Why is it people put up facades, especially at the beginning of a relationship, I mean what is the point, if you like the person eventually they are going to find out about the real you, so why do it? Why can't people just be themselves?
its very easy to say this "be yourself" but s really difficult when a guy faces a gal cos he has a feelin that he should do or be like what or how the gal wants him to be.
People also assume a person is a certain way. It's like judging a book by its cover. A person might not be putting on a facade it may be that your illusion of who you thought they were is really who they are not.
Like a book with a fancy cover; read a few words on the back cover then purchase it. After reading it for a few weeks you realize you are disappointed because it is not at all like you thought.
A persons assumptions, as well as, the other person putting up a facade will most always lead to disappointment. Be yourself and try to stay comfortable. From experience, as soon as it becomes uncomfortable for one person its all over.
Because they figure if they are themselves, people won't like them. The problem is that people are attracted to who they think the person is and they get a nasty surprise when they find out it isn't who they are.
I think it's because the person who's being the fakey, tries to connect with someone they obviously know they have nothing in common with, but feel good, to be appreciated by the person they're trying to impress. Which is why the person who feels somehow A connection usually ends up getting hurt. but what do I know I've only seen this in movies.
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