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Are Men intimated by Independent Women?

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Ashlea (Age:25 to 29)     When: A month ago
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Sometimes I wish I was an uneducated, small-minded girl who was satisfied with being the home-maker and marrying any man who came into her life to 'look after' her. . But unfortunately, I am the opposite. I am a successful health care practitioner in my own practice. I'm financially secure. I'm independent. I don't need anything from anyone, except love. Lately I have found that as a result of this men think I am, "high maintenance" and I get the impression that they think I am not wanting someone special?

Guys, please give me the low down on how to appear more approachable so that I may meet someone special.?

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Shibarib (Age:30 to 35)      When: A month ago
My personal though is not too worry about being "approachable".
The rules of relationships in our culture are in flux. Women are no longer dependents on men and yet women seem to think they should wait for men to ask them out. That doesn't work so well. Some of the best guys are a bit shy, or possibly intimidated and may not ask out someone they are interested in because they see her as too successful, pretty or any other attribute they attractive to them. The solution is to look for guys who you find interesting and ask them out. If they're intimidated after that, find another guy, because that one won't work for you.


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Question Asker But don't guys prefer to do the 'asking'.... as men are hunters... blah blah blah? - A month ago
Answerer I don't think most guys actually do prefer to do the asking... some may, but not all humans are hunters and I think a successful woman wouldn't want to date a man who saw her as a hunting trophy. Women rock! Trophies just sit on walls 'til they are replaced by some new curiosity. There are more than a few men who like women instead of trophies. They're just harder to find because they're not out "hunting." I would suggest an upscale "Speed Dating" event to find them.
-B - A month ago

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kevin-camron (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
girl as far a I remember ,(cause I'm still a uni student)and have casino addictions.so my girl friends been helping me out sometimes my friends and my mom except my dad,im fine with people helping me out,once I had no money for 3 weeks my girlfriend took care of everything! I'm fine with independent people no matter how independent you be ,im not from ghetto so iv been living it large,even when I have no red cent I still have a good self esteem and confidence vested in me just naturally,
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meanandfunny (Age:30 to 35)      When: A month ago
Most guys don't get your signals at all, A smile will do it! Rule of thumb have FUN lots of it - creates a energy about you. Get this book - Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo, she really gets us guys big time(I use her stuff on women) hope this helps
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WindChaser (Age:18 to 24)      When: A month ago
No my dear, not all men are intimidated by how beautiful and successful a woman is. Some men do not define other's and their own self worth by aesthetics nor success. Their self worth determined by their way of life, their philosophical reasoning. So no matter how beautiful and successful a woman is, she will pale in comparison to him if she is living life for superficial/superfluous reasons.
But these type of men, I'd like to argue GREAT men and are usually intelligent and prudent, will still often avoid MOST* women who are beautiful and successful. Not because they are intimidated but because of they understand the general nature of a woman.
Women will almost always look up and rarely down. In other words, if she's good looking and successful, she will want someone who is more successful and at least as good looking(looks aren't as important as success to a woman). So there is almost an assumption that the successful women will carry an air of arrogance around them. There is more to be said about this, but I will cut it short and end it as one reason.

The second reason is that somewhere in the back of men's mind, on some subconscious level, we conceptualize a woman to be a being who is warm, loving, and caring. But when a woman who is overly driven and is too "successful," she appears to violate her role as a woman, thus, becoming a man. It was us men who went to war and fought the beast back in ancient times. And it is still us men who do similar things but now in offices and corporate buildings. So when a woman does these things, she appears to be less feminine and "caring," thus, less attractive.

Both of these reasons are based on the assumption men have on the TYPICAL successful woman. If you truly believe you are not like this, that you can actually look "down," love a man for what he stands for, be successful yourself and maintain your femininity, then you will need a way to broadcast who you are and your intentions. The best way and perhaps the only practical way to do is by using your body language. I am still writing up my article on how a woman can be more approachable. If you like to see how it goes, just message me and I'll send you a rough draft =) it should be good reason for you and plus it should help me write a better article for others to read/use.


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Question Asker You write beautifully and yes, please send me a rough draft! I will message you now. - A month ago
LoveDoctor Clap, clap,clap! I can't wait to read your article too! - A month ago
 

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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
Well I am in a very deep relationship. Going very well, I think he might be the one. I just want to know if I am still date-ABLE? I'll describe one of our dates.We went to Penns Landing (rocks,beach scene,water,very picture perfect sight and place) I like to be myself and wear what I honestly feel comfortable in. Enough for mystery.

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Im a very open and comfortable with myself, so I would have to say a lot. But not enough to figure me out on one day. I like there still to be mystery as that makes you want to come back and keep the conversation going. I wouldn't just talk about myself and I don't like talking about my family on a first date. Just Just enough to have him see something in me. MY PERSONALITY..

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