Being Single Doesn't Mean I Am Lonely

[Pinay_ako]

This is for the beautiful and amazing single people:

A letter from my 19 year old self.

I have to admit I get a little jealous when I see my friends with their s/o but then I see them going through some problems that a single person doesn't have to deal with so I feel a little better lol.

When you're single, you don't expect a good morning or goodnight text or have to send it. You have all the bed to yourself. Nobody needs to grab the covers away from you on a cold night. You can go to sleep peacefully knowing that nobody's cheating on you. You can go on a date with yourself anytime, anywhere you want. You can talk to whoever you want without anybody getting jealous or going crazy. Your phone is on 100% battery all day because it's dry af since nobody is going to blow it up with texts. You can go grab food without arguments of what to eat or where to eat.

You can eat in peace without anybody getting mad because they didn't get the food that they want. You can eat all you want without feeling guilty of not saving anyone some of it or sharing. You can play your games all day long in peace because nobody is going to complain about not giving them attention. Or you can buy all the makeup you want without anybody questioning, "don't you have enough?" You can dress sexy, quirky or be your weird self without anyone telling you to cover yourself up or ask "are you going to go out looking like that?"

You can go take your friends out or go out by yourself for a drive and discover the world one day at a time without feeling bad about it since you don't have to update someone of your whereabouts. You can go out clubbing, dance like no one's watching, and sing your heart out to karaoke without anyone getting embarrassed of your out-of-tune talent.

Being single is not a curse. It is a blessing that you are saving yourself for someone out there who is worth it to give your singleness away.

I don't know why people think being single is bad. It is not bad at all. It doesn't mean you are not worth loving or wanting, or that you're too picky or your standards are way too high. You choose to be single because you want to enjoy your life without needing anyone to complete it. You are confident your love will come your way when the time is right.

Valentine's Day or not, you have yourself to love and can spread that love to those who don't get any. Smile. You never know when someone is falling in love with your smile. :)

Happy Valentine's Day everyone. :D

[martsa]

A big thank you for this take! You just listed all the reasons why I want to stay single for rest of my life (I haven't ever been in relationship tho)
The sad part is that not so many of my friends can't accept that I'm going to be single for the rest of my life. Every time when me and my friend/s talk about dating and I say I want to be single forever they all be like: You never know... You will find someone''
And that is SO annoying! Of course I can't see in future but if I want to stay single why people can't accept that and respect my choice? It's not like it will affect in their lives. Ugh. That's why I try to avoid relationship topics they makes me feel uncomfortable :(

[BOUNTYGUY9]

ME LIKE YOU L AM SINGLE

[martsa]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Guy13]

C'mon now as we are social animals made for intimate relationship. Hopefully your Valentine's Day went well.

[ariadneR]

EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS TRUE. I MEAN YOU CAN'T EXPECT ANYONE TO LOVE YOU IF YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF.

AND NO ONE IS FALLING IN LOVE WITH MY SMILE WHEN IT LOOKS LIE THIS

[Pinay_ako]

that dog lol

[ariadneR]

I THOUGHT YOU WOULD LIKE THAT

[Pinay_ako]

love it. lol. that's my face when I get emotional when people do nice things for me unexpectedly lol

[ariadneR]

I want to add this
i'm not really single, i'm dating myself. I take myself out to eat, i buy myself clothes, i love me and i am awesome

[Shallan]

I've been single by choice and had plenty of time to focus on myself and tend to my needs. I don't believe the saying that "for every pot there is a lid" - during my time as a single person, I lived life fully expecting the possibility that I might live it alone. Well, not really alone. I have great friends and a wonderful family. There are many ways not to be lonely. I know you can say, "but you found someone after that, so it doesn't count"... well, I didn't find, it was more like a mutual, suddenly there it was. And it certainly wasn't expected. Nor was I afraid of it not happening. I agree that good relationships often happen like that - instead of trying to plug a hole in your planet, you end up fully intact and in orbit with someone else.

[DocilexElle]

Thank you so much for making this post! One Valentine's Day that I remember is where I went to the mall and saw 50 Shades of Grey all by myself! I got all dolled up and tried to look really submissive. It was my first R movie by myself! I might have got something nice to eat too, I cannot remember! :p I agree though that being single isn't always bad. If you don't have someone... be glad you don't have the WRONG person :) !

