My ex called me a stalker?
So... my ex broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. I acted desperate and begged him on the day of the breakup, but I didn't contact him for about a month. I sent several texts after that, he replied to some but ignored most of them.
Then he texted me out of nowhere that he wanted to see me again. I knew I needed to act cool but I became all desperate again.
After seeing him, I became desperate and made so many mistakes. I showed up at his place and gave him a letter. Letter basically said how I was selfish for pushing my happiness on him, but still wanted to see him before he leaves.
I also messaged his sister and friends for advise.
And now he called me what I'm doing is what stalkers do...
When I last saw him a week ago, he said I could visit him in August. (We'll be in a long distance)
But now, I don't know... He left without even saying goodbye to me.
He's ignoring me now and I won't contact him for a while.
I plan to contact him in the end of July about me visiting my friends in his area and see if he still wanted me to stop by at his place for a few days.
Bad idea? Should I just move on? Will he forgive me about me acting like a stalker?
What's Your Opinion?
What Guys Said 1
Are you focusing on what makes you happy? He should not be on that list, as he's not making you happy. The memory of you and him is what makes you happy, and is that healthy?
Try to understand where he's coming from, WITHOUT asking anyone. You dated him, talked with him about the relationship issues - you need to understand why he wants space.
Partners are meant to enhance our lives, not define them. He is defining your happiness right now, isn't he?
What are things you wanted to do, but couldn't because you wanted to make him happy? You should be focusing on what makes you happy, even when you're dating.
What Girls Said 1
The guy sounds like a jerk. Even if you did act desperate, he should cut you some slack...heartache will make anyone act out of character. From one girl to another, I say the more you contact him, the more he thinks he has you wrapped around his finger. So when you go visit your friends in his area, do JUST that...have a great time with them and don't tell this guy you're there. If he finds out and realizes you didn't tell him, maybe he'll realize what he's missing. MAYBE. Don't hold your breath. Just do what makes you happy.