Why do guys not have the balls to talk to a girl?

It would have to be a confidence issue. Also, usually, the prettier a girl, the shyer the guy would be. So if a guy is checking a beautiful lady out and feels too shy to approach her, he might go for the girl on far right bar cause she's less pretty/less intimidating.

a beautiful girl hard to approach for men because in the ancient days, she is usually possessed by the leaders of the tribe. it will end up ugly if a regular dude tries to hit on her. now afraid of approaching a girl they like is simply because they are not confident and are afraid of rejections.
it's pretty simple.

it is mostly because when guys see someone they think is pretty they think they probably have a man already or just because they¨re to shy and don't know how to approach them girls.

It is mostly because of confidence. But sometimes it is because she is so dumb I would rather NOT talk to her. Remember...beauty only goes so far

The first thought that usually goes through a guy's mind if he sees a pretty girl is "there is no way that a girl that good looking does not already have a boyfriend / husband". So, he will write her off as taken and move on.

because we love our ego so much

because there are far too many cheap sluts like these, and you seem one of those
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why don't you grow the balls to approach the guy and be a real woman?

Jus depends on their age. If that are juniors and seniors in high school or already graduated they just wusses and afraid of rejection... how ever if theyre just a freshman or something they're probably just shy... most of em will grow out of it one day

coz they really don't wanna het rejected ANYMORE!
n itz all about equality these days...if you girls have come ahead in all other things...why don't you step up when it comes to making d 1st move? why do you still wanna be approached?
why don't YOU dare to speak to guys that you like?...dont you have balls?...ohh well, you don't have balls anyways!^!

I think the real question is, "Why don't girls have the courage to ask a boy they think is handsome or a boy they like, I don't understand. Why is that?" I'm directing this towards the question asker and anyone that might be offended by this. So no need for every girl to get upset at this.

because they are only out
for themsleves, but there's
plenty of decent guys (like
me) who have the balls to talk 2 a gurl

its not the balls cause geneticly they do
but its the past prbly
i know as a child I was hurt at a young age
and it only got worse rejection after rejection from 1-11th (a horrible one in 9th)
with no encourgnment I never saw the reason to improve on my self
till I found it within and finally things got better right before I graduated
but still to this day approaching a women is difficult cause I still have the memories
and doubts
there in the mind
but girls could help
i mean they have the power to take what they want, they could easilly say hey boy come with me
and id say who me smile OK (:
i think its sexist to think men shud do all the workd you shud look at my question haha

Mainly due to societal programming and the efforts to remove all elements of masculinity from our young boys and young men. You can see patterns of female behavior especially in the media. Women are being portrayed as the smart ones who solve problems, in commercials, movies, etc. You can also see it in schools, where little boys are told to raise their hands and ask for permission to speak, and not to fight back when bullied. Gym class has been reduced, even when it is well documented that physical activity if essential for the healthy development of young boys, girls' only programs established, we are taught to "value" women, I could go on for ages.

Just read some of the articles I posted. Our feminized culture has lead to the destruction of confidence in men, to the point where they are even scared of women. We have feminism to thank for all that.

I don't do it because of a bad experiance that happend to me in High school. There was a girl I really liked for sometime I thought for a while how I would ask her out and I eventualy just said I need to quit thinking and just do it. So I told this girl how I felt and that I wanted to go out with her. She told me she would think about it and for me to wait on the football field at lunch and she would tell me her answer. I went there and waited and after a few minutes a guy showed up and told me that he was her boyfriend and that I needed to learn not to speak to his girl. I didn't know she had a boyfriend and I tried telling him this but a couple of his friends walked up and grabbed me and he started punching me until they threw me to the ground. When I got up one of them had a basketball in there hand and hit me in the face with it as hard as they could standing about a foot away. I tried getting up again and they hit me with the ball in the face again. This time I layed down and the guy kicked my arm and told me never to talk to his girlfriend again. When he was leaving I sat up and looked around and seen the girl was standing behind the bleechers the whole time watching and she was laughing about what they just did to me.

I don't amny other people can say something like this happend to them and it bugs when people say things like grow a pair or man up.

also just because guys have balls doesn't make them confedent or whatever

Balls come with age and experience. I wouldn't talk to an under 18 year old, unless I wanted to be like a cool older brother. But I would never be afraid to approach even a group of hot women. 21 and over of course.

Shyness and fear of rejection resulting in the feeling of humiliation. It REALLY hurts when you see a girl you're attracted to reject you, then go with some other guy standing right beside you. It KILLS confidence.

