About a week ago I hooked up with this guy from my college (from this question: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1214018-can-i-get-guys-perspective-on-this-hook-up-girls-advice ) I've had a crush on for few weeks. We kissed before, but this was the first time we had sex. Before anything happened I clarified to him I had no expectations and that it was just for sex. But he kept insisting he has a proper crush on me and has spent weeks wanting to get to know me better and that he just can't stop thinking about me since the first time we made out. I specifically told him so many times not to say all that if he doesn't mean it, that it can be just sex, but he kept insisting he really likes me. He said he would have spoken to me before but that when he likes someone he's really awkward and nervous even though he's usually confident with girls in clubs etc. The sex wasn't even that good tbh, but he asked me to spend the night so I did. We spent the whole night talking and cuddling, he wanted to know every little thing about me and he was just being the sweetest person possible. The next morning he told me he meant everything he said last night, he asked for my number and we made plans for all the things that we would do together and as I said he was being very sweet. And I don't know he seemed honest and like he actually liked me.
However, he didn't call me or messaged me for the next few days and I was getting properly annoyed. In case he needed some encouragement I added him on Facebook yesterday and after that he messaged me and we just had a short small talk chat, nothing special. Then I messaged him, reminding him of one of our plans, but in a very casual, non clingy way. He never replied to that and i haven't heard from him since.
So is he backing off? He didn't need to lie to me to have sex. And even if he did, why did he messaged me again but is now backing off? I really don't know what to think about this anymore.
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So how many days has it been since you re-mentioned the plans and he didn't respond? Additionally, he might be discouraged that he's could be investing towards something that he told was NOT what he wanted - I mean in all fairness wouldn't you pull back a bit and analyze your investment potential as well?
As for if he used you... doesn't sound like it no. He seems to have had a genuine interest and then something made it stagger QUICKLY. My bet would be he discussed what happened with some of his close friends and they said to basically leave it (again I am only really guessing at this, and this could/probably is way off but just my 2 cents) since if he mentioned that you told him you're just in it for sex, his friends would probably tell him not to get too attached.0