Is it considered cheating to go to a club and dance with members of the opposite gender?

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Is it considered cheating to go to a club and dance with members of the opposite gender?

You would not make out with them/take them home.

The question is just on the morality of dancing with an individual who is not your significant other.

Would you consider it cheating?

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

I think it's the type of dancing, and the type of clothes you're wearing in order to get a certain response from men, and what you do or don't do after that makes it cheating. I think any kiss more "intimate" than a kiss on the cheek with a friend might be cheating. But freak dancing, even if it's "just with friends" is a bit weird. It may not necessarily be cheating, but it probably ain't right in your gut.

I think slow dancing VERY closely looks suspect. Freak dancing... probably not the best idea.

I had a friend who went to the club (with me and a few others) and insisted I hide her engagement ring (I refused; Hey, I didn't want to be in charge of losing an expensive ring). She had someone else hide it. Later, she started "freak dancing" with me. It was incredibly awkward, because I knew her Fiance, and it was pretty close for our type of friendship. She was almost "humping" my leg. I just walked off.

EnergyAZ · Accepted Answer

I don't think I have been in a night club where the typical dancing did not include dudes dry humping chicks who are acting like tramps.

Last club I went to, chick was blowing a guy right on the dance floor. And it was only a Thursday night - not even midnight.

Maybe its different in your town, but the Phoenix area...if my lady said she was going out clubbing in Scottsdale and wanted me to stay home (girls night out or whatever) I would probably start looking for a new girl.

Once upon a time I would have said otherwise - but that was then, this is now. I wouldn't be too comfortable with it knowing what goes on in the typical club on a typical night,.

LittleMonster_13 · Accepted Answer

Damn I clicked the wrong button, was going to vote B

Anyway, it's not cheating if you're just casually dancing with a guy and you keep the 2 feet rule. And NO GRINDING. But I think it would be considered cheating if there's some sort of tension/chemistry between you and the guy you're dancing with. I once had a clubbing 'friend', he had a girlfriend but he never take his girlfriend out clubbing, he dances and gets too close to other girls including me. He claimed he's not cheating but from the looks of it, I don't think his girlfriend would've liked that. I tried keeping a distance but the chemistry was just too strong.

You have to be careful cause most of the times when a guy approached you and asks to dance with you he is most likely interested in you.

curiousandshy · Accepted Answer

it depends how you think of it as and how your boyfriend thinks of it. I have a friend that deliberately flirts with other guys in front of her boyfriend. I don't know why, and it really irks me how rude she is while her boyfriend just sadly watches. she obviously doesn't think she's cheating, but her boyfriend is hurt and so I would consider it cheating to a degree. if your boyfriend  is okay with you dancing with guys you don't know, and if you don't consider it to be that way either, then it's no big deal.

samhradh_leannan · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's reasonable to consider dancing to be cheating- that's a little extreme. But that doesn't mean that anything that isn't considered cheating is always 100% okay. You can do something that is inappropriate or inconsiderate to your partner without it being cheating. And letting other guys hump you on the dance floor is probably one of those things.

emptypackofsmokes · Answer

If the dude starts grinding and you don't disengage because you're having fun, then yes, that's cheating.

If the dude is just dancing with you, chats you up & is just having a good time. No, that's not cheating.

Whenever I'm @ a club w/o my girl, I act like I would if she was there with me. There's no way in hell I'd dance with another girl in a suggestive manner if she was around. I think that this is a good general rule for both men & women while clubbing. No grinding while you're in a relationship!

OpenClose · Answer

My definition of cheating is this:

Cheating is when you give someone else the kind of attention you don't give, or only give, to your partner.

So flirting isn't necessarily cheating, so long as your flirting is still mostly with your partner. Same goes for dancing at a club, I suppose.

But if you were to go bumping and grinding with a bunch of guys at a club, but barely make physical contact with or sexually push away your boyfriend, you are definitely cheating.

If you're sleeping with your boyfriend, casual flirting probably isn't too bad. But if you only hang out now and again and go on a few dates, then flirting with other guys is definitely cheating.

The point of the relationship is that they are the ones you give most of your sexual attention to. If you are giving more sexual attention to someone else, you're basically cheating.

Therefore, I didn't answer, because it's relative to how you treat your boyfriend.

parkway · Answer

No. Under a boyfriend girlfriend situation definitely not there is no legal binder. The though of wanting to go dancing is the same as doing it. Everything is where the mind is at.

