If I like a girl who is out of my league should I just give up and admit I have no chance?

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I mean I think she is pretty, nice, smart but I really see no chance with her.

neberle · Accepted Answer

You are not out of her league. You have spoken with her already so you have an opening. Here is the rules you need to tell yourself in the mirror a million times till you believe them.

The only thing that matters to get her is you look at yourself as a equal. If you do this she will feel the same way.

You are her equal.

Treat her as a equal.

Don't talk negatively about either you or her if you do that you are doing what 99% of guys around her don't do and trust me she will notice.

Listen to what she has to say and respond to it (with little to no questions)

Tell stories that put you in a good light and are on topic with what she is talking about. The qualities you want to portray are you can protect a woman emotionally and/or physically from assault, you are happy (you have fun) and you can lead which is as easy as saying here I want to show you something (sticking out your hand for her!) and take her to another room or something to show whatever mildly interesting thing you know is there and can talk about.

if you do those things and she is smiling while you talk you are ready for a date. Say you have to go and get her number. If she wants you to stay than just say that you just needed to get out of here and follow up with do you want to go to XXX dinner or a park not the movies. A good first date with a girl involves you and her being the entertainment.

But remember you are her equal look at yourself in the mirror imagine her and say to yourself over and over you are her equal till you believe it.

Rintrah · Accepted Answer

Whether or not someone is out of your league has a lot less to do with what they have to offer (looks and/or personality) and a lot more to do with their attitude.  If she's a snob and thinks she's better than everyone else, then you're likely not going to get very far.  But that's on her, and there's nothing you can do about that.  On your end, I can tell you that if you approach the situation - or her face to face - with the attitude that she's out of your league, you're kind of doomed from the start.  That attitude will most likely come across in your interaction even if you try hard for it not to.  You need to understand attraction, and it's both simple and complicated at the same time.  It has a lot less to do with the things we sometimes think it does.  You will hear this time and time again but most women are attracted to confidence, more than anything else, and it's nearly always true.  You have to understand what you have to offer and feel confident about that, and look past your shortcomings - we all have some.  When you know you have something worth having, the women you interact with will too.  Of course not all women will go for you just because of that, there are other factors, but that's the biggest one - and the first one.  You should give it a shot, but you need to boost your confidence before you do, because that will be communicated to her one way or another.  But definitely try, because the worst thing that can happen really isn't that bad.  And it's not as bad as wondering "what if?" you had tried when you never did.

Dollface-86 · Accepted Answer

This is kind of retarded hun. No one is out of your league unless YOU say they are. You like someone then go for it. If you are afraid of being shot down then just casually mention that you both should get some friends together and do something. Make it a group event so there isn't any pressure, but at the same time you get to know each other. I get it a lot too. I meet a lot of guys that are like "Yeah I've had a crush on you for years" and my response is "Why didn't you say anything?" And their reply is always pretty much the same. "I thought you were out of my league" or "Well everyone knows you and likes you and you're really amazing. I didn't think you'd be interested." It sux  because the last guy that I had that exchange with was really cool and I totally would have gone out with him. Always keep this quote in mind  "Dont let the fear of striking out, keep you from playing the game." haha

creding · Accepted Answer

if you pick up on anything that seems like she's flirting back at you, ask, or do something! If she says no then say, "okay, well I'm happy being just friends too." I wish guys would say that to me when I say no... not word for word, but just let me know that they aren't going to mope or think I never want to tlak to them again... knowing that just becuase I said "no" won't make it where we can't be friends is nice... so ask her, if the answer is yeah, then YAY FOR YOU! if the answer is no, just let her know ur okay with it and u'd still like to be her friend... at least, that's wut I would do if I were a dude...

BEST OF LUCK!

LivelyMind · Accepted Answer

Take a risk buddy , I mean what's their to loose if you could have only so much to gain ?

we can't go through life thinking everything through sometimes you just have to live in the moment , take all the confidence you got and hope for the best ;) , if she rejects you hey maybe she's a conceited bitch not to give you a chance to at least hang out or maybe she's different and geniune enough to let yo in but in all

at least you tried and are willing to put yourself out there , that's a plus , a turn on ;P

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

It is all about self confidence. Build your confidence through trial and error. Having confidence means you aren’t afraid of failure. Failure is how humans learn to eventually do things right the first time and to do them instinctually.