Fear, if not TERROR, of rejection is the only reason. No guy wants to approach a pretty girl, ask her out and have her, for example, laugh in his face.

because most times unless your obviously into the guy you shoot him down word gets around that, that always happens and people become afraid :)

Most guys get serious emotional damage at a young age. Their first crush at the tender age of 11 rejected them, then all their classmates laughed at them, then it happened again...

As a girl, you probably can't understand what those early formative experiences are like for a guy. Girls are cruel growing up. Girls act soft and friendly and sweet... to certain people, the people they want to like them. But if your guy was just your average joe, he wasn't cool enough to be part of the "in" crowd, he probably got treated like dirt by the very same people who you were bffs with. Unless he was the king of his school growing up, he was probably taught by the school of hard knox that it is too risky to say anything.

I wish they'd get over it, its not a healthy way to live, but it is still very common and I understand

Some guys are just shy. You can't expect everyone to be brave and confident.

let's see, most boys are raised by their moms... so they act like females in some regard..

cause girls always reject the guy that asks and treats the guy like he's a creeper or stalker and guys (like me) know we are ugly and not wanted etc cause girls never look our way etc.

i tell you why I'm afraid.
it makes you feel like a piece of sh*t when you try to introduce yourself to a girl and they look at you like something the cat dragged in.

Happened to me a couple of times, now I CAN'T introduce myself to girls I haven't met through friends.

i consider myself very confident, but that kinda look, it makes you die a little inside.
i see it happen to others, and I hear female friends laugh about doing it.

I have the cojones to talk to girls...alot of them make excuses not to date me because they are insecure with low self esteem. Just because I'm good looking...doesn't mean I'm a player.

SO girls if your reading this...STOP MAKING EXCUSES.

some girls even if they are interested in you just pretend they aren't in you,probably nervous wen you approach them they tend to ignore you,so you will be in doubt to make a move whether she gonna talk or not and it will be really embrassing if the girl just ignore and walk off when you say hi

trust me it happen to me

Maybe you're just not pretty...the world doesn't revolve around girls. Playing 1950s gender roles only when they benefit you is played out now. If you see someone you like and don't do anything, than your just as big a coward as the guy is.

And why is it that most of the female questions on this site from anonymous users trying to impose jobs and responsibilities on guys? seriously, most of these questions wouldn't be made if you just pull your own weight.

And no I'm not a woman hater, nor afraid of chatting one up. However, I'm less inclined to do so if they display that "everything should come to me" attitude.

As other people below have already demonstrated various reasons and possibilities, I'll just add my own reasons, as all the general ones have been taken. Whenever I see a girl I think is pretty, if I'm too near, I have a feeling of fear running through me, and it stays there as long as she's around. It's really bothersome, because it makes me pay attention to every single movement I do, I start to become more conscious, and I sort of start trying to look at her without looking interested in any way, and I also get an "emotional camoflague" up due to this fear, meaning I make no expression with my face.

This is not a good thing to do. Because it just makes me unable to even have a chance to establish contact with a girl like that. But I sort of have the lingering thought that she wouldn't ask me out anyways, and the actual reason for me nowadays is - even if I wanted to talk to her, what the hell would I talk to her about? She would just judge me based on her first impression, and in case I don't perform perfectly, she will say I'm boring and I'll be inadequate, and then I have ruined all my chances with that girl. So there's a huge pressure when you want to talk to someone for the very first time... "What the hell would she think? Could I even be good enough? Should I even do it? Nah, I'll just stay away and admire her beauty."

Why, do YOU talk to everyone who you are interested in without any second thoughts? if you say "I can wait for them to talk to me because I'm a girl", then you should realize that there are many guys who think just like you, except for them, it's "I don't think she would accept me if I talked to her, and she would reject me for a lifetime, so I guess I just won't". We are not all that different, you just believe your views on this matter are justified by the social norm.

There's a number of reasons. A lot of these reasons start out in high school and they can stick with us for life. Sometimes this is because there are situations in which such immature rules of conduct still apply. But for now, let's talk about high school.

For one, high school guys have a much greater potential for being immature. Not all of them are but it can happen. They, like everyone else in high school, have a lot riding on what they think or fear people might say about them, what people might think about them. This in itself is intimidating. They fear rejection, or they fear the rep that comes with it, or the rep that comes with dating a certain girl. It's all a case of extremely petty politics.