In a marriage, no it is assumed the wife would do nothing to dishonor the union.

Cheating is where the mind is at and not necessarily with a completed act. If a person lust after a person then they have cheated.

People are going to do what they want to do and nothing will stop them if they want to do it. We have a freedom of choice.

The question is, what woman would let a man grind on her on the dance floor?

Anonymous · Answer

For me, it would depend on how you're dancing. Just dancing, no I wouldn't consider it cheating. But if they're dancing like MOST people dance these days, bumping and grinding (haha), I'd definitely consider that cheating because it's basically sex with clothes on.

martyfellow · Answer

Naturally some people would consider even GOING to a pick up scene cheating, but it's really 'just' dancing and not a lot of body contact (ahem), most would think it is ok..though I would wonder why you would choose this sort of  place to 'recreate' if you have a significant other...

MissConfused93 · Answer

Nope! I hate dancing but I still do occasionally and I chat with guys and let them buy me drinks but it's never gone past that. At the end of the day you're going home to your significant other. So no, merely being  there and dancing isn't enough to call it cheating. But I do think you should discuss what you think is acceptable behavior in that situation.

Peter0 · Answer

Lots of people have said "depends on the dancing," but really, it depends on you and your boyfriend.

If you're okay with flirting that borders on heavy petting, then it's not cheating. If you don't like that, consider a less tactile dance than blues. Or techno, whatever.

DoctorKillJoy · Answer

i was watching this show, and this guy called his girlfriend and asked if he could f*** this girl from the club...starts off as a harmless dance and turns into a drunk hot mess! bye bye girlfriend hello disease. lol no but dancing leads to other things especially when your drunk and having some someone grind their junk against you.

Bluegameroyon · Answer

Depends:

1) Are they homosexual?

2) Do you think they will be or they are attracted to you?

3) Are you loyal enough to not give in to lust and control your will to stick with your partner?

4) Is your partner OK with it?

Maybe I missed some, but nonetheless I would not dance with the opposite sex because my partner would be more than enough for me!

I'll stay loyal to her! =) Still, to me, dancing with the opposite sex when you already have a partner is "semi-cheating" lol.

jmowen · Answer

Cheating? Not really unless it's blatantly obviously there's chemistry between the two. If I was with her, I'd let her dance but as soon as they too comfortable, it's done. However, I would be pretty worried if she was going with her girlfriends and without me. Girls (or guys for that matter) can make some bad decisions when they're drunk. What could start off as a simple dance could turn into the guy taking advantage of her and start making out or take her somewhere.

AltoonaYourPiano · Answer

Depends on the kind of dancing. Grind dancing, yes, it's cheating. Slow dancing, possibly, depends on if there's romantic feelings or if he's just like a brother. Fun dancing, the kind with little to no contact, not cheating at all. The only thing that would be a deal breaker is if she dances with other guys yet makes a big fuss if I dance with another girl.

JamielovesKU · Answer

No, because you are only dancing with him, now if you danced with him and started grinding and kissing on him and he bought you a few drinks and then after did things with him then that would be cheating, but if you're only Dancing, I woulnt consider that cheating,

gonyr · Answer

Depends how you dance and stuff. If its just I. A group and you happen to dance or hangout near each other an whatever. If my girlfriend started grinding her ass on another dude I'm gonna be pissed. Yes that is cheating

Phoenix1991 · Answer

No for the most part, but dirty dancing or grinding can be.

sluggofacepoojohnson · Answer

As long as any random peckers don't accidentally fall out and accidentally slip into any orifices you have

zachg · Answer

Depends on the dance really, nowadays a dance could be one zip away from penetration.

TheoryOfAvarice · Answer

I don't really think it's cheating, depends on the kind of dancing I guess, but I wouldn't want to dance with random guys anyways if I already have a boyfriend.

normalice · Answer

What is or is not cheating is subjective - it is defined as a couple. if you wouldn't want your boyfriend doing it, it's cheating. If you are indifferent, it is not cheating. That's the rule.

talloak · Answer

I don't consider it cheating if you were completely honest about it with your SO and refrained from doing it if they felt threatened by it. If done in secret, this begs the question of what are you hiding.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Hard to say, something you should talk about with the guy. I'd personally not want her to if I was dating a girl that liked to go dancing often and if she did behind my back, ya, that's kinda cheating (though not as serious as it can get).

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