Why do men find confidence attractive?

To be seductive, you have to be confident. Look at every scene in a movie where a woman seduces a man. Not where a woman shyly bats her eyelashes and gets a guy to go after her, that is completely different. When a woman seduces a man, she's making all the moves, driving him crazy and making him unable to think about anything but how much he wants to just give in and give her what they both want.

That's why confidence is sexy. It's related to seduction, so it's attractive in and of itself.

There is more to it, like it shows independence. Guys don't like having girls they have to take care of all the time or deal with little insecurity problems non-stop. Guys hate having to constantly be trapped in the "does this make me look fat" question, etc. That won't happen with a girl who is confident with herself.

Just the same way with guys though, being some ego maniac isn't sexy. A lot of hot girls get way too into themselves and let it turn them into horrible people, so women who are really full of themselves tend to be bitches (like guys who are full of themselves tend to be jackasses), so it's something to be avoided.

Also, because of the nature of this whole guy/girl thing, girls generally like confidence more than guys like confidence, and girls generally like shyness/nervousness less than guys like shyness/nervousness. What I mean is, there are plenty of guys who don't mind or actually like a shy girl. Insecure women in general try harder to please, because they feel like they have to in order to compete. There are less girls who like a guy who is not confident, because confidence is a major turn on for girls.

To get confidence, really it just takes practice. Probably the weirdest thing I ever discovered is that you don't even have to be confident ABOUT ANYTHING. You don't need a reason to be confident, you don't need to be that good or that hot or whatever. As long as you simply are confident, act confident, and seem confident, then bam you are scoring confidence points.

So just stop doing insecure things, stop worrying about things, stop talking down about yourself, stop displaying any displeasure you may have about yourself. Start feeling good about yourself, start thinking you are actually a pretty cool person (even if no one else does, it doesn't matter, you just have to be ok with yourself), start talking to people as if you knew they were perfectly fine with you talking to them. Look at what confident girls do, see how the flirt confidently, how they joke with hot guys, and steal pages right out of their playbook. Go to the mall or a book store or the movie rental place and just practice starting conversations with guys browsing the same stuff right next to you.

Basically just keep at it and eventually it will come naturally. You have to be able to keep going after any horrible mess ups though, which will happen. But that wouldn't keep a confident person down would it?

shows that she's independent and sexually she knows what to do.

Guys like confident women becuse we like to feel like our girl could take care of herself without us, but that she chooses us, becuse we are the best guy out there. If you don't love yourself, how can you even start to care for a guy? would you want a guy who isn't sure of himself?

Confidence is attractive to me only if it accurately projects a strong personal identity and self-esteem. To understand why, let's consider the polar opposite. A girl with no confidence and no personal identity is extremely likely to agree with whatever I say or feel. Dating such a girl would be like dating myself. I wouldn't feel like I was with anyone; I'd still be alone.

You can project confidence by having stronger self-esteem. This means that who you are is defined very well without being dependent on what people think about you. This causes you to say and do things that other people normally wouldn't (because they fear disapproval of others). The result is that people think you're confident for doing so.

Women whom are more confident (and whom find confidence in men attractive) have smaller dating pools but their confidence also tends to be the common link among sex icons. Angelina Jolie projects confidence, for example.

Not that important to me.

I like mine very hot looking but extremely dysfunctional and insecure enough that I seem really smart and clever. Beyond that, I hope they are inexperienced and naive enough to think I am the biggest manliest stud they will ever find (which, of course, is not true).

I am afraid too much confidence will make me look bad and she won't need me to solve all her problems.

eh.. some guys are. it shows that you're more outgoing and willing to have a good time/not hold anything back

you don't need to "get confidence" just talk to more guys and you'll become more comfortable around them, converting to confidence

I may, personally, be alone on this, but I personally prefer am more attracted to a lack of confidence, or, like, awkwardness, in girls. I think it's extremely cute.