I decided to share some thoughts I’ve had about some of the guys I’ve recently talked to. A lot of them have had very clingy tendencies- I tend to date older which may play a factor in that. They could be in a rush to settle down and start their life.
Anyways, here are the 5 things the make a guy seem clingy in my eyes and why it is unattractive to me.
1) I like my space
I don’t appreciate a guy who needs to always be by my side or doesn’t have his own life. I have my own friends, family and life- I don’t plan on losing that just because I enter into a relationship.
2) Jealousy: The Green-Eyed Monster
When a guy is jealous it is SO unattractive to me. It shows a lack of confidence. If I am in a relationship with you, it’s because I want to be. I have guy friends and they will remain a part of my life.
3) Always needs reassurance
This is probably one of the most frustrating things for me. I can be affectionate, but I tend to be stubborn. If you try to make me be affectionate- it will just push me more away. Once again- if you’re in a relationship with someone you should be confident in it. Affection comes at the right times- you can’t push it or constantly need it.
If i'm spending time all of my time with you, obviously i like you and think you're attractive. Im not going to tell you that every second of every day.
4) Blowing up my phone
When a guy needs to text me every second of every day or makes me tell him where I am all the time it shows a lack of trust and makes it seem like he doesn’t have a life. The point of a relationship is to combine 2 worlds and not make my world, yours.
5) Talking about the future WAY too early
I tend to do this too because I think ahead. However, I’ve had guys make me take a step back by how forward they are. On tinder, I have met some guys that call me their girl, ask how many kids I plan on having or talk about meeting their family when we’ve just been on one date… That just looks desperate.