Ask a Question Answer a question Read/Write Articles Rate Members Watch Videos
Read Articles
Sign Up










johnbrown

Should I Stop Pursuing After She Says We're Just Friends?

Average Rating:
Your Rating: 
MiserableBoringEnjoyableInterestingFascinating
 
johnbrown (Age:18 to 24)     When: 7 months ago
Views: 227     Category: Dating
Theres this girl that I really like don't really like girls often enough to consider something serious but anyway she's really cute, smart, funny and athletic runs track like me;) well I really want a relationship with her and she know I like her from a long while ago but she was talking to some other a-hole but like she tells her friend that she only sees me as a friend should I give up on her or try and change her views about how she sees me maybe boyfriend material?

3000 characters left  Anonymous Spell Check Spell Check
 Report Question  Email Friend Widgets Note This
Answers
  Hide Comments From Guys  
3
From Girls  
4
 

What Girls Said

imsohood2008
320  
imsohood2008 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
Well, you can keep liking her because later on in the future she might like you. But don't keep bugging her. Just accept that she only likes you as a friend as deal with it. But you don't have to stop liking her.
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report

candeeroo82
229  
candeeroo82 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
If she has already told you that she only sees you as a friend then you should let it. If it's not there, it's not there. I'm not saying that she will never see you as the boyfriend type but there is nothing that you can do to change her mind. Just be yourself and if it happens it happens. And in the mean time explore your options. There are lots of cute, funny, smart, athletic girls out there you just have to find them. Good luck :)
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report

glowgirl3
1464  
glowgirl3 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 7 months ago
I would stop pursuing her. When a girl sees a guy as "just a friend" it's pretty hard to change her mind. Not impossible but very hard.
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report

janelov
1228  
janelov (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
Well I don't think you should pursue her. she already said that you guys are only friends and seems that she wants to keep it that way.... I think most of the time when girl say "friends" it is because they really don't see more than that but maybe over the time it could change.... she already knows you like her so what any moves can you do to change her views about how she sees you?
I think if you keep trying, she will probably feel awkward around you and eventually will try to avoid you... if that is what you want...

Or maybe you could give her time, I don't know how much you know her or how long do you know her... so depends on this .... you could wait and see what happens ....
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report
 
santabear Give up on her and find someone who is into you - 7 months ago
 

What Guys Said

tex151
1617  
tex151 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 12 days ago
She told her friends that she only likes you as a friend, so what she didn't say that to you did she? So if not then step up your game, take her out on dates, and don't treat her like a friend, compliment her, but don't go overboard with it. Don't call her your buddy or your pal, because you don't want her as that you want her as a gf. When you take her on a date don't make it ackward or weird , just casual and if you to know the ultimate test to see if she sees you as boyfriend or as a just a friend, kiss her at the end of the night or at least try. I guarentee you'll find out right then and there her opinion of you. Don't ask to kiss her, just do it man, if she backs away hey man it was worth a shot sometimes you only get one, so might as well take it when you can. If she backs off and says woah I don't think we should or I only see you as a friend, then be cool about it, just say oh ok well it was something I wanted to do for a long time now and well you may have rejected it, but at least I had the guts to try. But who knows man maybe she will kiss you back, maybe you will become friends with benefits or even boyfriend and gf, you never know till you try.
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report

Stanley
1510  
Stanley (Age:30 to 35)      When: 7 months ago
Did she tell you or her friend? Makes a difference. If it was you, then you're screwed. Women don't evaluate you on your character; they let their hormones decide what guy is worthwhile or not.

On the other hand, if she told her friend, then I wouldn't give up yet. People lie all the time and there's no reason to believe that she was telling her friend the truth.
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report

Superstrength79
2831  
Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 7 months ago
It sounds like she is still figuring out what she wants from relationships. You could try asking her what she thinks are attractive qualities about a guy; work it into a casual conversation. If you find you really need closure so you can move on, ask her what it is that prevents her from liking you... not an ultimatum, just let her know that it's bothering you to care about her and she isn't giving you any feedback. I find that when I've been allowed to know the reasons someone doesn't like me, that often enough it is such a shallow reason that I'm able to move on with my life and never give them a second thought.
Do you agree?
Agree   0 Disagree   0
Report
 
Related Questions
Search
A Guy Asked Will pursuing her make me look desperate?
Okay, so my first question ever was in regards to a bartender that I met...I got her number and we talked a couple times and now... nothing. lol.Now...   View Answers
A Guy Asked Im not really sure wut to do...
I'm a freshman in high school and I like this girl, she's in a couple of my classes. I've told her basically almost straight up that I like her on...   View Answers
Find more questions on
how far do I pursue her
Home > Dating Questions > Should I Stop Pursuing After...
 
   Not a member yet? Sign Up for FREE in 1 easy step!
  
My Icon
0
Questions View
Answers View
Stories/Articles View
Messages View
Shout Outs View
Reality Check Create
Notebook View
Advice on Video
Dating Videos
Click on video to play

Advice: How To Make The First Move
Does it ever annoy you that you're single?
random-ren asked 20 days ago

Yes, most of the time! I really wish I had a boyfriend/girlfriend!

A little, because I feel left out.

Not really...

Nope! I have too much fun being single!

What's there to be annoyed about?

Invite a Friend
Invite Friend

sweetangelcat22 (Age:18 to 24)

What is your favorite outfit for a night out with friends?
Something nice and stylish but simple

How do you style your hair and do your make-up?
Just the basics and usually down

Do I have style?
Dating Articles
 
●  Lose The Losers - Dating Tips
by  rocket
We can all think back to a time when we were young and naive. All we had to do was wait patiently, keep our noses powdered and our lipstick fresh, and Prince Charming would come riding up on a...
●  Who Pays for the Date?
by  surgent
With more women in the competitive work force, and more women making these assertive moves towards men, I think men feel it is safe to expect that more women will be paying for dates. Even though that...
Browse Categories: Flirting  |   Dating  |   Relationships  |   Sexuality  |   Break-Up  |   Behavior  |   Style  |   Other                                         Home Top
  Site Links     About GirlsAskGuys     GirlsAskGuys Widgets     Help Us Improve!   RSS Feeds
Home
Videos
Partners
Search Questions
Terms of Use, Privacy
Help
About Us
Contact Us, Send Feedback
Sitemap
Advertise With Us
Links
Post your questions on your blog, website, or any social networking page. You can embed into MySpace, Facebook and more. Click here for more info.
Have a suggestion? See a problem on the site? Click here to give feedback and suggestions on the new GirlsAskGuys, and help us give you a better experience. Visit our blog here