Male wrestler refuses to compete against FEMALE wrestler. Was this an act of chivalry or CHAUVINISM?
Personal choice, I applaud him for standing by his religious convictions.
This is chivalry. Convictions aside, wrestling between men and women is actually quite unfair, physically to the women and mentally to the men.
1. Wrestling uses holds and grips to drive your opponent into submission. Along the process, you have to find your way to seal your opponent's movement and it's not uncommon to find your hands touching places which are rather risque. It's not just once or twice that you might accidentally touch your opponent's groin or chest by mistake.
2. A woman's muscle density will never rival a man's if they belong to the same class. In wrestling, weight plays major factor in determining one's advantage over the opponent, more so than height or arm reach. Once the female wrestle is seized, it will be difficult for her to escape while the male wrestle only need to exert less effort to do the same.
3. Whether he agrees to fight or not, he will still be branded as a chauvinist. If he agreed and he fought, some people will call him a sleazy person for trying to touch a woman's body under the pretext of sportsmanship. Unlike defaulting the match, he will suffer socially and we all know people are more stressed due to social reasons than professional reasons.
Chivalry. It does not matter how trained and strong a woman is. The female build is still by nature less psychically capable and enduring in comparison to the male on. An experienced and ripped male could do serious injury to in the heat of the moment.
It's good that there are still gentlemen.
She volunteered to get hurt. It’s not his job to look out for her wellbeing. If she wants to do something, even if she gets hurt, that’s her choice. Obviously whether or not he wants to fight is his choice, but that doesn’t make him a “gentleman” if he thinks some girl is too stupid to take care of herself. That’s called chauvinism.
@lonelyoyster No. I profoundly disagree. Him not desiring to do harm to a woman is being a gentleman. The woman insisting on doing something risky is merely her being stubborn and conceited.
You say the woman insisting on doing something risky is merely her being stubborn and conceited. With that said anyone who has eatrn anything, taken a shower, got in a motorized vehicle, climbed a ladder etc can possibly get hurt so they are stubborn and conceited. With food you could choke on it with taking a shower you could slip and fall, with motorized vehicles you could get into an accident, with a ladder you could fall off it
@MysteriousDarkness That's a hugely false equivalence to make. The odds of slipping in the shower are astronomical compared to wrestling a muscled experienced man as a woman. You're grasping for straws.
I remember being in college, a long time ago, and taking Taekwondo. Mixed gender, PE class. We did 'light' sparring, meaning you 'touch' or 'tap' rather than full-on punches and kicks with pads on.
There was this great lady in the class and we started talking because she said I look like her big brother. We were pretty good friends. The first time we did the sparring, she got paired with a football player about a foot taller, and more than double her weight. I was afraid for her, as she was my friend, and kept trying to watch, feeling a little protective, maybe. She was holding her own, and blocking, and avoiding well, and I got distracted with my own opponent, then suddenly there was a loud THUD! She had taken him down, accidentally, of course, because take-downs weren't allowed. Once we knew he was fine, several laughed.
She was really good, and fast, because of her size and often got in close, being small, and several of the 'big guys' tripped themselves up and fell. It became a joke, until none of the guys would spare with her!
We never got paired in the class, but sometimes practiced together, and I am a bigger guy, but watched her moves, and knew her 'tells' and wasn't over-confident like the others. Good fun!
I don't know why so many, today, underestimate so many women in sports, and things! Some have proven to be even better than men in many cases! Maybe this guy knew her, and was afraid she would take him, and he might be embarrassed?
I personally was raised not to touch women in inappropriate manners without their consent.
I'm religious, but I was taught manners.
It's nothing to do with feet's of gender strengths.
It has to do with boy, that chooses not to violate young ladies private spaces.
I don't see anything wrong with him, refusing.
Care and compassion are not chauvanist mentalities.
Bastardizing and over juding every thing has gotten out of control.
After all I saw an article about high school women are fighting to keep transgenders out of women track and field.
So one can not pick and choose when equality activates.
Equality is on fully or not.
This is not an restaurant menu, this is life.
Wakie wakie !
In closing, if she beats him, great,
Some women will laugh and be catty as society has seen.
Some will be compassionate and cheer for both people.
Some men will rag him and some will be kind.
If he beats her, boo , meanie.
Theirs no happy medium.
So chill, handle things respectfully, with out beating gender war drums.
Why does religion always have to be involved... Why can't a fucking non religious person be in these stories. It's bullshit.
