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Why Hasn't He Called?

 
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"Why didn't he call me yet?"

How many times have you found yourself asking that question? Every girl has asked at least once. After all, he took your number, talked to you for hours and HE SAID HE WOULD CALL, right?! Well here's why some guys never call...

When you meet a guy for the first time and he lavishes you with attention, what do you honestly think of him? Most women view an overly attentive guy as a "loser" or "desperate" - and men know it! We have more available resources when pursuing a girl than you might think. We have dating sites that offer a wealth of information and that actually train us that "less is more" in the attention department. We are taught that you prefer it when we don't pay too much attention to you. Why? Because it creates more desire and more mystery around us when we appear to ignore you.

When you are left wondering, your interest level sky rockets. Compare Mystery Man to Mr. Speedy Response. You may accept the offer to go out with Mr. Speedy Response but will still have the Mystery Man in the back of your mind.

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You go out on a date with Mr. Speedy Response and he seems alright but he calls you every day thereafter. He could be nice or he could be desperate - you have to judge that by his behavior overall.

When you finally hear from the Mystery Man, you think the suspense is over! But, he doesn't explain why he never called and you know better than to ask. This adds more mystery and prolongs the suspense. When Mystery Man finally takes you out, he does not drool and gush over you prolonging the "Does he like me?" suspense. If you are used to a guy focusing on you like there is no other woman in his life - or even on the planet - someone who does not fit this pattern will stand out as different.

I'm not saying that it is right for a guy to ignore you but our experience shows that you will actually find him more interesting for that very reason. There are never any absolute truths when it comes to dating but, generally speaking, less is more when it comes to attention and courtship. No matter what women say to us about wanting us to pay attention to them, we know that, deep down, you actually prefer less.

It sounds backwards but ask yourself, "Which guy would you be more attracted to?" and that is usually your answer to why he hasn't called.

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homer I think what you say is true when I am interested. If not, however, then I will not call you and ignore your calls too. But I may answer or call back once or twice just to be nice or courteous. - More than a year ago
fastboxster 99% of the time if I haven't called, it's simply because I've lost interest. Either I've gotten distracted by another prospect, or the timing wasn't right (leaving town for business, back with GF, etc.), or I was only moderately interested to begin with. - More than a year ago
magicgirl No offense to you but I don't really agree when you say less attention. When i'm in a relationship I make my guy to feel like he is the only one I like and I pay him alote of attention, And I wuld like to be treated the same. - More than a year ago
CHANEL9 I would rather date Mister Speedy Guy because then there's no guessing as to whether he is interested or not. I hate when guys play games. - More than a year ago
SexySamantha I don't agree with the whole girls like less attention. I've never got attention or any kind of affection in my life. I would prefer a lot of both. I get the feeling a guy don't really like like me unless he shows some affection and pays some attention. - More than a year ago
banker I agree with everything you said, but being too mysterious for too long would somehow make it boring and the girl may start to lose interest. Projecting to be mysterious may work at the start but not too long. - More than a year ago
ChineseSapphire I want something that is honest, simple & straightforward!! Yes the mystery man would be playing on my mind but in the end I'd go for Mr Speedy simply because I know where I stand with him! - More than a year ago
starlight I agree with chinese sapphire.i think that some girls would go for guy who gives them all the attention plainly because they get caught up in the moment and just go with a guy because that guy makes them feel special but in the end you go home and those guys who call all the time just become boring. I like a guy whos a mystery but seriously guys you should show that you like us in some way so we don't think its a lost cause and give up! don't play the game for too long! - More than a year ago
HeAdCasE Disagree. If you're interested call. I would respect you more. If it's not mutual, you'll know right away, then take your step back. I think that any relationship you have after waiting and playing the mystery game is tainted, especially when I don't know where you stand, or what you want. I would just say forget you, and move on myself. I'm not desperate, and any man who thinks that I'll sit around and wait for his call is going to miss this bus, because I've got better things to do. - More than a year ago
krissy If you're interested, stop playing games!! I, myself, hate when I am left wondering if he is interested or if he isn't. While I don't want some guy that goes psycho crazy and calls me constantly, a simple text or phone call or 2 during the week would be nice. I'm not into the suspense and Mystery Man! - 11 months ago
glitzy87 I agree and I disagree. There has to be a balance. I had a guy who tried way too hard and it was a turn off. He did look desperate. But then a guy that doesn't answer my calls or txts right away makes me think he's not interested. You can still call/txt and not seem desperate. Make them short calls. Say you can only talk for a few minutes.You keep the mystery, but are still letting us know we're on your minds. - 9 months ago
zerotosurvive That actually makes complete sence. - A month ago
 
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