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LilMiss
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Not wanting to say,I told you so

 
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Did you ever know someone that was backstabbing and fake? Yet when you try to warn people about you, they see the fake performance as real and get mad at you for it? If so, then you will totally see where I'm coming from here. There's this girl that I used to work with. She is a chameleon, meaning that she doesn't have a personality of her own. She is so desperate for the acceptance of others that their likes and interests become hers, and if they don't like someone, she'll claim not to and talk shit about them behind their backs just for the sake of brownie points. I noticed it right away with her when she was always nice to me to my face, but had the nerve to make rude comments about me to my best friend, whom also worked with us.

She must not have thought my best friend would have told me because when I went to confront her about what she said about me, she looked at me with sheer shock and denied everything. I know my best friend has no reason to lie, so ever since that day, that girl went on my mental list of untrustworthy people.

About a year later, I joined the Navy. When I came home on leave, I found out that this girl was dating my younger brother. I also found out that she was considered one of my best friend's best friends. Needless to say, it all just blew my mind! With me being the honest person I am, I couldn't be fake and smile at her and pretend I was okay with her dating my brother. I told her,"I'll respect you because you're now my brother's girlfriend, but I don't like you because I know what kind of bitch you are. I know you're going to end up hurting him." I said this to her in front of my whole family.

I received a phone call from my mother a few weeks after I came back to Virginia. She asked me why I didn't like this girl, and I told her exactly why. She jumped down my throat defending this girl's "integrity" to me. I told my mother not to ask for my opinion if I'm not free to give it without getting scolded for it. My mother had the nerve to tell me that this girl was like another daughter to her. That one kind of stung a bit.

My best friend knew how I felt about this girl and respected my feelings, but wouldn't heed any warning about her. I left it alone because I didn't want to jeopardize my friendship with her over this idiot. I just figured that with time, this girl's disguise would wear off and everyone would see her through my eyes.

She dated my brother for a year and cheated on him with a numerous amount of guys. Unfortunately, she was the first girl he'd ever loved. What a waste. Now my family hates her and my mom won't stop talking about her. Frankly, I'm sick of hearing about how much of a slutty bitch this girl is. It's not anything new to me. I've known this and tried telling them this before but they wouldn't listen.

A few weeks ago, my best friend found out that this girl was talking about her behind her back. She feels stupid now because she's defended this girl and had her back when nobody else did. And this is the thanks she gets.Now my best friend knows that I wasn't saying all that stuff to talk crap about this girl, I just didn't want to see my best friend and my brother get hurt by her. I hate seeing people learn the hard way. I also know that it sucks to be told that someone told you so. Although those words are on the tip of my tongue, they will never escape.

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A-R-Norman Hey girl, that was a tough situation, just know that sometimes people have to learn on their own and as much as we love people, we have to let them fall and make mistakes--just hope your brother doens't become bitter because of this skank and help learn from his heartbreak so that he can keep his eye sopen for real, genuine women who will appreciate a good guy like him! - More than a year ago
good-looking-geek I hope I never meet a girl like this chameleon. One HUGE fear of mine is if my girlfriend is nice to me and I am perfectly nice to her and we get along great, and then she unexpectedly cheats for no reason that is any fault of mine. I hope girls of that character are predictable just by watching their body language and having a 6th sense of recognizing how genuine their character is. This is truly a huge obsessive fear of mine. I am afraid of girls doing this to me. - More than a year ago
arisato- I'm not nearly as polite as you about these sorts of things. When I try and warn people about these things, and they don't listen, I'll parade it around for days that I was right and they should've listened. Because odds are they'll make the same mistake again in the future if I don't drill it in deep that my judgement was right.

It's for their own good! - 5 months ago
armyant I have a sister who's one of these people. She literally absorbs the personality, interests, opinions, and even the manner of speech of whomever she perceives is the most popular person in a social situation. It's uncanny and a little unnerving, although it's also priceless whenever different friends of hers meet each other for the first time and sort of realise they've been talking to each other through her. - 3 months ago
Yurippe I know how you feel. I have the same situation with some friends, and in the end, I just stopped going to group events because I hated seeing that liar's face. And no one would ever believe me. -___- - A month ago
 
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