f*ck HUNDREDS of women. Dumb*ss.

[LazerBean]

Most people today dont care if a woman had a bc of 6, and most people would think it a red flag for a guy to have a bc of 200.

[rtj1211]

I don't know what society you live in, but in the UK, no mainstream UK folks would say a woman having six sexual partners was 'a disgrace'.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Purity culture in a patriarchal society, that’s the long and the short of it

[slatyb]

A disgrace? Who says? Avoid those people. Why would you share your sex life with others?

[Jennz6]

The Bible says that King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines

[Friendlybro79]

It's only unfair if you care what other people think.

[genericname85]

because the thing that's more easy is always the one less respected.

[beefcakebradybatson]

A woman just has to spread her legs to get clubbed, but we men must get aroused to club a woman.

[dougeats]

Because most men are a bunch of misogynists and the world accepts this bs

[blackeagle007]

It’s easier for women to find sex partners than men

[msc545]

yes it's ok. Talk about reforming divorce so men don't get trashed and we can revisit this.

[Anonymous]

You should only be with me, as often as you want

No other guys:)

[FateofOphelia]

Just makes a woman look bad.

[Asker]

Why only the woman? The one with the many should not have the right to judge the one with the few.

[FateofOphelia]

I don't know, it seems there are more consequences for a woman

[BarryLiverstone]

Who came up with those standards?

[Asker]

Men. I have not heard a single woman say "if he's not a virgin then he's second hand goods" nope. But many have said that they won't be with a woman that isn't a virgin. I just ignore it. But it still now and then makes me think about it. I literally have an ex that was upset when he found out I'm not a virgin.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’d say ignorant men then…. It’s weird to devalue a woman if she’s not a virgin. Life isn’t about the past, it’s the current day and into the future.

[Asker]

Thank you. I like your view point.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. I just asked because I’ve heard this nonsense on podcasts and it just seems to be directed towards the girls and to shame them. I don’t understand why guys do that

[BarryLiverstone]

When did your ex find out?

[Asker]

The guy with the 200 count I never entered into a relationship.
He found out two years into the relationship. But he NEVER asked me beforehand. So we never discussed it. I think what triggered the conversation was something we watched on TV and he mentioned that he could not be with a woman who has been with other men. My response was "You know I was not a virgin when we met right?" And then the shaming started.

[BarryLiverstone]

I’m surprised it took him 2 years to find out. And ya. The shaming is soo toxic. Did you recover?

[Asker]

I'm fine. Water off a duck's back. LoL

[BarryLiverstone]

Good attitude. lol I’m sure your back is better than a ducks. Quack lol

[BarryLiverstone]

But if it helps, I’ve gotten some flack for my BC. So it’s not just shaming the girls

[loveslongnails]

Who says 6 is a disgrace? Mary Poppins?

[shortster]

If I man is with 200 women that makes him a cad.

[Asker]

Cad?

[shortster]

It is the male version of the word slut

[noohair]

Yes, but life is not fair...

[Anonymous]

Only in your twisted mind.

[Kingofkings1992]

That’s a load of crap