I've started to notice lots of complaints from guys about Valentine's day being one sided, or an excuse for women to expect special treatment. And it may be true that women get spoiled more often on the holiday. This might be because women frequently make it known that they enjoy Valentine's day and want some pampering to celebrate, while men are less likely to show enthusiasm or admit that they're into it. So many women probably assume that their significant other doesn't really want anything, or won't even appreciate their efforts should they choose to spoil their partner.
But men have the same right to expect gifts, cards, or special treatment on Valentine's day as women do. There is no rule anywhere that says that Valentine's day is for women. Love and relationships are two way streets, so a holiday that celebrates them should be too. Let's start a revolution to make Valentine's day fair and enjoyable for both partners.
So men: If your partner doesn't give you the Valentine's day treatment that you desire, tell her what you want! Let her know that Valentine's day goes both ways, and you expect to receive as well as give. Don't act like you don't care about the holiday if you really do. If you feel awkward about making demands, frame the topic this way: "Are we celebrating Valentine's day this year? Just checking about whether we're doing gifts or not." It's a casual way to make the point that you expect special treatment to go both ways. Or if you're comfortable, be more direct- especially if your relationship has a precedent for one-way treatment.
And women: Let's give our partners the special treatment they deserve. You don't need a vagina to enjoy being pampered! Valentine's day should be fun for both partners (if you choose to celebrate), so gifts and attention should go both ways. If you know your partner is planning a surprise for you, return the favor. And if you're not sure what's up his sleeve, ask him if he wants to celebrate, and talk about each of your expectations. That way, nobody will end up disappointed.
Valentine's day isn't just about gifts. But if you receive, you should also give. Happy Valentine's Day!