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My ex called me a stalker?

So... my ex broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. I acted desperate and begged him on the day of the breakup, but I didn't contact him for about a... Show More

p.s. I don't know how to set my age range, but I am in my early 20s.

What Guys Said 1

  • Are you focusing on what makes you happy? He should not be on that list, as he's not making you happy. The memory of you and him is what makes you happy, and is that healthy?

    Try to understand where he's coming from, WITHOUT asking anyone. You dated him, talked with him about the relationship issues - you need to understand why he wants space.

    Partners are meant to enhance our lives, not define them. He is defining your happiness right now, isn't he?

    What are things you wanted to do, but couldn't because you wanted to make him happy? You should be focusing on what makes you happy, even when you're dating.

    • Thank you for your straight comment. Yes he is defining my happiness right now... He doesn't want a long distance and doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. And I know he wanted to sleep around with girls.

      Maybe after he's done playing around, he'll come back... but he called me a stalker and I'm just not sure if he'll ever forgive me.

    • Well, he should not be the one making you happy. And, if he wants to be intimate with other women, are you OK with that if he comes back? Don't worry about him - worry about you. You can't control him, you can only control yourself. You want him, but I would recommend unblocking your opennes to all of the stimuli from other men around you. You'd be surprised how many great guys there are out there wanting a gal who'd give them attention. If you forgive yourself, that's all that matters.

What Girls Said 1

  • The guy sounds like a jerk. Even if you did act desperate, he should cut you some slack...heartache will make anyone act out of character. From one girl to another, I say the more you contact him, the more he thinks he has you wrapped around his finger. So when you go visit your friends in his area, do JUST that...have a great time with them and don't tell this guy you're there. If he finds out and realizes you didn't tell him, maybe he'll realize what he's missing. MAYBE. Don't hold your breath. Just do what makes you happy.

    • He said he understands I was acting out of emotion though... But I don't know... The thing is I really want to visit him! lol I know I'm stupid

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    • I'm going through a similar situation. My ex would call and say he missed me, but then not call...and then when he did call again, I'd answer, and I believe I started making him feel like he had me in his pocket. So when I was finally fed up, I ignored him twice, and he hasn't tried in a week. I say if he doesn't chase you or, like in my case, gives up after only a few tries, then he's not worth your time!

    • I couldn't agree more! :D

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