I hats religion but I hate forcing all this gender diversity shit too. If I don't want to wrestle a girl, I'm not gonna. You can't make me. If you have a problem with that, fuck you. You are entitled to your opinion but that's it. An opinion. It does not make you right or better than me.
I used to box in middle and high school. In the summer between 9th and 10th grade this girl (we'll call her Stephanie) wanted to have a mock match with me. I knew her well. She was skilled and she was nice. But she was not going to last a minute with me. At this point I had secured 9 wins and had only 1 loss. 7 of them were knock out victories and 6 were first round victories. I refused to box her and she got mad told my coach and he laughed at her. He said and I qoute, "Rex I called the prehistoric predator for a reason. He hunts and he is good at it. Getting in the ring with you would require him to wear kid gloves. If you want to spar, that's fine, but an actual bout? Good luck getting up."
She never spoke to any of us after that and quit.
Just punch her in the tits. Just kidding.
I’ve sparred Must Thai with girls before and I always go about 50 percent. But one did dirty one time and did a spinning back to my liver. Those weren’t allowed in sparring but since she was a girl it was “okay” to do that to a guy.
After that I wasn’t so much a gentlemen and hit her much harder.
@SirRexington I can understand your point about that girl that was clearly not as good as you. Fact is men are naturally stronger than women. That being said, this is a different scenario. This girl earned her way into this tournament by beating other boys. She wasn't placed in there to show some sort of girl power.
Earning something which this girl did is different than feeling entitled to something which Stephanie did.
"It gets violent at times and you get put in compromising holds and positions and I just don't feel it's right that a boy should engage a girl in a manner like this."
Let me say, I have a ton of respect for this kid. He didn't believe it was RIGHT, and was willing to give up something he worked hard for in order to stick to those beliefs. If he'd somehow gained something from this then perhaps I'd be able to call this chauvinism, but he was completely self-sacrificial in what he did and it ended up benefitting the girl. I don't think you can rightly call that chauvinism. You can disagree with his values but that is all.
It was just common sense. He is a male, he has almost 60% greater upper body strength, 50% greater lower body strength, 25% thicker skin, substantially denser bones, greater pain tolerance etc. etc. If he screwed up and didn't put on the kid gloves (which would have made it an unfair match to begin with and given the wrong impression i. e. that women can compete against men in this type of sport) he could potentially have killed her. For example their was a female MMA fighter up against a transgender MMA fighter (who because of the hormone therapy was physically weaker then when she was a male) and she, the transgender fighter, fractured the woman's skull in a single hit. I believe it took only two strikes to bring the woman down and she had to be rushed to the hospital. Women are not men, they cannot stand up to men physically, this is not chauvinism, this is not chivalry, this is biological reality.
In MMA you get to punch, elbow, knee and kick
your opponent and you also have arm bars and rear naked choke where as in high school wrestling you do not.
@MysteriousDarkness I wrestled in highschool, I'm fully aware of what you are allowed to do and what your not allowed to do. The point I was making is that pretending like their isn't a difference between men and women is idiotically stupid as even just a glance we can see a substantial difference, and that to do so in a physical sport is asking for the woman to be severly injured. Male wrestlers can get severely injured and they are far better built to handle the forces applied to them then women are. Again, this is a simple fact of biology, suggesting otherwise is just stupidity bordering on delusional.
I wrestled in high school also and there were women that wresyled for my school and other schools some were quite good technically and were strong. Should they have not been given the chance to wrestle because of not enough women over all wanting to wrestle let alone in any one school?
@MysteriousDarkness So your going to make believe that men and women are the same then? Males have larger and denser bones then women, they have nearly 60% greater upper body strength and nearly 50% greater lower body strength compared to women. They have 25% thicker skin, substantially greater muscle mass and density making them far more resilient to physical trauma as well as being far more capable of creating physical trauma. So you trying to make believe that they are the same and we should make believe that they are the same is idiotically stupid (this is why the "trans" athletes are destroying women in female sports, even on hormones that weaken them they are substantially stronger then biological women). Should they be able to play? Well here is the question, should a male be forced to compete against a woman if he knows that he could quite literally kill her with his bare hands if he doesn't hold back? The answer is no, he has every right o call out this absurd desire to ignore biological sex differences. Why you think that it would be okay for a woman to be completely destroyed by a man or for a man to make believe he is weaker then her so he doesn't hurt her (because these are the only two options), I cannot understand.
In reality it's a no win situation for a guy to compete against a woman.