It is also about going online and studying the signals a woman demonstrates when she is interested in a certain dude.

These signals were designed for the benefit of the woman. Why you ask?

Women are no different than men when it comes to knowing if the guy is into them, unless he is creepy or threatening. What do l mean by that? If a woman is trying to attract a guy she must read up on what she can do to subtly show interest and it is important for a man to make a woman feel safe. Women know there safety is always at risk with men they can’t trust.

It is vitality important for the man to study what those hints are. An empathetic woman will also understand that we men can be slow on the uptake and when women are really attracted to us, they will make it easier for us.

It is simply the “foreign, sign language” of attraction.

By the same token, a man can take those same signals women use, pick the ones suited for a man, and flirt back, and why not.

The two of you must be fluent in the same language to have a coherent conversation.

dangibbs · Answer

No you shouldnt take this attitude.

First of all, install some confidence and belief in yourself. Not only is it important for you, but women always sense this in my experience. Women like to see a confident man I think, not cocky though.

Go and chat to her, just have some conversation and see where it takes you. Try and have a few laughs. If you seem to connect ask her out for a drink or something.

And if she does turn out to say no, don't stress it. Believe me we've all been turned down before but it shouldnt phase you. If you don't ask you don't get as they say.

Blankname1 · Answer

NO!

Never and I mean never think that nonsence again.Trust in ur self.U can get almost any girl you want,trust me girls are waiting for you to come to them and they might even come to u,so relax be confident and just believe in ur self.The worse that can happen is just her saying no.

I know ur mostly likely afraid of rejection,but it happens,so go out and just give it a shoot.

You will be better man.

Belief is the most powerful thing someone could have.If you belief you can do it you have a greater chance of successing.I mean come on If you didn't believe the tooth paste was in the bathroom,then you would not go there to brush ur teeth.It's that simple.

Tip:When ur having the conversasion try to stare her to a topic you both like,Listen to what she has to say and Use Open-end questions in the begining,so you chat longer and can find more about her.Be funny and there you have it.

Peace!

noregret11 · Answer

No girl is ever out of any guy's league really, you just have to make the right moves to woo her.

Find out what she is into, make increased contact, maybe spend some time together hanging out, and let it build.

Keep in mind, you have just as much power to get her as you do any other girl, she is just more intimidating because she doesn't act desperate. Work to get her.

m33ladEmjay · Answer

Your statement is so poor!! You have to understand men are not biologically designed to be beautiful. Any girl that chaces top hot guys is because she's in a very SIMMPY places.

I would change my language.. and if you want hot girls you need to level up in your mind set, body, style, confidence and etc..

As men we have no values, we need to work on ourselves year after year.

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amoh24 · Answer

just try being friends with her. don't act like you have any other intentions than just that. don't hit on her, be different than most guys who are always hounding after pretty girls. she may come to realize after spending time with you that she really likes you. when guys are always thinking though that they have to just ask someone out it's kind of ridiculous. I hate it! I don't wanna date around, I wanna make friends, and maybe something more can come of it later..

jessicaerin_5 · Answer

go for it! do you really have anything to lose? and being out of your league is no excuse. my boyfriend thought that I would never go out with him because I was out of his league and we've been together for a year.

so just tell her why you like her and say something really sweet, then ask her out. she'll be so knocked off her feet by the way you ask her.

KahCaputo · Answer

Never give up on what you want! EVER!  No one is out of anyones league. I don't care what anyone says. Love is love and it doesn't matter who its with as long as you're happy. If she is what you want and she makes you happy, go get her! Make her yours! All it takes is a little confidence! Good luck! :)

creding · Answer

why do you think you have no chance at her? Do you actually know her, or do you just think she looks nice and "seems" nice?  if you know her and know that she is actually somebody who would want to be ur friend in the first place/ is ur friend, then I'd say ask her.  I know I like guys who nobody would think I would, so she could like you. Give yourself some credit and don't automatically count yourself out.

breakingstyles91 · Answer

Stop giving yourself excuses and ask her out already. You have to think that no one is out of league and she will thank you for that or recognize that your efforts. You never know if she is interested until you ask her. It's different coming out a relationship but bite the bullet as emzy-89 says, what do you have to lose?

