For the past 7 years, I have observed and participated in the dating "ritual". I have read books, articles and asked my friends advice about everything from how to flirt to how to break up with a guy. What I have figured out is that all the advice we are given, the "rules" we have learned are bullsh!t. Most rules are simply games people play to make them feel like they have the upper hand. With books titled "How to Date like a Man" and "Why Men Love Bitches" no wonder society flounders with dating. We are given "guidelines" on how soon to text/call someone, how long to wait to reply to someone. How many days notice you need for a date, who should pay blah blah blah. Why wait to text/call someone? If you want to talk, text/call them. If someone asks you out last minute, if you can go why not go? Some of my best dates were spur of the moment, last minute invites. People lead busy lives nowadays and we all know men cannot plan ahead :). I have learned that there are so many men over 35 that have been hurt, played or friend zoned that they simply will not pursue women that play these games becaues it seems like disinterest, which will push a person with their guard up away faster than you can imagine. Just be real, keep it simple and keep it honest.