"You don't want to fight her? What are you, scared that she'll beat you? Pussy."
"You want to fight a woman? Can't compete against men so you go against women who are weaker? Pussy."
"You won fighting a woman? What did you expect? Why even fight against her, you should be a man and fight other men. Pussy"
"YOU LOST AGAINST A WOMAN? Pathetic pussy."
And let's not forget if the guy accidentally touches the woman's breast or butt or whatever in the match, which can happen and have nothing to do with him trying to do that. He's then a perv or what if he get's a boner in the match and didn't meant to, as that can happen on its own too. especially for a young teenage or college aged boy.
Definitely sexist, but i dont really blame the guy. He's doing what his parents told him, for the reasons they told him to do it. He cheated someone who worked really fucking hard to get to a championship out of a legitimate chance to win. If i were that girl id rather get my ass kicked by a guy who was better than me then be handed a trophy i didn't earn. Some one who REALLY respected women would respect her competitive spirit and treat her like any other opponent.
Fuck that guys parents and whatever stupid religion he's a part of.
@Blightly you think a wrestling match wouod have "hurt" her? You idiot she's been wrestling for years, thats what she had been training for!
I agree that good men dont hurt women, so listen and understand what REALLY hurts is being told you're too inferior to compete, to have someone take away your chance to earn something great and prove yourself just because of an extra hole in your crotch! Thats hurtful.
I am curious about your apparent ability to offer insight into the obscure realm of alternate realities. I find it interesting that you believe yourself to be able to state how he would have been treated and viewed if something that did not occur had occurred. Please think before you speak.
why don't you think before you speak. You have no clue what the hell you're talking about yet you're gonna act like some high and mighty know it all. Dumb fkn child, get outta your pristine world of rainbows and unicorns, people aren't invincible and just because "I have years of experience" doesn't mean a wrong twist, flex, or supporting too much weight won't cause your body to break down because you've exceeded its limit.
@Gavyn If I'm replying to the original commenter, then it does not have a @Username at the beginning of the post. I'm sure I do sound arrogant, but you should read the reply by @Sacrilege_is_hawt to which I was replying. I was making a point.
Why would a boy wrestler a girl and vice versa? I mean of course there are ladies who CAN beat guys but for what reason? I also understand taking things to the next level and being the best at what one can do but if a guy won or REALLY beat her, it would save a lot of hate and male dominant debate. Of course women and men should be able to compete but only against things like running, swimming, bowling, etc. but wrestling and fighting and boxing MA, hell no, NEVER
However, again, I can also understand why this would be considered sexist, unfair, chivalry or chauvinism. The lady wanted to compete and got a pity win, who wants that? The guy didn't want to hit a girl. It's all just complicated and the world just sucks period
Haha this is freaking funny, why? Cause no matter what he did it would be wrong !! Cause if he fought her and won
. It's cause he was a male if he fought and lost he would be laughed at cause he was beat up by a girl.. you know high school drama that always follows you cause people can't grow up and leave that crap behind. So he does the next best thing. Sorry I can't fight you ! So she gets pissed 😡 and now all others are questioning his resolve to fight her hahah.. it's disgusting how people will jump at anything that people. Do.. my guess is let's start reporting the reporters? Let's see how they like there lives there mistakes and there everything up there to the public and let them explain. Why they said no why they said yes and why they even went home when they did...
Neither it's just his personal/religious convictions and there's nothing wrong with that.
And to be completely honest it's a unfair match up for the girl anyway, she can't and wouldn't be able to match his strength and endurance.
And for the guy it's a no win situation for him because if he did fight her and won then the media would destroy him and his reputation saying he's a sexist and chauvinist and the media and their never ending tide of followers would follow and attack him wherever he went like they do to everyone.
And if he lost then he'd be made fun of and laughed at for losing to a girl in a sport where he has every advantage.
He did the right thing by taking himself out of it altogether.
Men and women shouldn't compete against one another it never ends well men have a biological and genetic advantage over women when it comes to the physical and we are just superior when it comes to that.
I think he has that right to do what he did ,, we are tought from day one do not hit girls ,, so that is in his head next it i dont know what happens to you when ur rolling around on the floor with some dude. ,, but if rolling around on the floor with some girl and im pushing pulling he in to me they way he might have to do to beat her im afraid i would stand up and rheres going to be something new in my shorts standing up to with guys he's ready to go to war. In his off time he's a teen that likes girls and want to roll aroundvwith them for different reasons
I don't think any one should be forced to do something they don't want to do and I don't think we should judge people for not doing something because it make them uncomfortable. I can understand why he wouldn't want to wrestle a girl and I think we should respect that.
