Should I book separate hotel rooms for a father-daughter vacation?

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My dad lives on the east coast and I live on the west coast. I've been away from home for years and only get to see him once every other year due to our busy schedule. He's coming for a visit in a few months and I decided to go on a 3-4 days vacation with him to a tropical location. The last time we went on vacation together I was 12 and we stay in the same room. Now that I'm 24, should I book the same hotel room (with 2 queen beds) or separate hotel rooms? What option would be more appropriate? This is meant to be a surprise trip for my dad so I can't quite ask for his opinion.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

since you are 24yo, I assume he is at least 50yo.

if it was me since you are in a tropical locale, I would go with separate rooms. This gives him privacy and you privacy. Nothing worse than Dad walking in on you in the bathroom while you are naked or changing clothes.

My biggie is if either of "meet" someone, you need your own room to have sex and spend the night.

Unless you have a special "daddy/daughter relationship" that the same room would encourage, I would go with separate rooms.

Just my two cents worth...

Glue-Sniffer · Accepted Answer

Last summer I went to Italy with my parents and we shared a room. My parents got the queen sized bed and I slept on the single bed across the room. Of course, I barely slept because they snored so freaking loudly but if you don't have this particular probablem there is nothing wrong with sharing a room. I mean people go to hostels and guest rooms and share a room with a bunch of strangers they have never previously met... So sharing a room isn't strange in my opinion.

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

If you can afford it, yes, it’s better, even if you’re close.

My dad snores (LOUD), flails and gets enraged if you wake him... He wakes up about four times a night for the bathroom, wakes up at 7:00 am, and bangs around, his bathroom habits are gross. He leaves all kinds of stuff in the sink, won’t clean up after himself... I started doing different hotel rooms at 25ish. We usually get rooms across from each other, or next door. It’s great.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Yes. Get rooms on the same floor or connected. He ain’t going to be tucking you into bed. A lot of women need tons of bathroom counter space for toiletries. And/or you could have totally different styles of living/needing tv at night. And he doesn’t want to see you half naked. Or for him to have to wear robe/pajamas all the time. Lot more freedom/privacy with separate rooms.

Mr_twoface · Answer

If you sleep best naked or bare minimal clothing, enjoy walking in the room less clothed, feel the urge to pleasure yourself frequently, love occupying the bathroom for long time or showering until all the heated water runs out, then, that in combination with loving to sleep in quietness, then you should opt for own room.

Like others have stated, having own privacy at your age is very understandable and therefore finding connecting rooms, or getting an apartment-hotel with two bedrooms within, or having two rooms very close to each other, isn't a bad option.

Nowdays when I can afford my own room, if I travel with parents I always tend to have my own. I love sleeping in undies, love occupying the bathroom for at least 45 minutes and love long showers... so I need that.

JackSmy · Answer

He's your dad, and yes, you are older, but book just one room, and just make it dad/daughter time, and watch a movie together, and just be close, and he will LOVE IT!!
Separate beds, yes, but still in his mind, you are his 'little girl' and you need your privacy, but I am assuming you aren't expecting to pick up some guy and need to be alone.

abc3643 · Answer

You'll probably save if you book the double room (the 2 queen beds). I think this depends on a lot of factors. For instance, does your dad snore? If so, you may go nuts. Do you want to masturbate or take a long shower? You might want the separate room.

matchrestore · Answer

It really depends on your relationship with your dad and your financial situation. If you're comfortable with it, there's nothing wrong with sharing a hotel room. It's a cost savings for sure, and may mean you can afford a better room (ocean view, balcony, etc) or a better resort.

markscott · Answer

If you are reasonably close, and comfortable in each other's space, go for the one room. If either of you is a private person, and needing their own space, then go with two rooms. You will see more of him if you are in the same room, and it's a little more cozy.

BeMuse · Answer

If you want to spend quality time with your father then get a room together and you will talk a lot in your down time. If you’re just going to the same geographic location with a group of family and you want your space to go party and have casual sex with random people you meet at clubs then get your own room.

TremorJay · Answer

I don't think it's inappropriate to sleep in the same room. I'm guessing you guys are close if you're booking a father-daughter vacation. He probably wouldn't mind your company.

Separate rooms would be more convenient for dressing/undressing, but that's about it.

Jazz3 · Answer

Depends on how close you are I think. I would book separate rooms so you can both have your privacy. There are many other ways to bond without the hassle of Am I getting dressed in the shower? or oh Can I fart? Among others that you would not have to think about in your own space. Personally would not sleep in same room as any family member unless I have to and are more inclined to share with Mom, niece and step sister but maybe this is just due to my upbringing.

VioletStardust · Answer

Eek, good question. Personally I would get 2 rooms just so the both of you have privacy. When you check in just explain that you got 2 rooms because you figured he'd want his privacy too, but perhaps get them next to each other?

Mädchen · Answer

I didn't expect so many Guy to think it's weird to sleep in the Same room. I's say it's perfectly fine as Long as you have separate beds. But If you can affort to book 2 bedrooms, do it Just to be Safe.

booooop · Answer

I'd go with two beds in the same room, especially if you haven't seen him in a while and want to reconnect. As long as you have a good relationship and it wouldn't seem awkward, it's nice to spend time together!

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think if its affordable - it would be a good idea. My dad will not let me sleep in his bed when he is on vacation and I have the house to myself even though I like the change cause his room looks different. He says it makes him feel uncomfortable.

Screenwriter · Answer

Hmmm. If you know both of you don't snore, I'd think it'd be nice for you to share the same room so you could talk to each other casually. It's only 4 days. I think it could be great bonding time. Something memorable you'd talk about forever.

NorthernMind · Answer

I've got no experience that this can relate too, furthermore I've got a hard time to place myself in the situation. Thus my opinion should mean very little. I feel like different rooms are more appropriate, but doesn't matter too much.

taleets · Answer

I stay in the same room with my dad all the time. We always have our own beds but it’s not a huge deal. You can always book a 2 bedroom suite with a connecting living room

EmmaMary · Answer

I'm quite sure your Father would understand and be in full agreement if you were to book separate rooms.

Frankiealaplaaja · Answer

It's always good to have the ability to be in your very own space if you want to.
If you turn out not to want to do so after all, what's the harm done? Aside for the cash of course.
"Beter mee dan om". Dutch proverb.

Jlegacy · Answer

Ask your dad. Burst the surprise idea. Because he might be busy with stuff when you tell him, you've booked the rooms. Save your money and save yourselves the awkwardness.

WalterRadio · Answer

If he has his own room, he can have women over. That is really up to what you are comfortable with.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I mean... I'd sleep in the same room, just 2 different beds of course. But I guess it depends on how comfortable you are with each other.

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