I've always wondered about that. I know girls like that are out there, but why are they so few? Do you think this will change in the future where its a little more even that guys and girls ask each other out equally?
Update: I find it a little curious that the girls under 18 are more willing than the older ones. Could it be a generation thing? Or is it merely a phase that will change when they get older?
6 months ago
I'm definitely over 18 and I have to say that I have asked guys out and got mixed results. I asked someone younger than me and while he took it better than I expected, his response was to treat me like one of the guys. I knew he was flattered but his way of telling me that he agreed to go out with me was to give me a thumbs up sign. Although I was not used to asking guys out, I did it because I knew the guy was shy and I would be waiting forever for him to ask me out. We haven't gone out yet since I just asked him, but we have seen each other since and he hasn't been treating me weird or avoiding me. If anything, he has been less shy and has been talking to me more since he knows that I like him. I do feel that if I had asked someone older than me to go out with me, it might not have been taken well because guys are just used to having the (dare I say) burden of being the one to do the asking. For me, it seemed to have been a kind of ice breaker to what we were already feeling but were too afraid to discuss. Now he knows that I know he likes me and also knows that I like him in return. He hasn't stopped looking at me when he thinks I'm not looking and still comes around to flirt with me. Lucky me.
Hell yes I would! I am confident and strong enough to do it. It doesn't make me a slut because I can do something that some people can't. At least if I ask, I will find out if he really likes me or not. Don't make us wait forever, because it's annoying and we lose interest. Either grow the balls and ask, or I might find someone else.
I have asked out guys before, with mixed results. I think it should change, because girls are viewed as slutty if they do the asking, and a lot of girls are afraid of getting rejected. However, I'm pretty sure a lot of guys have the same fear, and it's not fair to think that they have to do all the asking. I've heard girls say, "Why should I say anything? I should just wait for him to ask me out," and it bugs me that so many people think that.
Since when does guys who see the girls ask them out, view them as slutty?? What kind of B.S. is this.. - 17 days ago
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They aren't viewed as slutty by guys, but they are by other girls. I've even heard my friends say that looks desperate and whorish. - 17 days ago
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Well those are your friends' opinions not yours. I take it, with you being 17 and probably in high school still, that you think reputation matters a lot to you. Well it doesn't really, but having your own sense of purpose and personality does. So if I were you I would just follow my own path regardless of what my friends think. - 16 days ago
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Okay, when did I say that it mattered to me? I said it mattered to other girls. I love how people are lecturing me, when I actually DO ask out guys I like. I don't really care what most other people think about me. The point I was making is that it's a stupid double-standard. As you can tell from some of the other posts, obviously some girls have a problem with it.
http://www.girlsaskguys.com/Relationships-Questions/59433-whats-wrong-with-girls-asking-out-guys.html - 13 days ago
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Ok calm down, obviously I misunderstood your comment. No need for angry responses.
I am a girl, and I think it is proper for a guy to ask a girl out himself. If the guy waits for a girl to ask him, then he doesn't care who he gets. If the guy asks the girl out himself, it shows that he cares enough about just that ONE special girl, to ask her. Other girls that won't ask the guy probably feel the same way. Girls that ask the guy out are either desperate, slutty, OR they really really like a guy, and can't wait any longer for him to ask. - But with that guys, I wouldn't wait around for that girl. If you think a girl is special and awesome, ask her out! :D
See this is kinda what I'm getting at. How is a girl asking a guy out any more desperate than a guy asking out a girl? And couldn't it be the guy who feels special because he got asked out?
It just seems like there should be more double standards. More liberalism, and less conservatism perhaps. - 11 months ago
This is probably the most stupidest and selfish reply I've heard. Do you REALLY feel that entitled for guys to just come swarming over you and ask you out?
And I've NEVER head of girls who ask guys out as being "slutty." You don't know what you're talking about.. A lot of guys would absolutely love girls asking them out. - 17 days ago
Nope not me! I don't do that! I feel that if a guy is interested in you he will ask you out himself when he gets ready. If I have to do it, then maybe he wasn't that into me in the first place?
No you're just being an coward.. And have that entitled mindset that you should wait for guys to swarm around and ask you out.
There is NOTHING wrong with girls asking out guys.. Please think in our shoes for once.. - 17 days ago
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Think in your shoes for what? Men have been asking women out for years and they still do it in the real world. Why is it that only on girlsaskguys are there a bunch of guys whining about how hard it is to ask girls out? every other guy does it stop making excuses for your pansyness. - 17 days ago
Umm I have heard that it annoys the hell out of them. - 6 months ago
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I have had countless guys tell me that they would choose a girl that plays hard to get over a girll that it straightforward. I was turned down because I did ask the guy and he told me I was aggesive for not waiting for him to ask me first. - 6 months ago
Playing hard to get in the beginning is fine.. But after initial contact.. It's frustrating and makes guys think you don't even like them back, or thinking you're leading them on. - 17 days ago
well I've never asked a guy out on a real date but when I'm interested in a guy I usually suggest that we "hang out." Girls usually don't do the asking out both because of fear of rejection and/or they don't want to be seen as going after the guy. I'm even thinking about not doing the asking for a "hang out" anymore because whenever I do - even with a guy who seems interested - the guy seems to lose interest. This is because guys usually like doing the pursuing and, thus, girls are afraid of taking that away from them. If most guys change in the future [still be interested in a girl even after she pressure him to hang out with her] then it's very possible that most girls will change in the future [asking a guy out.or at least to hang out with her.]
That always happens to me. they suddenly lose interest once I ask them to hang out. it even happens with guys I just want to hang out with because they seem like fun people. but for some reason guys always take it the wrong way. - 3 months ago
Fear of rejection? Well know you know how it feels to be a dude..Who is ALWAYS expected from society to make the first moves and asking out. - 17 days ago
I would definitely ask out a guy (if I had the guts that is).I mean, I've attempted, but then I chicken out. But I think guys chicken out too. So, someone has to ask the other out, or nothing will ever happen.
I think a lot of girls think it's a guys sole responsibility to ask them out that's why there are so few. I ask guys out sometimes especially if there is flirting involved. Most guys don't ask me out because they see me as unapproachable. Maybe more girls will ask guys out in the future, but I don't see the masses of women running to ask out a guy, LOL
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