My brother is mad at me because I slept with his wife

First off, you need to apologize fully for everything you did, and tell him why it was wrong, and have him understand that you know that and you're not going to do it again, ever. Really sincerely mean it. You may have to do this several times.

Keep in contact with all of your family. Maybe talk to your mom or somebody, so that she has your side of the story, and can somewhat relay your good will to him.

At first you need to give him some space. He probably doesn't feel very safe right now and he's probably going to have major trust issues well into his life.

What you can do is continually be nice to him. Also, get your own woman. When you are crazy in love with some other girl, you will be less of a threat to him.

He probably won't want to see you very much, but you're family and so you have to come to an agreement about this, something that will work, because you have to see him for the holidays and everything. So try to see him every chance you can, and try not to "manipulate" him into liking you.

He probably doesn't want you to be able to feel the amount of pain he's going through, but an amount of pain is necessary for everyone in the family until this is healed properly.

Don't expect things to go back to normal. Also, don't forget who you guys were before all this happened, and try not to let it never happen again.

Keep in mind that he may go through serious bouts of depression over this, and it is your duty and responsibility to be there for him as much as you possibly can.

Try to get you both or all three some family counseling. That is probably the best thing you can do.

I've been in a similar situation. I hope this was helpful. *hugs* It's not easy being the man behind blue eyes.

Dude. that's f***ed up. I would never forgive you, honestly. you pretty much ruined this man's life. he took you in after your were a douche to your girlfriend and you bang his wife? that's pretty awful. I mean, you obviously didn't learn your lesson after your girlfriend kicked you out. that's pretty unforgivable in my book.

just stay away from him. you can write and apologize, but give your brother some space. you're lucky he just gave you a black eye. I would've killed you, man. that's messed up. that's your family. it's one thing to sleep around on your girlfriend, but to betray your family like that is a whole other thing.

you don't really sound sorry either. 'i do feel pretty bad about what I did'. umm. that's an understatement. you should feel terrible and depressed and digusted with yourself. I wouldn't even know where to begin if I were your brother. nothing will ever be the same and I think you need to accept that you're pretty much disowned. I feel bad for your sister because I wouldn't have taken you in because that's the biggest douchebaggin' move in all of HISTORY. I hope you get your shit together.

Sounds like another bullshit story.like that guy who wouldn't take his brother in after his parents died.the wording is kinda the same too.

If its not.dude I hope you go to hell. I see a whole hell of a lot of cheating being an Army wife, and I see some crazy shit. But I have NEVER seen shit like that. There is no possible way to make it up to your brother and I honestly wouldn't blame him for never talking to you again. That's some messed up shit you did. You don't deserve to have him forgive you. I couldn't do it if I were in his position. Leave your brother alone and let him do his own thing. If he comes to forgive you, then so be it. But if your try, you'll probably just piss him off even more. I'd just stay away and hope he doesn't kill your or somethin.