A guy unfollowed in talking stages? What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

I have been shooting my shot to a tinder guy in my school, he likes my first on Tinder so I find him cute, I like back.
He didn’t text me first, so I decided to make first moves. I get his Snapchat so I text him 1st. After 4 days texting, he gives me mixed signals. I also asked for his Instagram, I followed him because I wanna how is his personality, he followed me back.
I ask we should meet irl. But because we can’t see each other for a week so I decide to plan out the meeting before the conversation becomes awkward🤷‍♀️He says he can’t plan it too far away and says “maybe”.
Because he says “maybe”, I know he seems like not interested in me, I decide to stop texting him for 2 days. He unfollowed me today on Instagram but we’re still friends on Snapchat. What does that unfollowing mean?

[DoctorSex]

You're being too domineering. It's a turn off. Never plan out anything for a man. That's a power play move and if he's as hot as your among him out to be, he probably has more feminine options available to him.

Women have made this same mistake with me. Don't plan things out for me. Simply ask when I'm free, and suggest we meet up. Then ask for the details of the meet up.

Don't think for me. It's very unattractive to masculine men.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

that’s what I ask for, I ask what weekdays he is free. He says Friday so same with me. So I suggest if we wanna meet on Friday, he says “maybe”. I think I’m still to domineering:(

[Smoothing]

It could be that he is not interested, or it could be that what ever interaction you had, you cam on too strong.

You definitely did nothing wrong by asking him out and never be afraid of doing that. Some you loose, some you win.

If you are going in too strong, you might want to tone ut down a little bit. Guys get spooked out when you come on too strong.

[magiusX26]

i seen that convo with the teligious zealot. maybe one day he will learn.

[Smoothing]

Let us hope so.

[Anonymous]

2 possibilities here:

1) He already decided he'r rather have nothing to do with you

2) He wants to keep knowing you, but he wants to hold what, in some games, is called "the upper hand". You have to pursue, he will judge you at every step. In other words, what women enjoy a lot doing with men, but this time on the reverse.

[Reece12345]

Unfollowing you on Instagram doesn't sound too good. And him saying "maybe" kind of indicates a lack of enthusiasm. I'd find someone else.

[dexter234]

Girl never make first moves, if you want a man for you, let the man chase you, shows your worth, don't submit easily

[Smoothing]

Wrong advice. I am sure you now know the guy us in to you. If you never made the first move, you would never have found out. The idea that girls shouldn't ask guys out really works to the disadvantage of the girls.

[dexter234]

That's why so many of such relationships fail, where girl chases a guy, he'll use her and throw away

[dexter234]

Just show him you're interested, but chasing he should do

[Smoothing]

Nope, I strongly disagree. Relationships don't fail because the girl made the first move. It fails because of wrong choices and and other factors. A girl asking a guy out has nothing to do with failure in a relationship. That us just fear talking

[Smoothing]

Coming on too strong is the only factor that puts a guy off. Other than that. A girl asking a guy out doesn't mean failure in a relationship.

[dexter234]

Sure you can call it "wrong choice", but things will go wrong if the base of relationship is not good. What you're talking about is "ideal", and ideal rarely happens

[Smoothing]

Nope, it is not I deal. It is from experience and watching things happen in real life

[dexter234]

Men are naturally chasers, women are not, that's what keeps their feminine side alive

[Smoothing]

Here comes the all cliche statements that I keep hearing from guys who think they know it all.

[Smoothing]

Yes, men asking girls out is generally the norm but it is not the ultimate rule. It neve has been. Wen have been asking guys out for centuries

[Smoothing]

And successfully too. Leading to marriage.

[Smoothing]

It is not the asking that is the problem. It is the how.

[dexter234]

You need to understand that a man and a woman are fundamentally different, then you'll understand why men always chase

[dexter234]

Sure if you want a woman to chase, that's fine, but don't expect her to be the feminine energy that you want in a girl

[Smoothing]

Again. Same all cliche statement that is true, but is not an ultimatum.
I know men and women are different. He'll, I have known this my whole life. I have known this from my science. I ha e known this from my humanities a. d social studies.

But is still strongly disagree with your point. It is based on fear of the woman facing rejection.

[Smoothing]

No body should be chasing any body. Again I strongly disagree with chasing. Whether it is the man or woman.

[Smoothing]

You see, the very fact that people have it in their heads that some one should be chase is also a very wrong premise. Yeah some people might chase and some might like it. But chasing in its self is also a problem. It is a problem for women and also for men

[dexter234]

Your thoughts are not practical brother, good on paper

[Smoothing]

My thoughts are from experience. I am 36. You are 24. I have more experience than you

[dexter234]

And stop looking a at relationship from humanities and science my guy

[Smoothing]

I don't go looking at books or videos that people like to religiously look at to inform them. I go by experience

[dexter234]

Age doesn't signify amount of knowledge you have, and experience doesn't mean anything if you don't learn from it

[Smoothing]

You need to throw all that rubbish out of your head and start informing yourself by your experience. There is no ultimate rule in dating. There is just common sense which should continually evolve through experience.

[dexter234]

Start reading Bible man, or any other religious book you want, you'll get the truth

[dexter234]

Keep science away from relationship

[Smoothing]

You have just given me a reason to even not pay attention to what you say anymore..🤣🤣🤣

[dexter234]

Good for you brother

[Asker]

Chasing a guy sucks, it hurts and doesn’t work out well…

[Asker]

It is not my first time confessed my feelings first either. I don’t know if I have crush on wrong guy or I shouldn’t chase a guy anymore

[Smoothing]

You are not supposed to chase. Just ask them out if you like them. No one is supposed to be chasing any body. It doesn't matter whether its a man or woman. Chasing is not something one should do.

[Asker]

I left him on read after he says “maybe”. I don’t know what does he expect me to reply with that. So I don’t think that I chase (or disturb) him too much

[Smoothing]

In that case, all you have to tell him, "let me know what you decide", and leave it at that.

[Smoothing]

That way, you are letting him know, you made your move. It is now his turn if he is interested. If he doesn't follow through, you have nothing to loose. You took your shot. He didn't take the opportunity. His loss

[Smoothing]

It is really that simple

[Smoothing]

Next time you see a guy you like, I can help you out if you like. It is really not that hard. I have actually helped a girl on here. Bow she has a boyfriend. That was approximately 6 months ago. I am not an expert or anything, but I can help you break through all those myths that restrain you from getting the guys you want.

[Asker]

I wished I asked you earlier, I alr feel bad so I unfollowed and unadded him on Snapchat, Instagram, Tinder

[Jamie05rhs]

That means the talks fell apart.
Nothing wrong with that. It's just life. It happens.

[Jacobbbb]

Means he's not interested. Just move on

[Anonymous]

He got a better offer. Don't worry, if that falls through he'll most likely re-conraxt you.

[In_Trance]

It means you need to move on