As for is the this is chivalry or chauvinism, I don't think its ether. I don't know if he could win in a mach against a girl wrestler. I understand that men are stronger and larger on average, but don, t they have weight classes to fix the problem of unequal weight and muscle.
He has every right to refuse to fight an opponent based on their gender, especially if it's due to his religious beliefs. Who knows, he could have grew up in a home where he saw his father beat his mother. And that's had a lasting affect on him. If a man isn't comfortable wrestling or punching a woman, and he refuses fight her... that's his prerogative.
My husband does MMA and boxing, and I know for a fact he'd never fight a female fighter, because of his personal views. He's broken guys arms , ribs and legs during a fight. And I know he wouldn't feel comfortable doing that to a woman.
No one has a right to accuse someone of being a coward, sexist, chauvinist etc etc just because it doesn't fit in with societies changing ways.
That guy would be crazy to give in to pressure from society to fight a female if he's against it for personal reasons. I'd never give in to bulling tactics by society. Labelling him a chauvinist or whatever is a bullying tactic.
I used to play in a mixed rugby team back in year 11. At the start of the year we had eleven girls and ten lads. At the end we had one girl and 10 lads because the girls got the crap beaten out of them - without us actually trying to hurt them. Basic tackles would nearly snap them in half, defensive shoves would break noses and even blocking play would see them falling over. We had three broken ribs by the end of the first term, with massively more injuries sustained per game - or even training session - than the gender specific teams.
When I was doing judo we had a karate school come over and do some training with us. The karate girls were used to the blokes not hitting them during training and when they did mixed martial arts matches with us, they got picked up and dumped on their arses so hard that they were in tears.
Its unfair. Its the unrelenting grind of biology, but the fat is that unless you are taking drugs, or really exceptional, women just can't fight men.
He is to be commended for his restraint and his respect for females. He will make a fine husband some day. It's too bad that the short-sighted people RUNNING the event cost him a chance at a title. But Joel put his values above a trophy, and for that he is to be congratulated.
As far as the topic of "inter-sex--wrestling", those running the event should have woman compete with women and men compete with men. No questions. Period. End of story. Those running the event have created the lose-lose-lose situation, not the male competitor.
A DNA test to determine the birth sex might be needed to prove the sex of some, but that should be the gold standard for matching the wrestlers.
The fact that this sparked a national debate is a huge red flag for the nation. Since when is a man refusing to put his hands on a woman a problem?
Please tell me how the actual fuck anything of what he did was chauvinistic. Sounds like to me people are just trying to vilify men more than they have already. People seriously need to fuck off with shit like this. This kid should not have to be the center of this kind of attention.
This just really pissed me off. If this does not make it evident what kind of shit men need to go through in modern times with women, then I do not know what will. But it needs to fucking stop.
I can bet that if a female wrestler refused to fight a male, then no one would think twice about it. If anything the man will again be vilified for being okay with fighting her.
So again, how the fuck is this a debate?
Since when do male and female wrestlers compete together? In most combat sports there is separation by both gender and weight class. I must've missed the memo on this one. That said, I think he's entitled to retain the right to veto on whom he will fight on the mats.
I liked his mention of getting in a compromising position with a girl. What guy wants to be gripping some young woman's vagina in a hold? I feel him there. I don't even get why they allowed this girl in. There should be girls' wrestling. Once again, this goes too far.
He's trying to avoid a PR nightmare. He looks bad no matter what happens. Simply getting challenged by a woman ruins your rep. You refuse to go against her, bad rep. You go against her and lose, bad rep. You go against her and win, bad rep. It's a lose/lose/lose situation, refusing to fight is usually the least taxing thing though. Since it never happened, there isn't much you can sayq
Chivalry? Are you kidding me? Fuck chivalry. Be nice to everyone or be nice to no one. That bullshits always pissed me off. And no, that’s complete chauvinism. If girls wanna fight let them fight and if you’re some kind of scumbag that thinks your interests and career should be regulated by something as insignificant as gender don’t hide your sexist ass behind a mask of moral superiority.
