(First time answerer.)
On the married women side, here's my take, though it's at her work:
I met a teller, Joanna, who wasn't the average customer-friendly teller. She asked me tons of questions--more than a stranger would like to know. Doing so made her hide her ring she was wearing on her left hand. Next time I visited, I asked her out and she said, "well, I'm kinda married. But thanks for asking though!" with a huge smile and eyebrows raised. She also keeps fidgeting and primping not able to stand still while asking about what I do and more (manage websites), and admits she's not tech savvy.
Having dropped by around May of this year, Joanna said "Hi Kris! You haven't dropped by lately. What have you been up to? How are your websites? What's the address again?"
I then stopped by on Tuesday to make a deposit and saw her. She asked what's new. Without me asking her about it, she told me when her birthday is, how old she's turning (27) and how she's struggling for financial aid to pay for school (she hasn't graduated yet). She lost the paper I gave her for the URLs of my sites, so there I am writing them for her a second time. While doing that, I challenged her: I asked about her married life, she said, "It's good, we just celebrated our two-year anniversary," but never spoke beyond that (she's a closed book about her marriage). I asked if she had/has kids and said, "OH NO! I don't have to worry about THAT for a long time." I played up and mentioned a former flame, who didn't feel the same about me, and she stopped smiling but satisfied that I'm not with her. I told Joanna how my last flame was obsessed with Prince Harry, and she said, "Oh wow... those girls are just...wow." I didn't feel like talking much because I had a lot on my mind, but she kept asking and talking without any awkward silences.
Not to say I don't have options; I'm only 25 years old. However, a married girl who admires me like this is creepy. Not once has she talked about her husband, yet I disallow my feelings to blossom. She's married, and had she waited knowing she still hasn't completed school doesn't sit well with me anyway.
Like someone said: the sanctity of marriage has gone downhill. We all make mistakes but not knowing your priorities above all the glamour is unacceptable. Some things can wait. Unfortunately, it doesn't click with those who egregiously marry, then communicating with someone, who fits like a perfect puzzle piece, have encased themselves with restrictions and guilt. She's left the door open the whole time but I never walk in.
So no, I'm not flattered. Seldom do girls hit on me, and I'm usually flattered when they do, but if she's married, she shouldn't get upset if I'm not around. She's already made her bed, she must lie in it.
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well, this is kind-of a bad example. Workplace flirting is almost a necessity, but as to that very few actually expect or would even allow anything to come of it, regardless of the relationship status of the participants. It's just an amusing way to pass the time because most of the work people do doesn't really interest them.
no, I wouldn't date a married woman. Assuming I am completely single, I might do a FWB thing with them though, if they were attractive. Unless their s/o was a friend or something, of course.
I wouldn't pursue a relationship. I know many women have fallen into this trap and I almost fell cause I fell in love with an occupied man (he wasn't married but he lived with his girlfriend and had a kid with her). After two years of working together in a professional manner he became flirtatious and it was obvious that he was having problems in his relationship and he wanted to have me as a scapegoat to real life. This infuriated me because I didn't want him to lay the blame of his crap assed relationship on me and thought, if he trully loves and respects me he'd end the relationship and simply date me instead. That is why I don't even do the friends thing with married men cause sooner or later their relationships hit their lows and then they want love affection and sex from my part without compromising their relationships. It's a drastic move but I'm human and I have desires to be loved just as any other human being hence not leaving myself out there as easy prey for a married man.
i would not knowingly date a married man. if he was hot I would be flattered and I would probably go home and masturbate, but I would NOT pursue it, and I would not encourage him, I would keep the flattery to myself, because I don't want to be a homewrecker, and a taken man is never going to give me the relationship I want.
one time I dated this guy and he wouldn't get serious with me, towards the end I started to suspect he may have had a girlfriend or was dating someone else. I never knew for sure and I know he wasn't married, but I started to see signs that looked suspicious that he might have a girlfriend, even though he assured me he was single.
even that made me feel sick to my stomach. it wasn't my fault because I didn't know for sure and he assured me many times he was not in a relationship, but something in my head didn't believe him. and it made me feel awful and used.
so no, I would not date someone I knew was taken. it would feel so wrong.
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I would feel sorry for his wife to be honest. I wouldn't date a married man. I don't like coming in second place, don't like to be the one waiting around for him to make time for me while ditching his family. I don't fancy being a homewrecker, so no, no married man for me. If he really likes me, I'd rather wait until he's divorced. Not just saying he will, but actually being divorced and maybe then I'll date him. If I would like a married guy, I would just back off. He already has someone in his life so there's no room for me. If it's his own choice to leave his wife, fine, but I don't want to be the reason he leaves her.
I would be very uncomfortable. Although I'd say it's normal for guys (married or not) to still look at other women, notice if they're attractive, etc, actually vocalizing it while in a committed relationship of any type is awkward. In a way it would almost make me feel like I'm spitting their relationship, even though chances are if they weren't hitting on me it would be someone else or other factors getting in the way of their relationship.
And for the other part of your question, no I would not date a married man or pursue them in any other way except as platonic work friends.the compliment would flatter me, but then one second later I would realize that he is an unfaithful guy who doesn't value his marriage enough to not flirt with other girls, so why would it be any different if he was with me? I'd say thanks for the compliment but you are married and I am not okay with that. Then, I'd politely leave the room.
I wouldn't date a married man... Never- simply because I deserve better than staying at home alone for Christmas while he is with his wife. I guess it would flatter me if he made obvious he thinks I'm a pretty lady and respects me, but if it goest to flirting... It would be a definite turn off.
I heard that some women find married men attractive. I don't know if that's true or not, but I wouldn't. If he flirts with me, I would think that he's in a sense, not being faithful to his wife, and I find that a very unattractive trait. Also, I don't think it would be right at all, or even in my place, to flirt with a married man. That's just not right at all.
I know this is not a popular answer but it takes two.
If two grown adults, capable of making decisions on their own, want to pursue this -- it is certainly within their ability to do so and will deal with the fall out from it.
This is not uncommon -- happens every single day.I would be flattered; but there's no way I'd ever pursue it.
No, I wouldn't date a married man.."why" you asked...bad karma. I don't need .
I would be flattered for sure, but, there will be something in my brain that wouldn't allow my self to remotely have a connection...or see him romantically no matter how attractive he.
The only thing I would remotely consider is if he's legally separated, and his divorce paper aren't finalized yet. I might give him a chance.I'm flattered because it's always nice to get hit on, but turned off at the same time, and I would tell myself "wow, what a scumbag".
I'd feel complimented but I would never pursue it. I'd tell his wife if I knew her.
ew TURNED OFF
I had a teacher way back in middle school who was married but still hit on other women. Even if it's just for fun.Turned off. Makes you lose respect for the person.
experience that many times and I am turned off totally
how about if it's a married woman guys?
no.
there has to be sum kinde of respect imo.Turn off I don't want to be a fling on the side f*** that!
I would say No do not date a married person. It causes so much pain for everyone involved. Find someone available. I promise, it will be worth waiting for.
SO turned off and angry.
Super turned off. Cheaters are douchey.
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