A woman in a communal pool swimsuit shamed into leaving

[LittleSally]

...Why?

Because she would 'Excite teenage boys'.

Mothers and fathers complained - even though it's a community pool for which she and her fiance also pay - the upkeep every month... The main complaint was that it looked like a thing - even though it wasn't a thong.

Wearing a normal swimsuit is too provocative now? If she wore a bikini would that have been better?

Would it have been better if she was dressed in this:

How is this - today's standard bikini - less revealing than a one piece that has more of a pull on the sides?

Would they do this to a man dressed normally for swimming?

Never.

Because teenage girls can control themselves? Or because parents of teenage girls actually know what a normal swimsuit looks like?

See...sexism is still alive and well - in this case in Tennessee.

For more information see:

https://www.thesun.co.uk/living/3869599/distraught-woman-told-to-leave-communal-pool-because-her-swimsuit-might-excite-teenage-boys-then-is-ordered-to-pose-for-photos-to-see-the-problem/

[goddess87]

I actually live in Knoxville and that girl lives in Seymour. It's a tiny embarrassing town close to Dollywood and outside of Knoxville. Those apartments she lives in are in a very trashy overly christian redneck area. I would totally expect that behavior from there. Everyone there is full of drama and gossip. It had nothing to do with her swimsuit and probably had more to do with jealousy. If you are an outsider they automatically try and bring you down. It's so weird bc Knoxville is so much different and then you have that embarrassment of a residential area.

[goddess87]

And you must understand. Most people in seymour are very unattractive and gross so if you are skinny, wear make up etc. you will receive jealous hate.

[goddess87]

I guess this sounded harsh, but it's true

[BoobMan]

LMFAO! That's a pretty ridiculously low bar to say someone has to leave! If "might excite teenage boys" is sufficient to bar someone from the pool, then you can pretty much also rule out any fully clothed hot girl! lol!

[LittleSally]

My thoughts exactly...

[BoobMan]

Thanks for most helpful!

[ThatDudeWitt]

We used to live in a condominium community and my girlfriend got a complaint about her bikini. She went and bought a one piece with a little skirt around the hips. The next time we went to the pool her sister was with us and had a two piece. Her sister is a little heavier/not as attractive. The same woman that complained about my girlfriend's bikini didn't say a word about her sister. I think a lot of times it is jealousy with women. But regardless, my girlfriend still wears her new suit because its just easier that way. Sorry you were shamed. That sucks.

[Belgie]

Or to put it another way, people like this scream about oppression when none exists.

"Ms. Jenkins was never asked to leave the pool. In addition, our leasing agent did not state that Ms. Jenkins swimwear would ‘excite teenage boys.’"

"Ms. Jenkins and Mr. Newman are valued members of our community. However, we feel it is inappropriate to equate requesting Ms. Jenkins to cover up with sexual harassment or ‘rape culture.’ Smoky Crossing denounces harassment in all forms.”

In addition to the lies spread by these two idiots, who only had to wave a flag for the screaming feminazi's to appear shouting rape culture, it appears they've pulled this sort of scam before. Classic bait and switch with the bathing costume, because it's not the same one that she wore in the instagram pics she posted where it actually does ride up her butt cheeks like a thong.

Fact checking people : the news media doesn't do it, so you have to.

[Anticipation]

Nice lovely one piece swimming suit. like that suit way better than the bikini. Though the bikini reveals more skin, that one piece is sexier. But I have always thought one piece bathing suits on a woman is sexy.

When you say communal pool, you probably mean a pool that is gated paid for by an exclusive community, with dress codes or rules,, right?

I think that suit clings to your intimate lovely body (including your breasts' and intimate gate even though the bikini exposes more)

If that photo above is you, then are really hot, with a hot body,, It seems to me, that the ones that banned that suit needed to take a little extra time,,

Maybe that suit had a "malfunction" and your breasts popped out or when you were sun bathing, the suit malfunctioned and your labia was partially exposed. But I have seen malfunctions with bikinis as well.

[Maik567]

"Would they do this to a man dressed normally for swimming?
Never."

Based on what? How do you make claims like that without any support to back them up and then try to act as if they were real arguments?

I'm absolutely positive that if a guy wore a speedo to a communal pool with a lot of children/teenagers there and his bulge was clearly showing through there would equally be angry parents.

This isn't about sexism, it's about conservative vs. progressive views when it comes to what it is ok to wear/show.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, i saw this on Inside Edition , this was totally wrong for that woman to be judged I heard people complained cause of the teenage males that were swimming in that pool. Well, what about the teenage girls in their bikinis, this woman was not dressed inappropriate it was just peoples with their minds in the gutter. Yes sexism is still alive and so sad to think people are up against this and no matter what this world
will always be full of lame people who have nothing better than to judge.
Thanks for sharing your MyTake well appreciate it.

[Phoenix98]

While I agree that it was stupid she was asked to leave the pool because everything excites teenage boys.

