Been dating a guy for two months now. Spend about two days a week with him... that is both of our free time. He calls me baby, takes me out all of the time, lalala... Yet he is still on Tinder. What does that mean? Should I tell him I know he is on Tinder? or should I ask him why?
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What does it mean that you still walk out in society without a burka or hijab on?
I mean seriously. Girls need attention and validation that they're sexually desirable, guys need attention and validation that they're sexually desirable. The only difference is that girls can just sit there and have guys give it to them, whereas guys have to make an effort first, get a girl interacting with him, and then just see if she's interested in him that way or not.
Doesn't mean anything beyond him just trying to feel good about himself and see that he still has it (outside of just between you and him). If you want to turn it into something else so you can take that away from him because you're insecure or needy, or want to feel like you're the only one, then may I also suggest the following device:
Now, you don't have to just limit yourself with having his emotional sense of well-being and feel-goodness on lock-down, you can also deprive him of sexual release unless you're in the mood, so that any pleasure he has in life is given exclusively through you. . . after all, that's the whole power trip you're suffering from isn't it? Want to be the exclusive gate-keeper to anything that makes him feel good?
I think you need to get more comfortable with the idea that he actually prefers being with you as opposed to other people, so you don't need to resort to doing these things or feeling this way out of fear or insecurity, in order to have him prefer or want to be with you. If you let your fear and insecurity get the best of you, he "WILL" leave you.0
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