OK, you did slap him first, he may have just reacted in a defensive manner. I'm not saying he wasn't wrong, clearly both of you were wrong.
Did you do any Pre-marital counseling before you were married? My fiancé and I did pre-marital counseling which was a requirement of the pastor we wanted to marry us, we thought we would just go along with it and get it over. We came away from it with some pretty useful conflict resolution tools that we have already used in our relationship, normally we don't argue or fight every couple has their moments.
You and your husband probably would benefit from either some sort of formal or counseling with a minister, from what I understand many churches do this as a part of their ministry services and rarely charge other than if you choose to donate something. (That was what we did. Hopefully I don't come across as having the answers, I know I don't. I just know we have been helped as a couple with what we've learned.)
I know people are saying you slapped him first he has the right to slap you back blabla, I don't think that's true.
Okay, you shouldn't have slapped him, I don't think anyone should slap anyone in any relationship. But it's unfortunately true that men are physically stronger than women, which makes him slapping you back kind of unfair.
And also "you slapped me first" is a bit childish as a reason to slap you back. He should have turned away and left or something.
But in any case, I think that men who are capable of laying hands of their wife even once and get away with it have a high chance of doing it again.
Don't slap him again, but if this repeats itself, RUN.
Technically you were wrong for slapping him. And if we want equality here when a man hits a woman we expect the woman to fight back. Soo when you hit him he is expected to fight back as well. All that technically. Now have you talked with him ever since? And since this is your third child and he has never abused you before (and I hope you haven't done that to him as well) I doubt it will happen again. so I think you should talk with him but if this happens again you will divorce him no matter what.
Maybe Im the only one seeing both sides. I think if a man hits a woman it's wrong and vice versa my only concern is the kids. Violence in the home no matter how slight affects everyone. And as I saw first time is alway the hardest. If it happened can again with no trigger or just arguing as hard as it is leave
I love how you threw in the "9 months pregnant" to make yourself seem like the innocent victim. You slapped him first, what did you expect? Him to challenge you to a pillow fight?
Also, a guy doesn't just get to the point of "I'm going to slap this bitch" out of nowhere. This is clearly built up tension, which leads me to believe you aren't the most pleasent woman to be around on a daily basis. Poor guy probably takes 2 hour shits just to get away from you.
Hah. You slapped him first.
You have absolutely no right to even attempt to justify your actions.
Maybe if you don't want to be slapped, don't slap other people?
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Maybe he should have posted this instead of slapping you back. Then he could asl everybody about leaving an abusive wife.
Sorry, but often there is a reflex. Sometimes it is a reflex to hit back, sometimes it is a reflex to let you know how something felt. Maybe the reflex is not right, but the trigger (you hitting first) was definitely wrong. And after you started this, you are here asking us if you should leave him? Wow, you are a work of art.
Thats reflex honey, he probably regrets it. Decent men don't hit women but the following rules still exist.
"If you don't start nothing, there won't be nothing" and
"if you can't take it, don't dish it"
You asked what to do, I say wait, if he's a decent guy, he'll come back an apologize profusely. It was a reflexive act brought on by his instinct and your aggression. Once the adrenaline wears off, he'll come back.
You both were at fault here. No, I don't believe a man should hit a woman, unless she's an actual threat. But it appears that, because you're a woman, you believe you're entitled to hit a man without an sort of consequence. Personally, I wouldn't have hit you, but I would being consulting an attorney in near future.
Take some space from each other & looking into couple's counseling.
How about you stop being abusive?
If you attack someone, be prepared to receive self-defensive force. If you don't want to receive force, then stop attacking people.
Unless you want divorce proceedings (and perhaps even a criminal investigation) where you get accused of domestic violence, I suggest you stop this nonsense right now. Do you want to lose custody of your children?
Well... You are the one who slapped in first. You might be pregnant but he doesn't give you the right to do so, he shouldn't have hit you either but you're the one who started it, you are in the wrong here.
It depends on what you were talking about before you slapped him. You got physical first, so you started it but he shouldn't have felt any need to use physical action to dominate a women. That's kind of low. You should stay and talk it out, people are not perfect.
Is this your first time slapping him?
Maybe he got tired of your shit and decided to actually slap you back this time.
Doesn't feel too good to get slapped does it?
You slapped him first so I have no sympathy for you.
You treat others the way you want to be treated. I just find it hilarious the way you wrote "why now when I'm so close to having our 3rd child" Come' on the damsel in distress doesn't suit you. You initiated this aggression what did you expect for him to be passive? No!
You slapped your husband and then you're somehow shocked when you get a slap in return?
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First of all you shouldn't have slapped him, it's not a good idea to slap someone and act like you're not going to get hit back.
Secondly you should leave for a few days or until you have the baby, stay with your family or a friend, then when the baby is born call your husband to where your staying and talk about what happened... you both NEED to apologize for hitting each other.
Or you can just leave him if you don't feel safe.
You slapped him first... On the way with his third child, he doesn't deserve physical abuse. It's good he slapped you back. Although, I don't condone violence, I bet you won't be tempted to do it again.
That's typically what happens when you slap someone first...
You fucking slapped him first... it's one thing to give him a shove but it's another thing to give him a clean slap.
I have no compassion for those who hit someone then freak out when they get hit back. That's how the world works. Maybe next time you should control your anger and think before you slap someone who is most likely way stronger than you are.
Take it in stride, and watch your manners for future reference. A man can only tolerate so much bullshit before he snaps. Do not deliberately push his buttons, if you were being foolish then you need to apologize to your husband.
Then again I do not know the contextual circumstances or the nature of the argument so my opinion is biased based upon previous examples of this.
Both of you are in the wrong. You slapped him, which should never occurred. No matter how bad you're arguing, you shouldn't put your hands on each other. His slap was probably a reflex, but still doesn't make it right.
You need to leave. Neither one of you should put your hands on the other. Sorry this will be difficult, but the situations will just continue to escalate. Do you usually get physical when you're fighting with him?
So you expect your husband to accept your physically aggressive behavior?
Just like @evenlift mentioned why don't you stop being abusive?
Next time don't be so ignorant to assume that someone won't slap you back after slapping him/her first.
typical "i'm a female, hear me roar VICTIM" bullshit
If you stay you only make it okay for him to do it again. Please report domestic abuse and save yourself before it gets worse
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