I do not agree that it is sexism, if it was then why limit it to just one woman in the pool why not all of them? Sexism isn't reserved for single individuals it refers to every female not just pick and choose ones.

Also this story originated in a UK tabloid not in a US paper so I highly doubt that this happened here much less in Tennessee especially if you can't find any record of it in the US news or any paper then it's probably bullshit. anyone can take a selfie and make up a news story. But of course folks like you will take any excuse you can get to shit on other people who have different views.

[RedVulcan]

This is still likely sexism, it's just possible that the woman was the only one wearing that style of swimsuit to the pool. If other women wore something like that the response would've probably been the same to them.
Now, as to its legitimacy, OP linked to a UK tabloid for some odd reason. Do you really think that's enough to doubt its existence? Have you even bothered to look for it in US news or did you just put that out there to sound smart?

[Phoenix98]

@RedVulcan Meh debatable I've seen far better cases for sexism that people still labeled as not sexist.

In this day and age of the news altering things, taking things out of context, letting personal bias get in the way of the truth, falsifying stories, and altering stories in favor of a political agenda. I don't doubt anything anymore.

And yes I Actually did, nothing came up though, of course it could have been the wording I used, that gave it the results it did, *shrugs*

Now shoo kid.

[RedVulcan]

I do not shoo.
I am curious as to how you didn't find any US results. I guess that's something to keep in mind for later if you're honest.
Yeah, to be fair, it is debatable whether it's sexist or not. It did only allegedly happen to one woman.

[Phoenix98]

@RedVulcan Well internet searches rely on keywords and how you type something when putting stuff in a search box. You can put the same into a search box different ways and it will give you varying results, sometimes only slightly different other times vastly different.

And seeing how it's not widespread news and it's not something well known according to a search algorithm it'll be lower on the priority list for results.

And exactly my point it "allegedly" happened key word there and it only happened to one woman, once. you can't just make the claim that sexism is rampant in Tennessee because of that.

That's like saying 1 person in Russia wants to revive the soviet union so that must mean all of Russia is communist.

It's sounds crazy.

[Phoenix98]

Plus LittleSally is well known on this site for pushing political agenda's and objectives and is not above stories like this one to make outrageous claims like that Sexism is rampant in Tennessee just because of one isolated, alleged incident that happened to one woman and hasn't happened since.

That's partly why I don't trust what she says because she's a propaganda machine that only cares about trying to make everyone come to her side. And clings to her claims even when proven wrong.

[Kuraj]

"Would they do this to a man dressed normally for swimming?
Never."

While I agree that the issue is ridiculous, please don't bullshit with your sexist whining complaints at least.
They ban male speedos and swimming briefs all the fucking time.
Women are totally welcome to wear "normal swimsuits" that cover them all the way to their knees too.

[LittleSally]

Is this equivalent to a speedo?
And no, they never banned speedos not briefs... at least not in any normal countries I've ever been to... by the way, you should watch your language... Because it's foul and disrespectful.

[sedrftvgyhujik]

Kuraj have a bit more compassion it's not a case of us vs women.
The bible freaks publicly shamed this woman for wearing a by normal standards fairly conservative swimming costume basicly saying it was "to revealing" and had her in tears that's not ok.

[Kylesar]

What happened was that people don't like that she was in a bathing suit around teenage boys

The teenage boys WERE NOT the problem. Seriously, all the hot teenage girls in bikinis, and you expect them to get excited over her? No

So to have a scapegoat, they put the blame on the teenage boys to shave off all accountability and everyone can jump on them

It's the same thing that happens in schools, when grown ass people sexualize girls in the 5th grade then say you'll distract the other 5th grade boys with your shoulder. The boys aren't the damn problem but they're making it seem like it is to protect themselves and their career

If this is a case of sexism, it's a case of sexism against boys because it assumes that teenage boys are brain-dead horny zombies

[RationalMale]

"then is ordered to pose for PHOTOS to see the problem"
What country is this, that pool employees have the power of cops to order people to pose for pictures?

I also note that the gender of whoever complained is never mentioned... and they keep their description of the pool management gender free. Considering the type of article, that tells me it was probably some prissy mom complaining, then some prissy female pool management.

Because otherwise, it would have been included as proof of how sexism is such a problem.

So yes. This shows what we all know. Women love to slut shame other women in public.

[Chief16]

How does this have anything to do with sexism? Wasn't it the parents who complained? Was any other woman barred? No. While she did nothing wrong, it was the consultant's fault for not letting her in. But rape culture and sexism? Lol, no wonder no one takes feminists seriously. Parents vs emasculating women? Who do you think the community takes more seriously?

[Caaarl]

I'm honestly sure if people saw a man who's sexually arousing all the teenage girls in the pool to where they were getting wet they'd be asked to leave too.
I think it's more of a disturbance for the patrons if it's guys because you know boners and all.

[goaded]

"But rape culture and sexism?"

