He is 25 and has all the qualities I like. He had expressed his interest in me last year but I had deleted the app so wasn't aware. I checked it this year and accepted his interest but he hasn't messaged me yet. I match all his preferences but I'm a year older than he wants. He is dating to get married just like me. Should I text him? I'm so afraid of getting rejected.
I’m not particularly attracted to women because they’re older than me. I prefer that they be younger than me.
But, my preferences are flexible. When I was 23, I dated someone who was 26.
Chemistry is chemistry. Regardless of age (keep it legal of course though).
And if a girl had a preference for a guy that was 6ft tall or more, but she found the perfect guy that happened to be 5’11.75”… that quarter inch shouldn’t be a deal-breaker.
So I’d say, shoot your shot. Who knows, he may be flexible with his preferences. After all, they’re preferences, not deal-breakers.
I’ve always took the chance because it’s better than wondering what could have been. You’ll regret it if you don’t even try.
Best of luck to you! 🍀
Why be afraid most guys when it comes to getting asked out are pretty humble if it comes to rejection. A lot of women don't know it but most guys who get asked out and turn them down aren't like girls where the gossip takes a turn for the worst. So long as you're like pleasant on the eyes. The most they'd say to others is a really pretty girl asked me out but unfortunately I wasn't ready or I was taken.
And if he does like you and does want a date. They probably will say it right then and there. So its not like you gotta wonderstruck dream over what the answer could have been. I'd say wing it. At worst your single for a bit longer, at best you can look back and be happy you maybe found the one.
Definitely message him. You're both interested in each other! That's really not much of an age difference :)
I don't think 1-2 years older is older in the philosophical sense. For me that's same age.
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u "I'm so afraid of getting rejected." We all are. So what? Get over it! You've gotta take a chance if you wanna find romance.
u two years older than me would not be an issue at all...
YES. Message him. That age gap is completely irrelevant.
Dating app? Is he even on it anymore?
Not now but in my early 20s sure why not
If you are interested in this guy, then absolutely go for it. What have you got to lose?
If you get rejected, so what? You took your best shot and it misfired. There's plenty of other guys out there that would be more than happy to go out with you. Don't let past anxieties from a long time ago tie you down, otherwise you won't do anything you want to do.
On a side note, 1-2 years isn't a massive age gap either, it's actually pretty normal with most relationships. Barely anyone is going to call a 26/27-year-old woman going out with a 25-year-old man strange. You're both consenting adults, if you both want to date each other. Date each other.
Best of luck!
Due to women and men maturing at different rates, I have a thing I call "Maturity parity". I define maturity parity as the type of paring where a man and woman should be of similar maturity level. It is common knowledge that women mature faster than men, but that a man should catch up at a certain point. The common maturity parity I have observed are usually (not always) as follows:
18 year old woman has same roughly the same maturity as a 22-23 year old man.
22-25 year old woman has roughly the same maturity as a 27-30 year old man.
Age 30 is where the maturity seems to even out.
If we go by this, you are age 26. That puts your guy in question at age 24. I think this pairing can work since both of you are close to the same maturity parity level. However, take it slow and watch how his life transitions over the next 2-3 years.
Cougar! just kidding, it not a big age gap so yea, you are not too old to give him children.
Well I feel 1 or 2 years is not a big deal older or younger. I dated at least 10 years older than me but that is my limit age gap. I think you should go ahead especially if you like each other qualities and looking to get married. 1 year should not be a deal breaker. If he does reject you he just too picky and close minded.
I'd say go for it. I don't think a year is a big deal and tbh I've been interested in women 4-5 years older than me before. It's about who they are and if I'm attracted to them the age is a factor obviously but I think connection, shared interests, attraction I believe that they are the more important aspect.
Before the age of lets say 33, most guys won't have a problem with an older woman. It does depend, but it's all about your appearance. If you're still youthful, and your attractive, in a lot cases you'll be fine.
For me if not over double digits in the age gap. I think it's okay.
Bad Examples:
Good Example:
Let's say you were born in the year 1984.
You can go without someone who was born in the year 1975-1993.
That's my view.
As far as I'm concerned, if she turns me on I can stretch from 21-72. At the elderly end it would need to be a well kept and most likely stunning at one point. Can't beat youth for hard, tough, and hot bodies
Message him , it will only work short term but he will be happy to follow up for some fun , the man needs to always be older.
Yes. It is quite flattering to a guy to have an older girl find him attractive. I know from experience. She was 3 years older than me. Wonderful times together. I still fantasize about her twenty years later. Wish it worked out.
Yes! Message him. He probably still likes you.
Yeah hit him up... a year or two doesn't really matter for us dudes if the match is good.
I find the ideas of my girlfriend being younger or older than me are both attractive in different ways.
Plus 1-2 years is hardly a difference at all.
If you don't take the chance, you will never know.
If both y'all got a fully developed prefrontal cortex age who gives a damn about age. Can't be trippin over two years.
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