Why do guys not initiate conversation with girls?

[elnaus]

So I was chatting with this guy and it's always me who initiate the conversation, and he will reply. However, when the conversation died down, and I am the last to reply, he doesn't initiate any other conversation. Is he really not interested?

[aly443]

I believe he was either busy and trying to do something else, or simply not interested. That's not the case with all guys, I have a few guy friends and one of them I've talked to for hours before. It all depends on the person, maybe he just doesn't enjoy online communication? Try talking to him in person to see how he reacts.

[Anonymous]

My previous boyfriend was like that. I asked him about it in the beginning because I wanted to know if he was interested or he just had issues starting a conversation. And he told me that he has always had an issue starting conversations but that he really was interested in me.

[whiner_clam]

Did it come to an end after that? I mean was the cause

[Opinion Owner]

@whiner_clam It wasn't the cause for us breaking up. We were together for 2 years. He had a biking accident and hit his head, that was his excuse for breaking up with me saying "I don't know how I feel after the accident so I can't be with you anymore". 2 weeks later he had a new girlfriend :P

[Anonymous]

Don't think you are out just yet. I'm someone who rarely messages someone first. He may be the same. Maybe he just doesn't know what else to reply back once the conversation has died down.
How does he act when you see him?

[CaptainSmiley]

Fortunately, he's most likely just a bad communicator. Though this is not just a, "Guys are bad at conversations thing". It's more of an outward approach. It depends on if a guy comes to you or you to them sort of deal. Where as if he's actively talking to you, but not starting the conversations he's just bad at starters.

[elnaus]

Thanks captainsmiley, I do hope he's really a bad communicator

[Patriot357]

Maybe he's unsure what to say. When it comes to women some of us guys tend to overthink things like should i say hi what if she just totally shut me down

But he may not be interested too, had the same thing happened to me with a girl, i was the one initiating contact and she wasn't

[Bananaman177]

I never open my mouth to speak unless I have something very important to say, some critical piece of information, the answer to a question, a warning, some advice, something that somebody else needs to know.

Otherwise, I don't speak until spoken to.

I just don't understand small talk, or meaningless conversation.

Maybe this guy is like me.

[Anonymous]

How many really interesting women do you know? How many women have you talked to and learned a lot from talking to? How many women have you had a conversation with where you learned something new?

There's your answer...

[Anonymous]

Who knows. Women have spent years training men to not be men.
Approach the wrong girl and your an asshole.

[Poppykate]

Not sure I quite understood the last bit... 🤔

[Noah_P]

He probably is interested but I know myself I'm not too good at initiating convos, it's not a lack of interest, he probably just doesn't know how or is too shy to

[AlwaysBelieving]

What content is this? Do you two hang out on a daily basis? Same or different social circles?

[elnaus]

Nope we had not met before. Just someone whom I chat on tinder.

[Leeviathon]

Maybe he's not a big talker. I must add that it seems rare for women to initiate conversations.

[genericname85]

he might just not have something he wants to talk about xD

[Anonymous]

I don't know why women insist on hearing from the dudes they are talking to so much.
If i wanna hear from you ill hit you up gonna be like every other Wednesday though

[Poppykate]

Lol. 😂 Girls don't hang around you too long, do they? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

@Poppykate

[Poppykate]

That's it?

[Opinion Owner]

Ooops* gonna sound braggy but they are standing in line.

[Poppykate]

Oh wait... next Wednesday.. right? Lol 😋

[Poppykate]

I am sure they are! 😂 lol

[Anonymous]

He is just not interested, instead blaming people for not communicating, think about are you interesting enough or are you worth to talk to first.

[Poppykate]

Ouch! That's mean!

[Opinion Owner]

@Poppykate That's reality, princess.

[Poppykate]

I get that... but you could have been a littler nicer to the poor girl! 😏

[ShaunaM95]

I'd say he isn't interested.

[jasonstav]

Not interested at all

[Anonymous]

Some guys are just terrible communicators.

[Seppelson]

yes i think he isn't interested

[Savatar]

Try asking him.

[Anonymous]

No.. He isn't interested