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If a girl says no at one point, should you never ask her out again?

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Just-A-Random-Guy (Age:18 to 24)     When: 5 months ago
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Should a man leave her alone forever and never ask again. Or if still interested, after a period of time, should one ask again?

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tazzy (Age:30 to 35)      When: 5 months ago
It depends really. But if a girl says no then you have done somethign wrong with your game.

It could be a shit test. She wants to know if you are really interested in her. In which case, you have to have the eye to know it.

I've posted a similar answer before because it is something that has worked for me and have been confirmed to work many times.

Do not ask a girl out until you've had some really good indicator of interest from her.

In your particular situation, she has said no, she knows you are interested in her already so it puts you at a disadvantage.

Don't ask her out again soon, let some time pass. During that time you have to show her a demonstration of higher value from a longer time perspective. This basically means you let her see you flirt with other girls, let her see that even without her you are fine.

When an opportunity crops up that you can chat her up again, don't just blurt it out, entertain her, prepare some material that she might be interested in, like movies or whatever she likes to talk about, prepare some games like "The Cube Test" google it. The Cube test is a personality test to get to know someone in a unique manner. Girls like guys who can entertain them.

Then after that make a few moves that stablishes if she is confident with you and you can touch her, play a palm reading game and arouse her touch senses, play with her hair by putting your arms around her, she'll get confused if you are really just wanting to touch her hair or you are going to pull her close and kiss her. I think you get the drift.

Then you can ask her out when you know for sure she will say yes anyways.
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kigirl33
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kigirl33 (Age:Under 18)      When: 16 days ago
Ask again unless when she turned you down she was extremely adamant. Some times it is not the right time or situation for a relationship.
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ALWAYSclassy
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ALWAYSclassy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 2 months ago
The only time you should is if she had a boyfriend at the time she turned you down.
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awholenewsetofrules
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awholenewsetofrules (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
I would agree that you should ask again if you feel up for it. Realizing that it's entirely possible, maybe even probable, that she will say no yet again. If she asks you not to ask her again or otherwise makes it very clear that she's NEVER going to change her mind, then I would say that's when you should for sure back off.

How she's going to take it is anybody's guess. I have had guys who never relented asking me out. One guy in particular asked me out pretty much daily for 4-5 months. I never changed my mind and after awhile it got annoying and a little weird. Especially since I did tell him that I was NEVER going to change my mind. And I never did.

There was another guy though that used to ask me out on a very regular basis and I ended up liking him a LOT. I just never really took him seriously. So eventually I did say yes. After that there was a lot of drama that led to an inherent inability for us to work out so we ended up just becoming best friends. But I NEVER got tired of him asking me, lol.

I think tazzy has the best advice so far. Feel it out. Look for some sort of signs that she may have changed her mind. And be ready for the chance that she hasn't.
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italian (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
if the girl doesn't like you and she's made it clear I suggest moving on because your just going to get hurt.
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tazzy The problem is what if she does like him in a way? I've had girls tell me no and apparently were just unsure. If he plays it right, he doesn't have to get hurt. A guy can get hurt only if he lets himself fall heads over heels for 1 girl before they are in a relationship. - 5 months ago
 

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ilovelegs (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
If YOU'RE interested then make sure to ask her again! I don't know what you asked her to do -go together, go to a movie or what? Maybe wait a week and then ask her to do something different. It's ok to keep asking as long as you don't get a definite rebuke or a nasty NO or she tells you to pleas don't ask her anymore! Then you have to take it that she has no interest in your, but remember other girls might so don't let that be a big put down as if no girls will ever wanna go with you. It could have been poor timing on your part, or maybe she'll have second thoughts someday and give you a chance but you won't know unless you ask her. Too many guys don't get the girls they really like because they're afraid to ask, or they're afraid to ask more than once, or they don't think they have a chance.
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