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't think she is necessarily out of your league just because she is pretty. we see couples all the time people that we perceive are not "equals" in terms of physical attraction. the great thing about attraction is that it is subjective and dependent on more than just physical looks.

molonski2 · Answer

See there is your problem , I just don't think she is " out of your league " , I think its silly to say that , you work out a strategy and you go for it , I see comments like this here all the time and ratings ! Its honestly bullshit , who is to rate? Your league? It doesn't exist.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Why is it that you think she is out of your league? The first time I noticed this was after I transferred to a University when I was 20. When I was there I saw the social "hierarchy" that there can be at that age. When I was at my first college, I was pretty much at the top anyway (not to brag at all), but at the Uni not so much. A lot of the "league" had to do with what kind of family a woman came from and what the expectations were socially from her family.

Audette · Answer

What is more beautiful to see a guy doing and making real effort to get to know you. Women see that kind of stuff. The other thing if she has a type of men and you're the opposite, then I would work more on the psychological side than appearance

loveLIFEgiveLOVE · Answer

I don't think that you should just give up. Sure, it may seem kind of questionable at first like, why am I even bothering with trying to get with her, but the thing is, what you may seem as out of your league, she may think otherwise. If you like her, I say try to spark a conversation with her, see what she is all about. Who knows...the two of you may really hit it off together.

Anonymous · Answer

You know what, you should go for her, but a lot of people on this site say that if your ugly you should lower your standards. So if you are some 250 lb fatass trying to get this girl. Then it won't work. If you are just underconfident and look fine then go for it.

valo712 · Answer

ok dang brah get ur sh*t straight any guy its good for any girl all you need its confidence your way better than her believe that now find your balls and go ask her out on a date you'll see you guys will be goo dtogether and if it doesn't work out don't think its you maybe she is a bitch so what but you gained the confidence to ask some other girl out

CoKaCola · Answer

I think you should give it a try. You may be surprised. A gentlemen I am seeing now would have never spoken to me if I had not approached him. Best move I've made in a while. I say GO FOR IT! Good luck :o)

couchweed92 · Answer

does she already know of you or are you a stranger? the answer to this will determine how you play the game. whatever you do, don’t be mister nice guy and remember that everyone likes what they can’t have & what’s not good for them… by everyone i mean girls though. so use that to manipulate the situation the best you can.

Anonymous · Answer

Is she giving you any signs that she's interested? If she is, you should definitely do it. Even if she's not, sometimes girls start having feelings once someone gives them special attention. I have a huge crush on this quiet/socially awkward guy in class. We've never spoken, but I think about him all the time. I really wish he would start a conversation with me but he just does the occasional stare and smile.

jeffend888 · Answer

Yes, you should. On top of that you're 34. It's time to start accepting reality and settling for someone who's going to give you a nuclear family.

Believe me - if you even are able to attain the girl who's out of your league? She's going to be more trouble than she's worth.

ALWAYSclassy · Answer

STOP IT! Never think someone is out of your league.  that kind of thinking is just shooting yourself in the foot.  think of yourself as a valuable person who has something to offer.

NMMan · Answer

You have to be in the game to win the game - there's no harm in making the attempt. The worst she could say is "no" - and if that happens, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

Billlewis · Answer

To me, one of the most beautiful things a guy can do for a woman is to work his ass off to please her -- after it's been firmly established that there is no chance whatsoever for him to have intercourse with her.

shelbylyn · Answer

absolutely not don't give up just show her you like her and what's the worst that will happen she may say she doesn't like you who cares then you can move on with ur life but she may like you and then you got yourself ur girl

stktder · Answer

Have you ever heard the old saying, You can't mix a race horse with a mule cause if you do all you get is a jackass ? Well, that is what kind of a relationship you will get if you date out of your league.

emzy-89 · Answer

you need more self confidence. my advice to you would be to make yourself known to her and try to be around her a bit more and then bite the bullet and ask her out. you don't really have anything to lose, people do this all the time. go for her!

