My best friend and I have been fooling around. We are both single now so its not all that wrong. Yes, he's a guy. He's kinda on the rebound.
He's a 2 years older than me, yet I'm more experienced. We both have oaths to virginity till marriage, and have similar morals. We have a lot in common and he says I'm the only person that seems to understand him. I'm the only other person he's cried in front of besides his mom. And I've cried more in front of him than I have anyone this year. My parents trust him so much and see him as one of the girls that he is aloud to spend the night. So as you can see we are damn good friends.
It started out as cuddle buddies. And then kissing got involved. Now every time we are together alone we end up making out and fooling around. He's on my mind every hour, and I just can't seem to shake it. I've loved this boy as a friend for so long, and now I look at him and wonder what it'd be like to wake up with him beside me, and all that crap I am to young to be curious about.
It's been a month of friends with benefits and I've gone farther with him than I have anyone else in my past. I can't even carry a conversation with him like I used to before. We sit in silence most of the time, or we ask questions that receive I don't know for an answer. He's said one day that he thinks he likes me more than a friend, and then the next day he says he thinks he just likes having someone there.
This is all causing me so much confusion, and I feel like I'm being played by my best friend. I look at him and can't help but think how great of a guy he is. I miss the old him though. I fell for the old him, and I want to be in a relationship with him! Not what he's been with me recently. . . a horn-dog who can't keep his hands to himself, or his tongue for that matter.
He's going off to college this fall. Its 30 miles from where I live so its no biggie. I've told him I wanted to wait to continue a relationship with him when I get out of high school. He said he'd always keep a slot open for me. I was his first real crush. My other close friends tell me that it'd be a bad idea to continue it to relationship, because it would change everything, and the demolish the trust I've re-built with my parents. (who already told him that if me and him were to ever be on the same page and wanted to date that he had their blessing without question.)
I'm tired of it being one day oh I love you blah blah blah. And then the next I don't know if I even like you. Randomly he'll send me texts saying I love you. Having not seen me for 2 days, but I never know in what way.
I'm not to sure what I'm asking. I guess I just want to know if this is normal? What do you think I should do? Why do you think he's doing this?
Sounds like he's very inconsistent with you. Not sure if that's what you want or deserve. I think it's normal considering that this person you're with is confused. I think you should take some time to think about what you want. If you don't like the inconsistencies then you should talk to him about it. If he can't change, then I would just move on. It's not fair to leave you confused and hurt. Best of luck!
Thanx! I did have a talk with him, and he said he likes me... and is going to prove it to me sometime and that he won't just take it back like he has the past few times. Although I'm rather bitter about it so its not bother some. - 4 months ago
It is normal but you got to think about it two a relationship does change a friendship.No matter what some people say it does change and I don't know why I get the impression that,that boy changed already.If he's going to college let him go but idk.this is complicated if you do like him and stuff like that go for it.
Very complicated. He has changed... and I know it... but he changed with his last girl. Then went back to normal and relapsed with me. I feel our friendship changing already... I see it changing at least from my side. I can't stop thinking about him, and I have nothing to say to him anymore. Mainly because I'm trying to figure all this out... and its the only thing going on in my life right now. I appreciate your advice... - 4 months ago
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Yeah no problem but hey did you already give it up to him? - 4 months ago
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What do you mean? - 4 months ago
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Did you have sex wit him? - 4 months ago
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No, I didn't. That's one of the morals we share... virginity till marriage. We didn't do oral either. Pretty much we both are the virgin mary's of our group. (that's what they call me). - 4 months ago
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Okay yeah I had read that part but that's good that nothing happened. - 4 months ago
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Yeah, me and him both are... all we did was digital and heavy heavy make-out sessions... that was basically like having sex with clothes on... well... most of our clothes on. Our shirts always managed to come off lol. - 4 months ago
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Lol wow!haha - 4 months ago
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Yeah, I'd like to date him and all... but he's been spending the night a lot recently... and my parent's weren't born yesterday... lol. They might put it together... since they know about him sneaking around with the last girl he ended up dating... so yeah... I've been attempting to avoid thinking about it... unsucessfully obviously. - 4 months ago
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It will take time no lie but in the mean time have fun with it and by the looks of it you are but its okay if ya promised and all that stuff nothing more is ganna happen and its cool that he respects that - 4 months ago
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