It’s sad that high schools are brainwashing you kids with this thought process
@westwordbound Yeah, she’s been brainwashed with the completely false ideas of
1. Both genders are entirely identical in physique, and
2. Anyone who disagrees is sexist.
She has no clue how much he would have kicked her ass in a fight just because he’s a dude. I don’t exercise at all and I can overpower every woman I’ve come across. Hell, I’ve overpowered a girl twice my weight. Dudes are just stronger, and that’s the reality of it.
@Gavyn yep. Glad you are seeing this crap young. These kids didn’t spontaneously think this way on their own. It’s this liberal brainwashing crap. It’s been going on for a while too, even back in ancient history they were pushing this crap at my HS. My AP English teacher had us read not one, not two but THREE feminist novels my senior year.
@westwordbound Oof, that’s a lot. Yeah, no, I’m not a fan of liberal brainwashing. It’s been going on for longer than we think too. Ever heard “It’s ok to be different,” or “You don’t have to change! Just be yourself! You’re amazing just the way you are!” in a kids show? Yeah, it seems innocent until you realize that it sounds like they’re pushing for the LGBT community 0.0
Have you ever done any contact sport?
I’m not the most ripped guy in the world but i still merc women in my mma class that are more trained and bigger than me with ease.
If you like seeing people get flattened with just a punchers chance of winning than that’s on you.
How well do you think Rousey would do against let’s say Stipe? Or Adesanya since they are in the same weight class?
@westwordbound because men are women and women are men...
Those social studies professors are the ones to blame.
@ErikKantor I’ve had 11 mma fights. Retired now, but it was fun. Brown belt in BJJ.
I’ve trained with girls and most are cool. But they will always be at huge disadvantage to guys because of simple biology. It’s just not strength either, but agility speed and reflexes.
I remember joe Rohan saying something really stupid that Rhonda Rousey could beat half the guys in the UFC in her own weight class. Bullshit. Maybe a 1 out 100 chance should could arm bar a guy if he’s having a bad night. But a 99% chance she would get knocked out.
That’s not sexist just the truth. She’s an amazing athletic woman and was smart to market herself. But she’s not overpowering any guy in the UFC.
@westwordbound the weird thing about all this is that it’s only the last few years that people seem to forget biology, or way to few of these commentators have actually done any contact sport.
I’ve experienced that women can do pretty good agains guys in BJJ because of the rule system. (No slams)
But as soon as we had mma rules it doesn’t matter how good her guard or technique is just sprawl out and lift her up, or start dropping body weight on her.
It’s just not right to put male vs female in combat sports. It’s a morbid fun entertainment tho.
@ErikKantor well you should watch the documentary “eighth place”. It’s about a female track runner who didn’t place at state (which would of helped her with a college scholarship) because two “trans” women sprinters competed. Both these cheating douchebags took 1st and 2nd at state of course. But they “identify” as women so it’s okay.
It’s funny how feminism, lgbt, etc are all supposed to be “intersectional” and on the same side. But now they are destroying themselves within.
Oh did I forget to mention Fallon fox?
Anyway I hate to bring in politics buts it’s nearly impossible considering how far this bullshit has gone. The good news is it’s all “intersectionaly” destructive.
@westwordbound hahaha, this is just hilarious.
I’ve seen both the documentary and i know about Fallon Fox, she was pretty well mentioned on the joe rogan podcast and by bill burr at some point i believe.
And I don’t mind talking politics as long as all parties states their point with some basis in reality and not just “because that’s how i feel 😭”
I’m pretty sure we share many views on today’s society.
What do you think about Crowder, Milo, Gavin, PJW, Hoff summers and the rest of the “gang”? ;$
@ErikKantor my favorite by far is Ben Shapiro. He is just kicking their asses with hard facts. I highly recommend his podcast. The guy is genius smart, fast talking and fast thinking. He doesn’t take any shit BUT knows where the line is.
I did like Milo when he first came out. But he’s just gotten so wacko. He was about being a provocateur but that was a glimmer in the pan.
Crowder seems cool. Shitty what YouTube did to him.
@westwordbound Ben was actually Crowder’s lawyer and that’s how they first got acquainted so offcourse I follow his podcast.
And i agree on milo, he had this cool persona at the beginning while he did lectures and public speaking but he’s been pretty silent recently.
It’s actually weird that I’m more interested in American politics than my own country’s
@ErikKantor American politics gets lots of media coverage.
I got to tell you that it’s getting nuts and stupid out here. The division is insane.