[lost_girl2000]

Sometimes, when I feel bad for being single, I think of exactly what you said. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. There is one thing though that I definitely agree with; "Being single is not a curse. It is a blessing that you are saving yourself for someone out there who is worth it to give your singleness away."

[Plumy]

Yep there are some differences between single and relationship life, mine is ldr and we meet few times and it is a bit hard for me, sometimes really feeling lonely...
But I love him and I'm happy anyway and imagining my life without him is impossible for me, it would feel really sad...
That is me, it doesn't have to be the same for everyone, either single or in a relationship, everyone is awesome and deserve happiness <3

[LoveJones123]

I use to feel lonely for being single. I started to feel that being single for so long meant no one wanted to me. I never thought before that it was a decision or choice. I thought if no one wanted to date me something was wrong with me.

But, now I'm happy to be single so that I can be whole for the right person that come into my life that I CHOOSE that is right for me to date or be in a relationship with.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

I AM SINGLE AS WELL I AM UNLOVED AND UNWANTED

[laurieluvsit]

Great take Ms Pinay.
I LOVE IT!
That took a lot of time, effort and thought to put all that together.
I am very proud of your hard work and great job!

[Pinay_ako]

Thanks Laurie <3

[ryancg]

Good take, I feel it needed to be said. I'm single and I'm not the least bit sad or lonely. I'm single by choice, at this point in time, I've simply chosen to focus on myself and my own aspirations. And thus far, I'm satisfied and happy with that choice. Eventually, I'll make strides to start dating and whatnot again, but for now, I'm going to continue doing me. I think my choice will lead to much healthier and more fulfilling relationships in the long run.

[Juxtapose]

People need to realize that they can't truly be good partners if they can't stand on their own two feet. If someone feels a *need* for a boyfriend/girlfriend then must find their will first. A person should always have a mental place they can fall back on to enter near perfect calm with ironclad determination.

Determination, people need to strengthen their resolves, but life being easy has weakened such a thing.

[TayTay21]

I will say this: being single is about 100000% better than being with the wrong person. There are so many weirdos and losers in the dating market that it's better to fly solo until you find the right person.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

I AGREE WITH YOU

[jennifer_bloom]

I'm not an expert but I think only people who can handle loneliness should be in romantic relationships because when you are caring for a sick spouse or nursing a new born child - you are going to go through periods where you have nobody to talk to because of your social obligations.

[godfatherfan]

Eventually that stuff gets old and you do get lonely. I have not been dating much in the last two years. But the dating world is very different for women then men. Men don't get a thousand messages every day if they are online, women do. So your alone by choice. Women can get free nights out almost anytime. Men are expected to initiate the meeting, pick where to go, and pay for everything. Dating is a different world for men and women.

[Logorithim]

Very good points. To me the best plus you pointed out was being able to go out with friends or anyone else without having to let your partner know or clear it with their schedule.

[E_Z_Z]

it's okay to be single rather than being in a relation ship with the wrong person , you just have to wait for the right one other wise i see it's fine to be single

[TFXNYC]

No worries.

[Browneye57]

More likely someone that can handle all your quirks. :)

Single people always make all kinds of excuses. The truth is they secretly wish they could find mr./ms. right and get something going.

But alas, it's great if you can make yourself happy - that's the FIRST step in a successful relationship. Each has to be able to stand on their own two feet.

[Halucinator]

Absolutely Amazingggg!!!
Really really loved this take
Thanks alot😊

[Pinay_ako]

You're welcome :)

[Halucinator]

I really loved it!
You should be an editor on GaG😊

[Pinay_ako]

aww really thanks man

[Halucinator]

haha😊

[NYCQuestions1976]

Being single doesn't mean that you can't bang it out on Valentine's Day if the opportunity presents itself... 😉 LOL

[Fuentes]

Damn i been single for so long, idgaf about no realtionships all them days are normal to me. The Only girl who gets me Right is first name Bombay last name Saphire

[holly6090]

from a single person, this is really nice! Thank you :)