For the past 7 years, I have observed and participated in the dating "ritual". I have read books, articles and asked my friends advice about everything from how to flirt to how to break up with a guy. What I have figured out is that all the advice we are given, the "rules" we have learned are bullsh!t. Most rules are simply games people play to make them feel like they have the upper hand. With books titled "How to Date like a Man" and "Why Men Love Bitches" no wonder society flounders with dating. We are given "guidelines" on how soon to text/call someone, how long to wait to reply to someone. How many days notice you need for a date, who should pay blah blah blah. Why wait to text/call someone? If you want to talk, text/call them. If someone asks you out last minute, if you can go why not go? Some of my best dates were spur of the moment, last minute invites. People lead busy lives nowadays and we all know men cannot plan ahead :). I have learned that there are so many men over 35 that have been hurt, played or friend zoned that they simply will not pursue women that play these games becaues it seems like disinterest, which will push a person with their guard up away faster than you can imagine. Just be real, keep it simple and keep it honest.
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"have learned that there are so many men over 35 that have been hurt, played or friend zoned that they simply will not pursue women that play these games..."
Say 25 my friend, it's much earlier than 35+.
I do agree with you, most of those guides are useless, some are useful IF you are really clueless.
It saddens me that you say 25. I said 35 initially because that was my dating age range.
你的这些文字是你自己的体会还是从书中得来的，我不明白你们的感情价值是什么，我是个中国人，婚姻和恋爱在我们看来都很神圣，意味着责任和家庭，如果这个世界恋爱只是一种游戏规则，那这个世界怎么还能延续，家庭该如何延续，责任又改如何延续，希望你走出阴影，有一天你会找到属于你的依靠，他会给你一个稳定的家，一个孩子或很多孩子，相扶到老，就像你们西方结婚时的誓言一样。You of these words is your own experience or from the book, and I don't know what is your relationship value, I am a Chinese, marriage and love in our opinion is very sacred, means responsibility and family, if the love is a kind of the rules of the game in the world, how can this world continue, family how to continue, responsibility and how to change, hope you out of the shadows, one day you will find belong to you, he will give you a stable home, a child or many children, holds to the old, just like your western wedding vows.
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