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Where is the line between chasing a girl who is playing "hard-to-get" and a girl who is a dead end?

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NotSoBad (Age:25 to 29)     When: 7 months ago
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Common sense would say that if she isn't responding then she isn't interested. But I don't believe that is always the case. Could it be true that women put men through tests? Is it possible that even though they don't respond well to a man that they really do like him?

Ive been persistent in the past and it never seems to work out. Currently if a woman does not respond well I assume she isn't interested. I don't want to chase something that doesn't want to be chased and end up feeling like a fool in the end?

It just seems like there is so much bullsh*t that each individual goes through when dealing with a relationship. One girl is always going through something different then the next. And I am always going through my own phases in life. Every situation seems to be an a brand new enigma and trying to figure it out just leads to confusion.

Now, I go out and I just attempt to be myself. I'm honest about how I feel. (and no I don't overwhelm women with my feelings) If they ask something I just don't lie. The bad part about this is that it takes some of the mysteriousness out of me and it is not exciting to women.

The next time I call, possibly they are busy or they all ready have plans. (is that playing hard to get?)

And not only phone calls but in todays world there are so many different ways to communicate. There are so many different ways a person can either respond or not respond.

How do I know if a girl really needs to go visit her dying grandmother or is just making up an excuse?

Where is the line between chasing a girl who is playing "hard-to-get" and a girl who is a dead end?


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lost-angel      When: 7 months ago
You could usually tell a girl is not interested if she.. doesn't show any interest.
Just pay attention to her actions/behavior.
Even girls who play hard to get can't hide how they really feel sometimes. Like, happiness, sadness, disappointment, anger...
Some signs:
-She sounds happy when you call. Or you can sense a smile on her face when she hears your voice.
-She is interested in what you have to say. Your opinions, your stories, your life.
-She asks if you're ok. Or she notices there is something bothering you.
-She gets upset (or quiet) at you. -- when a girl gets upset about something you did or didn't do, it means she actually gives a sh**.
Not interested:
-She forgot what you said 2 mins ago.
-Checks out other men.
-Constantly checks her phone, texts, calls, etc when you are together.
-When you call her, she sounds annoyed. You can sense she wants to hang up asap.
-She is NEVER available, even when you try to make plans with her 3 weeks in advance.
-She just doesn't seem to care.
Of course there are more signs, but those are just some examples that girls (even those who play hard to get) will do when their not interested.

I think a lot of men have defined being interested as: Calling all time; Texting every minute; ALWAYS wanting to go out; Always available when he calls; Always available for a last minute date; etc. --Some men misinterpret "hard-to-get" from "PLAYING-hard-to-get"--
Women have a lot going on. Women are busy people too. But even the busiest women know how to show some kind of appreciation to a guy they are interested in. They don't play games, they just keep you working for her, and lets you know she is not easy. But if for some reason they make you feel like crap. Or they make you feel like you don't exist... then they're pretty much not interested. And that applies to every woman.

I don't understand why you would go for a girl who plays hard to get. Doesn't that mean, a lot of mind games, drama, and... confusion? The games never stop for girls who "play"-hard-to-get.

Just don't confuse those who Play hard to get, from those who are not easy to get. haha I know it's confusing.
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Question Asker See a woman who plays "hard-to-get" might not call because she wants to keep you guessing. a woman who is "hard-to-get" doesn't call because why? She is just rude? lol what's the difference between a girl who isn't interested and a girl who is "hard-to-get? Is a girl who is "hard-to-get" just confused about what she wants? is she just to busy with her own life that she doesn't have time to return a call or text? are there only 3 possibilites.... interested... not interested... and confused - 7 months ago
Answerer They don't call to keep you guessing. You can't base her interest, or lack of it, by the number of times she calls you. Some women just don't call men, first.
I know it's the 21st century, but I still don't call men. lol Even if I'm interested.

If she doesn't return your call or text, then she is not interested. The only way to tell the difference is by her reaction to YOUR call. If she sounds happy you called, then she could be interested.
- 7 months ago

ssammm
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ssammm      When: 7 months ago
if it's a girl you've already met and gone out with, she would only turn you down if she doesn't like you, unless it's an exception. If she keeps blowing you off (more than once), she's probably not that into you. Girls absolutely adore the men they like and would never turn them down. If she has finals or work, she'll fit you in somehow within a few days at most.
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Anonymous User      When: 7 months ago
A girl who is not interested isn't playing. She will make no signs of interest at all other than politeness.

Hard to get is still showing that you're interested, but just not being extremely forward. It's a way that some girls use to protect themselves until they are sure of the guy's intentions. She might seem shy but she will still show some signs, she just won't be all up in your face about it
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Question Asker I know that a girl who is not interested isn't playing and that's why if I could tell the difference I would just stop bothering them lol

what kind of signs are you talking about?

who knows maybe all girls are just not interested in me lol I need to get better at this thanks!
- 7 months ago

 
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Anonymous User      When: 7 months ago
is this too' has a point. She should give you SOME sort of feedback! I know with me, sometimes I really am interested in the guy and I don't totally give him much of a response... That's usually for one of two reasons:

1. He seems to be the type of guy that flirts with a lot of girls and I don't think he sees me any different.
2. I'm going through something and he seems like wants to take more when I don't have anything to give.

Otherwise, I just don't like him. :|

Oh, and you don't have to answer every question a woman asks you ;)

I believe the answer to your final question is this... You cross the line when she vehemently told you how she feels, never(ever) responds to your texts or phone calls or email - whatever, and if when you see her somewhere (like if your and her friends hang out together and you both happen to be there too) she totally walks the other way or doesn't make eye contact or is just beyond rude.

p.s. Some girls will do that to guys anyway...but they're sadists.
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Blindness
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Blindness      When: 5 months ago
I don't know if there is such a line. And I don't care.

Because if I express interest two or three times and the girl doesn't reciprocate, I move on. I don't care about her motives. I want to date girls who want to date me, and I don't waste my time on girls who don't make time for me.
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Adidas12      When: 6 months ago
For one, you know a girl likes you if she makes up what us guys see as an excuse, which may not be, and then calls you back, or says maybe we can hang out some other time. That means she's interested and is sincerely telling you the truth about her situation.
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chrishz28      When: 7 months ago
Generally...you can give them chances to show you if they are a dead end...you can only try so much before you realize its a waste of time. Some girls live off the attention, while some don't know what they want...and so on...the enigma continues...I'm currently wrapped in one myself...where the girl pursued me, and now says she needs space...what will kill you is beating your thoughts to death. Take it all at face value...don't read into anything endlessly...and the truth will eventually come to light.
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Question Asker Great advice... I hope you take it yourself lol... I've been in your situation I've also been the who has pursued and then needed space... I liked the girl, but I couldn't envision my life with her at that time. I didn't feel like I was ready for a committed relationship. Maybe it is possible that your girl might be feeling the same way? who knows.. - 7 months ago

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isthistoo      When: 7 months ago
it's hard to tell, but there should be at least some signal (or in case of chasing girls, there should be some rewards/feedback from her). In the end, relationship is a 2 way street, and if you're not happy with what you're doing, and there are no rewards out of the process, STOP DOING IT!
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