Should I get angry at my boyfriend if he doesn't plan anything on Valentines Day? (Page 2)
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valentines day is just a made up holiday. by the greeting card companies / florists / candy companies and restaurants.
if your in a true loving relationship. you should treat each other. in a similar manner that you would want/expect for valentines day. pretty much every other day of the year.
No. But maybe bring it up and try to plan something, if not on Valentine's day maybe the day after or the night of. Getting angry won't solve anything. But waiting for him to bring it up or hope he plans something won't either. Women need to start making more effort to make things happen. If you want it go get it.
You're hoping for a lot out of a 2 month relationship. He has been busy. I don't even know why you got him anything. I get it's the first Valentine you've had with a romantic partner, but tone it down...
There is literally nothing special about Valentine Day either... You can do anything you would do on that day any other day of the year...
he is not your boyfriend for you have only known him for two months ! your just barely acquaintances ! why aren't you married to him? why don't you go to a baby nursery or day care and date one of the babies in there ! you are to young and childish to be in a relationship with any man ! Thanks
Yoooo its not your second bday soo chill give him space. Him loving you should be a must to be taken to cinemas or any fancy places LOVE IS Love for poor or rich, sooo if he doesn't have any plan go to him kiss him and make him feel proud to have you🙂
If am not mistaken, i dont recall anywhere written that men should be the ones who should give suprises or any other form of gifts on V. D so dont take it wrong in either ways bein mad at him will prove that you don't love him personally but you are after his material things.
As far as i have been in love, i have come to understand that Love isn't about gifts or any material things, infact love can be anywhere, anyday, anytime. If he misses the Valentine's Day perhaps he will not miss the next and next day of the year.
If you love him take that chance surprise him, you never know what he is upto maybe a surprise proposal 🤪🤪
I did get him his favorite abstract painting (searched it from google and printed it out on a huge canvas with a frame), I will be hanging it in his new apartment as a surprise because it goes great with his furniture and he always wanted photos on his empty walls but never had the time to hang one! Hope he likes it :)
He will probably love it!!! 🤪And that will work perfect hope he will have time to notice it 🙂
pls be understanding with him 🥺 and care for him during these times as work may get really stressing at those times and he may need someone to care for him and help him so in my opinion its a win win situation if u continue to care and understand that he is being stressed from work and may not have enough time for other things even if he wanted to also remind him that its valentines day and if he didn't buy anything well just give it to him as an early bday present?
He should acknowledge the day and do something, even if it's very small. But he's got a major life event happening on the same day, so you should also be very understanding of that. There will be other special days for you to celebrate.
No. He is really focused and V day is not an important holiday after all.
Surprise him with something that will help him relax. And then tell him next year he should plan something good for you in return
Everyone has their own preferences. You like to give him a gift, it's fine. But expecting return gift from him is just immature. If he wants to show you affection, he can do it by another method. You don't need a "day" for that.
" So we probably won't be doing shit, and I feel kinda sad and selfish, but it is my first valentines with a boyfriend and I was kinda hoping he'd do something for me."
It's his clubs' opening, a turning point in his life, and you're worried a freaking Hallmark Card holiday? Even if it wasn't,... that's what MEANS something to you? Valentines Day? Good Lord.
Don’t prepare to get angry, just tell him you’d like to celebrate Valentine’s Day with him.
Romantic guestures are just niceties to break the norm of your lives. He may not do anything special on Valentine's, but what matters is that day-to-day he makes you feel lucky to have him in your life.
you do know valentines day is just an easy way for companies to up EVERY price by a lot and oh if you dare to take her in a dinner 1 day early or late she gets mad, and they know that.
it's a dirty business tactic.
How DARE he to miss a chance to feed the money-making-machines of celebration days :D
Your own preparation is nice and thoughtful - would you have looked for this gift WITHOUT this V-day ahead?
You mention '... doing the effort in the relationship...' - is that only giving presents? What OTHER things is he doing to 'put in effort'?
Um I did get him his favorite abstract painting (searched it from google and printed it out on a huge canvas with a frame), I will be hanging it in his new apartment as a surprise because it goes great with his furniture and he always wanted photos on his empty walls but never had the time to hang one. Also I am not expecting free things or fancy dinners, its just the thought. Like A simple rose will make me happy. So please dont judge me or jump to conclusions ^^ He's my first boyfriend in 4 years and I think after spending Valentines alone every year, a small gesture will be nice. Holidays are meant to be enjoyed, its not all about money.
You saw my: " :D " ... it was humour. The sarcasm addresses those who exploit days like that for business. It did not address 'us small people' who are exposed to it.
V-day isn't there yet. He may come up with something. If not: it's just one day out of many others where we can show our dear ones that they are special to us.
I don't know exploits or not I like holidays ^^ They're meant to be enjoyed. I mean if we were to think that way then lets cancel Christmas Halloween and every other holiday there is. But i understand your perspective as well
Giving or loving should never be based on what you think you might get in return
If you want to give him something give it freely if you want to care for him care for him freely
What you will get in return will be the joy of it which is priceless
how about do valentines on a different day...
some guys have to be trained as they don't value special dates...
you'll have to be understanding
Makes sense!
"Trained"? Would it be OK to say "some women need to be trained to give good blowjobs"?
@KrakenAttackin everyone needs trained, we aren't born knowing these things. I had to be trained how to treat certain women and I was fine with it. It's attuning to their needs. This gets into "love languages"... like AshleyBenedith might feel very loved by way of gifts, special events. But her boyfriend may feel nothing from that and only appreciate words, just as an example. He has to learn her language and that celebrating is important... even if he doesn't htink it is. And she has to learn how he feels loved. It's training in my book.
@KrakenAttackin stop spamming my questions and get a life dude lol
Great followup, glad to hear you did the right thing... and it worked:)
Thank you so much :)!
ofcourse no think of those hard time you get through it
and all the good memory you have spend together
don't get mad at him because just a day !
You guys have only been going out for a couple a months. So the problem is that it's still the initial stages into your relationship.
From what you have posted it seems you guys aren't living together either. Give it a few months before you can have any expectations in a relationship. Be understanding as he is invested in his professional life. Patients will go a long way here.
Nope.
Some doesn't celebrate.
Ask yourself.
What did you do?
Why do you have unrealistic expectations?
I hope you have grown that much that you realize that expectations is toxic and destroys relationships in the long run.
It had nothing to do with being romantic. Just life priorities.
1, Be honest with yourself and your emotions.
2, Communicate with him talking about what you are expecting and how important it is for you.
3, Don't expect too much for him to retaking the priorities.
4, Ask for compensations afterwards. If he cannot make it on the day, find alternatives.
5, Be careful whether his priority's the business rather than other girls.
Good luck on your Valentine's Day.