Do people take advantage of nice people, no matter their status?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I feel like... when someone treats me badly it makes me feel like they think lowly of me.

But I'm not sure if I'm confusing the issue. With regards to it's not a status thing but more of a someone taking advantage of a nice person thing.

[MrOracle]

People who take advantage of people will take advantage of anyone they can, but, yes, if you are nice (to the point of being gullible), it is easier for such people to take advantage of you. It makes you "low-hanging fruit." But those people will take advantage of mean, awful people too, if they can get away with it. They tend to be "equal opportunity" exploiters.

I would say a majority of people (though, to be fair, this may be influenced a lot on exactly where you live) do not normally take advantage of people, nice or otherwise, but there are plenty who will. Here's the problem: a lot of people seem to think you can ONLY be nice or you can ONLY be mean - that you must be on one far extreme or the other far extreme. That's no way to live, either way. Happiness and fulfillment is found in the middle ground.

You try to be nice to everyone, but you remain cautious around new people until they have proven themselves over time. Some people will almost instantly let you know that you can't be overly nice to them, or they'll just take advantage of you. Others will do their best to hide their evil intentions, and so you must be cautious, extend your nicety slowly, and pay close attention to their behavior, especially when they think you aren't paying attention. You must "assume the best but expect the worst" - which sounds contradictory to some people, but you CAN do both at the same time - and you should, at least until someone has EARNED your full trust over time.

[Theunfadeable]

Many people do take advantage of nice people. I know this myself because I used to be kind to faultand it got to the point where I really had to start being more aware and selective as to went to be kind and who to be kind to Because there are people who target nice people for exploitation. It’s good to be nice, but proverbs says” Do not ccast your pearls before swine and Do not give what is holy to the dogs lest they turn on you and tear you to shreds” it’s good to be nice, but you have to establish strict boundaries and you Have to become very comfortable telling people no!

[FreyaRed]

When someone treats you badly they want to be treated the same way
In regard to your main question. You can be nice and kind without being exploited but, you should never lose situational awareness

[goaded]

Yes! The corollary to the Golden Rule.

Honestly, they don't want to be treated the same way, but they deserve it.

[Omegagemo45]

I would have to say yes I've been taken advantage of multiple times even when I told them my boundaries they still did it. A partt of me always wanted to get revenge o. Them but if I did I wouldn't be the person I. Still am of course I trust people less now but I still keep a open mind when I do find those few people

[ThaCuriousGuy007]

yeah scammers are a perfect example of that, plus they're also the scum of the earth and need to get a life. But they do take advantage of nice people and the vulnerable for sure

[jahaims]

No, people take advantage of people without healthy boundaries. You can be nice and still have boundaries.

[Asker]

But aren't they more likely to feel scared fi the person has status?

Or is it that if they sense status or not the person is not going to say anything they think they can push more

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

They don't take advantage of nice people, they take advantage of naïve people.

[MrChinaski]

Keep being nice. Find the right people to be around.

[Tomislav7]

Not nice, weak. Nice people are assertive and have boundaries, weak people get abused because theyre unable to handle situations

[Iron_Man]

Some people take advantage of people that are nice that has happened many times

[Anonymous]

It's a reflection of them not of you... someone I deeply love told me that a few times

[Opinion Owner]

Let me ask you two things:
1. Why should lions/lionesses care about the opinion of sheep
2. Why would you let someone take advantage of you and make you feel bad about yourself?
Listen someone I love said Don't let anyone tear you down or drag you down and don't let anyone disrespect you in your house

[thegreenyogi]

Of course they do. I know from experience.

[Staximus]

You must beware of manipulators

[Kelley1]

Of course they do.

[KostasKouvalis]

. yes.

[Anonymous]

Yeah hundred percent.