Why do women’s expectations in relationships seem so contradictory to men?

[emreklas99]

Why are men's expectations very clear in relationships, while women's expectations are vague and variable? What men want in a relationship is clear; food, coquetry, house care are all that, but women's expectations are both unclear and ambiguous. In a relationship, if you write too much to a woman, she will call her a needy man, if you write too much, she will say she doesn't care. If you reply to the message immediately, she will say she is a weak man. If you reply later, she will say she won't care. If a man shows his interest in a woman immediately, the woman calls him hasty. If a man does not show his interest in a woman completely, the woman calls him a coward. In Russia, women complain that men are not interested in us; in Turkey, women complain that men are too interested in us. If a man buys flowers for his wife, he will be henpecked, but if he doesn't, he will be a firebrand. If a man reveals his feelings, he becomes a weak man; if he does not, he becomes a wooden man. I'm sorry women, but it's not clear what you want. Let us know that you can say whatever you want thoroughly. We men do not have the ability to telepathy. What do you think?

[NathanDavis]

I never had any issue like that or with none of that... so maybe you should rephrase your question to "why the women I've been with seem so contradictory with my own expectations, and what has been YOUR experience as a man?"

for example...

I never had a "text based" relationship... we would talk in person, face to face... and also at a fairly conversational pace, lmao... no delays, no long pauses, not talking over the other...

so you're probably talking about online app dates... and not exactly a relationship

[slatyb]

"What men want in a relationship is clear; food, coquetry, house care are all that"

Women did that because they had no choice. Now they have their own careers, and they don't enjoy house work any more than men do. So men can want that, but not very many women are willing to live like that.

[DryGermanGuy]

Let me guess, you have never been in a relationship and you think some silly online blabla counts as actual experiences?

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Based on your description of people, we haven't met, on average, the same women nor the same men. So we seem to live in very different places, living a very different life, I guess it's a vast world lol

[msc545]

Women change their minds all the time. It's just difficult, and in some cases impossible, to keep up with them they want and don't want, and like and don't like.

[Pterodon]

Their mind changing on things so quickly and hastily blows my mind

[Anonymous]

Everyone has their standards and no two people's are the same.

[Nuclear_Warhead]

There are women who aren't happy no matter what. So are there men like that. I can sometimes see myself having been like that.