@westwordbound actually high school teach you differently. Ironic that the guy who was brainwashed by society is telling me that I’ve been brainwashed. See, everyone belies the same thing you do. I grew up hearing the same bullshit about guys don’t hit girls and don’t cuss when there’s “young ladies” around you and all that crap. Luckily I was born with the rare ability to think for myself and have decided that gender shouldn’t have any impact in your life. I understand there’s a physical difference between genders, I’m not an idiot, but i don’t think that means girls and guys can’t fight. She can take care of herself, she doesn’t need some guy protecting her or whatever. She understood the risks going into it. And if you guys honestly think that my opinion is the popular one that’s being pounded into our minds then you’re just fucking stupid. Say anything like gender doesn’t matter outside of physical appearance and you’ll have all these spineless weak minded pieces of shit freaking out and having little bitch fits for upsetting their fragile view of reality imposed on them by stereotypes and societal norms.
What a harsh mouth you got for a 14 year old, maybe you could do some good with acting a bit more feminine..
@ErikKantor no kidding. It’s that teen angst.
At her age you know “everything” so in a way I’m not surprised she said that. But this crap will get even worse when she gets into college.
@westwordbound yup, and when she’s sitting there all alone at age 30 wondering why no guys want to date her she should read through her comments again.
She’s got time.
Let’s steer the criticism away from her. It’s not 3 guys against one 14 yr old girl, but more about us pointing the crap are education system is doing to her.
Like the mass media I think the western public education system will be next to be socially audited, as it should.
*our education system is doing
@ErikKantor Funny. I plan on dying before I’m 30 for one and my life doesn’t revolve around “getting guys.” Unless we have a real connection in which case they would agree with me, or at least not refuse to hang out with me because we have differing opinions. And please come at me with all the crap you want. I think you guys are looking at this from only one side. I’m not liberal, I don’t agree with liberal shit, I think their whole thing is about dividing humanity more than we already are through arbitrary social constructs (such as gender.) Same with conservatives, except they think white guys are superior and liberals think black women. I truly believe in equality. I don’t believe gender affects who you are, as I said before. And I grew up in a more conservative part of the nation and have never really known any of the liberalism you’re talking about. Nor do I have any interest because what I do know pisses me off. Not to mention I’m part of an extremely conservative traditional family with a dad who actually tries to make me clean up my brothers messes because “cleaning is a woman’s job.” And like girls have no worth outside of being pretty and obedient. Aside from that my sister naturally has a traditionally masculine personality and is tougher than any guy I’ve ever met. I’m pretty sure she could beat most people in a fight since when it’s really boils down to it the fight is just as much about tenacity and resilience as it is about sheer physical strength. o I don’t know maybe all of that sort of makes me more extreme about the whole thing but I truly wholeheartedly and passionately believe who I am and my purpose in life is entirely removed from gender. And you really can’t argue that the idea that gender is irrelevant is a popular belief. Most of feminism revolves around “I hate men” so I don’t think it’s a very liberal thing.
And I’ve already said everything about the original question. It’s not even so much about whether it’s a fair fight as it is about whether she’s tough enough to take it. Like I said before, physical strength might be influenced by gender, but mental strength isn’t.
Planning to die before you are 30 seems like a “mentally strong” plan and positive thinking.
Why would you wanna go early when you are as strong and tough as you say.
Dying is easy, living is tough but you’re still alive.
I’ve had multiple friends who have complimented suicide and i have no respect for that shit.
Live your life to the fullest and be the best version of yourself.
Start by being polite, there is so much animosity in you.
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I think it's really unfair to ask this of him. It's okay if both want to fight, but when one does not then it shouldn't be such a big deal. Why stress a young fighter who was willing to take a default and avoid putting himself in that situation.
Putting the argument of boys being stronger than girls aside. Because she has clearly earned her way there beating other boys. What does he gain for this fight? If he wins then he beat a girl, and if he loses then he got beat by a girl. I could only imagine the mocking/redicule from his peers after.
Another topic, the body contact. If he was to fight and grab her boob, ass, groin area, etc it would be accepted in fighting. Does that mean he necessarily wants her body to be the first girl he touches? Maybe he has a girlfriend, and doesn't want to touch another girl? Or maybe he is worried he could accidentally get an erections while fighting, which wouldn't happen fighting with a partner you don't find attractive. There's many issues here, so I'm not sure why everyone focused on him defaulting when it really shouldn't have been organized and stressed in the first place.
Now returning to body builds of each sex, there is a reason women and men don't compete in the same category. A woman fighting a man, has all to gain and nothing to lose. Where its the opposite for the man fighting the woman.