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

nope. you should try i'm out of a lot of guys' leagues i don't want to be cocky but if you don't try, you won't even be giving yourself a chance so be confident walk up to her and talk :-)

stevo · Answer

You certainly can't throw in the towel without ever had trying. You won't know anything unless you try. So, don't ever deny yourself the possibility of thinking you're out of her league. Give it a shot : )

wally · Answer

Theres no such a thing out of someone league. have some confident and  Approach her if you do like her. never know unless you try. good luck..

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can't be out of her league when leagues don't exist. That is just another weak excuse men use for not getting with the women they want.

Mercedes08 · Answer

absolutely not! you should go all out for this girl. you shouldn't look  back 1day and wonder what it could've been like if she told you yes. so take a chance buddy, just might be surprised...

emsta360 · Answer

personally, its more annoying for the girl when guys don't try because they're 'out of their league' because the girl then, who is apparrently 'so good' doesn't have any offers at all! lol

Pinkaholic · Answer

How do you know you don't have a chance? I say go for it! The worst she can do is say no. If she says no, then its not like you can miss something you never had. GOOD LUCK!

WeaponZero · Answer

youd be surprised how many guys don't approach her for those same exact reasons.  go for it.

simplymebabeee · Answer

confidence is really hot so if you just talk to her you'll be fine.  And you HAVE HAVE HAVE to believe in yourself... Don't give up ok? =]

Yebah · Answer

Ya just go for it, plus it adds up to exp, no loss only gain. Doubt is for sissies, prove to yourself you aren't. :)

satish · Answer

NO! MAN! FUCKIN' AY!MAN! There is no such thing as ' out of your league'! It's just your insecurity talking. And  that's not very attractive!

volleyball5 · Answer

who's to say she is out of your league? maybe your exactly they type of guy she is into. so give it a shot. the worst that happens is she says no

Yurippe · Answer

No, you should not! Only she knows if you are her type. Plus, you seem nice and smart as well. :

budphillips · Answer

Tell her you like her and want to take her on a date.  If she says no, then you can move on.  If she says yes, then you got a date.  Good luck!

nicholasrl13 · Answer

be nice, funny, charming and then no ones out of your league. Good luck

beerY33 · Answer

No harm in trying. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Just go for it and see what happens.

SotiCoto · Answer

Leagues are an illusion. Whether they look amazing or have an arm growing out of their forehead, the odds seem to be the same regardless.

Anonymous · Answer

no. you should pursue her...you never know what she is thinking.

Radiate143 · Answer

Why do you believe that you have no chance?

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

I presume you've never heard of the expression "fake it till you make it" - short answer is, no. Go get her Tiger.

DextroShade · Answer

Just shoot your shot, if she rejects you or says "let's just be friends" then ghost her and move on with your life.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. Get that thought out of your head and take a shot. You might miss, but you sure aren't going to make a shot you do not even take.

The-Stud · Answer

If you put yourself in lower "leagues" you already lost man

butterly248 · Answer

@girlsaskguys there is another question that is highlighted/featured again that is over a year old!

never_know66 · Answer

well why back out will you regret asking her out? You will if you never do!...

Anonymous · Answer

Get to know her better, and flirt a little. If she doesn't like you for who you are, her loss.

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

No, No, No.. a lot'uh the odd couples are generally hott gal-to'up looking dude!. Some examples:Selena & Chris Perez, Laura Winslow &'er real life husband, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

why not date someone for them and not for their looks?

slmccain74 · Answer

You have no chance with her if you don't take a chance. Everyone gets rejected once in a while, no biggie.

grega239 · Answer

Stop wasting your time and focus on your own life. Its easier to live that way

Quigly · Answer

Why is she out of your league? What League are you in?

Joker_ · Answer

maybe

Anonymous · Answer

Both.

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