Another thing warding guys off is the pretty girls themselves. Face it, in high school, a lot of the prettiest girls out there also hole within them the capacity to be the biggest cunts on the planet. Again, not to say that they all are, but they could be. It's even worse if she's the kind of girl who is always hanging around a large group of pretty girls on mass. This sends the impression that in order to talk to you, they also have to deal with your friends. If any of your friends have reputation for being a cunt, you could easily be painted with the same brush and palate. Not to mention the nightmarish image of asking out a girl he likes and getting shot down in a cruel manner, only to have a peanut gallery of giggling girls giving you shit about it too.

Then there's the guys who just plain give up ahead of time. They see a pretty girl and they think about how likely she is to being completely out of their league. Or maybe some guy is thinking that she wouldn't see anything in him, or think he's not handsome enough, or tall or pretty or muscular, or popular enough. Just in general thinking that she's too good for him, or just simply he's not good enough. Sometimes just skipping past all that and jumping right back to what was discussed in the previous paragraph, and assuming that she's so pretty that she's also probably a really shallow cunt, and therefor only after somebody who's a hot guy with a big dick.

Again all of these are generalizations. Not all guys think this. Not all girls are like this. not all guys think girls are like this, but these are all possibilities, and a guy might possibly be affected by some of this baggage. This is the kind of shit that could potentially be effecting him, or running though his head be it something he came to on his own or something his asshole friends put in his head. Even more this is assuming that he's not just plain shy.

Ultimately if you think there's somebody out there for you, and you have somebody in mind, you need to say something if he isn't. I'm not sure if you noticed yet, but the world is a lot more equal opportunity than it used to be. You don't need to wait for him to come to you, and court you like this was Jane Austen or some shit. You are well within your rights to make moves yourself.

Much for the same reason girls don't have the ovaries to talk to a guy they like.

Rejection is a possible reason, but I think the real reason is the social context.

Think about it this way.

A guy who approaches a girl to talk to her (could) be perceived as just trying to get laid. A girl who approaches a guy (in the name of possibility, COULD be perceived as just trying to get laid), but it is far less likely that everyone thinks that.

Why?

Because guys have the well-established stereotype of wanting sex. Women have the well-established stereotype of wanting a relationship.

Which is worse, or more immediately socially negative? Wanting sex? Or, wanting a relationship? (Think about it).

The girl is simply at a better position to walk up to a guy and start talking to him, than a guy is.

Many guy feel that if they walk up to a girl, they (the guy) come off and appear "desperate." And not "desperate" for a relationship, but desperate for sex (just by virtue of being a guy!)

Girls feel like when they walk up to a guy, they (the girl) come off and appear "desperate." But not "desperate" for sex, but desperate for a relationship (oh! how shameful and embarrassing!)

Maybe they are afraid of rejection. They don't want to give their hopes up.. Or maybe they are self-contentiousness about being so naturally attracted to a girl based initially on her attractive looks alone, and subconsciously also know that lots of other guys are influenced and swayed by the same feminine beauty in just the same way.. and perhaps as an attempt to go against the grain or fight against their own (somewhat superficial) human nature they don't make the first move and just hope the girl might approach them first..

same reason why girls don't make the first move. fear of rejection, pride, self esteem...the usual.

Why do guys have to make the first move? Women are perfectly capable of initiating a conversation. Besides, imagine how you would feel in their position. Most people would ASSUME the GUY is interested in the girl when they approach them for whatever reason. Because of that assumption it adds to the pressure of walking up to an attractive person and talking to them. It personally bothers me a bit as well, but sometimes you just got to make the first move. It's better than thinking "what if" later. It's better to think "well it was worth a shot anyway." :)

You probably make them nervous... I have had guys who didn't know how to act around me because they thought I was pretty... If you know a guy likes you or thinks you are pretty, and you kind of like him too, just go for it... Don't wait for him...

It's a little word called "rejection". The possibility of it can resonate so strongly, that you freeze up and have no idea how to talk to the girl, so you just let it go. It would help if the girl made it easier on the guy by showing some friendliness. Some girls don't help matters when they are so shy or uncomfortable they look like an ice princess that is unapproachable.

Well girls are pretty intimidating. I am a straight female, and I am even scared to walk up to most girls. We are constantly judging everyone, "Ew her hair is greasy" or "Gross he's burping his abc's" when your feelings are on the line, would you trust them with a girl?

I certainly wouldn't. And even if you're a more laid back girl like me, some guys are just too shy, have been hurt in the past, or just aren't interested.

why don't you approach them instead since clearly you have the balls to do so