Yes. It's perpetuating the whole idea that men can't control themselves and its the woman's job to dress "modestly". What's next, Burqas?

Maybe those parents should educate their children not to be as shitty people as they are.

[Chief16]

@Caaarl besides why would any guy boycott a chick who wants to wear a bikini to the pool?

[Caaarl]

@goaded Men can't generally control when they get a boner or not no.

[Caaarl]

I'm not saying they should I just explained that it probably wasn't sexism.

[Chief16]

@goaded you're talking about teenage boys, not men. Its one chick, not allowing isn't the same as not allowing the whole of womankind. She has bone to pick for being humiliated? I get that. But this feminist agenda? It was only her that wasn't let in. She's doing this because its personal, some feminazis here are already turned on. Rape culture? You're kidding me. What next? Accidentally sneezing on a woman is sexual assault?

[LittleSally]

*Sexism - because 'teenage boys' can't live with the sight of that... It's sexism - even when it comes from parents, yeah...

[Chief16]

Parents? As in moms and dads? Explain how its sexist. Especially when even other women were in favor of putting her out.

[Caaarl]

You're assuming the same wouldn't happen if a bunch of girls were disturbing the pool by gawking at a guy and getting wet.

[goaded]

@Caaarl "Men can't generally control when they get a boner or not no." The hell they can't; they'd be everywhere in nudist colonies and saunas, otherwise.

@Chief16 "the whole of womankind", if you tell one woman what she's allowed to wear, you're telling all women, at least all the women there, and simultaneously telling teenage boys that it's acceptable to control what other people do.

[Chief16]

@goaded nope, you're not. All women are not the same. Its the parents who complained, how would you appease them? A community has to weigh options. In this case, who would it tell off? The families? Or the woman? One woman does not hold monopoly over her gender. No other woman was given the same treatment. It was only her. That is someone's stupidity but not sexism.

[Markm3212]

i see nothing wrong with what she was wearing. i went to the local swimming pool with my little boy at the weekend and saw a LOT worse there. its funny as i was actually telling work mates this morning about it and then saw this post. but to be asked to be pictured thats a law suit on its way if its true

[martyfellow]

If yu could show us this woman, we could reach our own conclusions. It would depend on how good she looked, not just the size of the swimsuit. No one is going to ask the women in the pictures here to leave, I'm fairly sure...

I was asked to leave a pool as a teenager back when we wore speedos. They said it was too small, too tight... I'm not sure this was 'sexist.'

Probably more REPRESSIVE, I would say, especially in the South.

[martyfellow]

Oh, I misunderstood.. this is REALLY HER that you posted, not an example of a suit.
Wow, they really overreacted. Sure it show her behind a lot, but it's not at all extreme or exceptional.

But there are really prudish people in the South, and to some extent elsewhere. AS I said, I was asked to leave a pool also because my suit didn't cover enough.

[vishna]

Apparently teen boys can't control themselves around a woman's bare shoulder (a rule at my hs)... people have way too much time on their hands :/
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[HazellaHaze]

Is that the swimsuit in question? I don't understand the problem. It's an average, 1 piece swimsuit. Shouldn't punish her because she *may* excite some boys. They can control themselves. If they can't control themselves - then *they* should be asked to leave.

[Doglover666]

It's not sexism if women are the ones complaining about her swimsuit that's internalised mysogny and basic female bitchiness. I suspect few if any fathers were complaining, I know what some father's would have been thinking and it wasn't about how inappropriate her swim wear was.
It's a funny situation because badly fitting swimsuits can often ride up the butts of larger women, maybe this was the case.

[jen_phils]

I read this article as well. If you check her Facebook post you can see more pictures. I think the bathing suit was cut a little small for her butt and her butt checks were showing. Really not a big deal and no reason for this to happen to her, but I think that's what the problem was.

[CheckPlease]

Every one shoves thier world views on others. My close female freind was shamed at a church camp. A few years latter she married her husband she met there and is not a huge part of the church. She showed them that is does not matter what you wear to the pool. It is who you are on the inside.

[NormaTavish]

The swimsuit looks fine to me and I don't understand why she was asked to leave their is perhaps more to the story than is being reported. I've been to the public swimming pool wearing similar and in white and I've also been wearing a bikini and never had a problem..

[Red_Arrow]

Really was not sure what to believe. Supposedly this happened at an apartment complex in the US, but a tabloid in the UK is where this story appeared. And the pool is a part of the apartment complex but costs an extra $300 a month to use?

If the "facts" are actually true, there is plenty of grounds for a lawsuit, since (supposedly) they paid for the use of the pool and did nothing wrong.

In any case, I would be moving out of that apartment.

[Shaft50]

I don't see anything wrong with her swimsuit, or her body. Teenage boys will get excited if she was to wear a tshirt over her swimsuit... it's a modest swimsuit, not too revealing... I wonder if there was an instruction issued and signposted saying that revealing swimsuits should not be worn. I also am curious about the basis for the complaint from management... is it cultural, or even religious?