That is how I always knew it. It's always the exact same words I hear from people. It's like dating and game come together like a couple. Just like any game, dating has rules you should go by. There are winners and losers. The one that falls in love first loses while the other one that pretty much put up an amazing effort to not to wins. It's crazy. Really. Nobody wants to lose. That is why some people care so much about winning that they see dating as a game to win when in fact, they're not winning at all. What's the prize? I-did-not-fall-in-love-I'm-so-great-but-I-don't-have-a-love-life award? Perhaps a self-fulfillment that you were able to stop your feelings and at the end of the day you'll realize that oh gosh, I made it! I'm a living robot!
I'm not going to say anything that would offer the best solutions to this dilemma. You know, if "dating is a game to play" worked for someone then it might work for others too.
They say people learn from their mistakes. One doesn't know what he's got until it's gone. If it takes losses and mistakes for one person to realize the right things to do, then maybe, just maybe, seeing dating as a game would be fine. A chase after chase-- he'll chase me but I'm so not gonna lose this game so I'll be tough and hard on him until he gets tired then I'm going to miss him so I'll be the one chasing him now. It could get crazier like Beyonce getting really crazy in love.
I really don't know where I'm going with this but if I'm going to waste some time playing the dating game, I'll make sure that I'm going to win a concrete and reasonable prize and that it's going to be a worthwhile experience.