You only have one V card, better make sure to use it wisely. While your at it, hit the gym. If you are really interested in being healthier, nothing does it like working hard for an hour in the gym. Honestly I am not interesting in taking anyone's V card fit or not fit. But if I had to, it would be the fit one. I don't care what size your boobs are, I care more about how well you take care of yourself. You can't control your breast size, but you can control how much you eat, what you eat, and how many calories you burn. That is what matters, not giving away your V card to some guy who doesn't deserve it.
Tell yourself that your health matters, that you matter, and no low life guy deserves or needs to take your V card away from you. Start by going once a week. Up it till you are going three times a week. Consume health foods, no more potato chips for breakfast and candy at lunch. Eat a balanced diet. Balanced doesn't mean it has to taste bad, either. The first step is to tell yourself you can do it. Second step is to actually get off of the sofa and go the the gym and sign up for a membership, perhaps a nutritionist and trainer as well. Then start meeting with them at the gym once or twice a week, up it once you get used to it. Your ideal weight is right around 120 to 140, somewhere in there (I am speculating over the internet). It will take a year of hard work to do it, but this is the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Please don't take this advice lightly. This is something you can do, you just need to do it. Like now. No excuses. Excuses mean you don't care. Go get em', Tiger!
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Being comfortable in your own skin is probably the most important lesson here. Confidence goes a long way with people. Your weight could be a medical or genetic (possibly thyroid) issue it could also be a nutrition (eating correctly rather than just less) and/or exercise issue. You would need to talk with a doctor who would likely need to do testing to determine these things.
As far as virginity goes I'm not sure how or when there came to be a negative stigma with girls. Guys I understand I guess. But girls is just a little odd... since basically the beginning of humankind virginity has been prized among males. First for for its symbolic value. Second for its practical value with respect to what would hopefully be a lower likelihood of STD's and discipline, the desire for sex is a difficult urge to resist especially when caused by guys who can be quite persuasive. It could also possibly be caused by girls who are jealous they are no longer virgins and want other girls to join the club.
You're only 19. I'm in the same boat and I'm 20. Huzzah! There's hope.
Naw but really, I get what your feeling. I feel that way too sometimes. That doesn't make it true but we all fall into a funk.
As far as losing weight goes, it's good that you have a buddy to do it with you. Most diets and plans fail because they're not sustainable and you're not building good habits.
Right now, just focus on the exercise for a week or two until it becomes something you just naturally do. After the first couple weeks, then make another change. It's great that you are reducing your diet. However you need to make sure that you're eating a balanced diet. You need to make sure that you're getting all the nutrients you need.
Also, most diets are just fads and not based in any truth. However if you want something safe and some guidelines the DASH (dietary approach to stop hypertension) is a safe and effective management tool. Again, slowly change over time.
Also, if you're up for it, counting calories is not a bad thing. You just need to make sure that your comfortable and realize that calories are not bad. LiveStrong and other websites have tools to make this easier. You need to consume 500 less calories than you need each day to lose 1 pound a week. The LiveStrong app already calculates what your base intake should be. By exercising you increase the number of calories a day you can consume.
Be careful that you don't get into a purge mentality, because that leads to eating disorders. Just take it slow and remember. It's about good habits.
Hey there girl. I really wouldn't beat yourself down about this. I'm going to be 18 in almost a month , and I still haven't kissed, Helds hands , or dated a guy either, despite being on the more fit side. I'm a virgin as well so I'm not that far off away from you. I don't think it's totally a weight problem that guys don't approach you , it could be more of a confidence problem and that needy vibe you may be presenting to want to be in a relationship. You hsve to simply act like you're not neccasarily looking for one. Be your own person and simply don't give a damn without being arrogant. Continue on to be friendly and cordial. With the weight thing , it could be hypothyroidism that's causing yoor weight struggle so I would check that out. Try to avoid sugar, wheat , and dairy. No packaged foods and carbs aren't bad. Stuff like brown rice and sprouted whole grain bread are all good. fruits are great too but don't eat too much of it. Boost your intake of every vegetable known to man and include good fats like avocado , olive oil, coconut oil, etc. because good fats like that help you lose weight. Have more plant based proteins. And drink half your body weight in water and have some raw juices as well. Don't give up! Gotta be persistent and consistent
I would like to recommend a blog to you called "The Rules Revisited". Google it. I don't think that everything he writes is LAW, but it does give you a lot to think about in terms of how the male brain thinks. I've read many of his posts and they talk about appearance, exercise, virginity, dating, meeting guys, etc. I think that's something that's worth looking into for you.
Anyways, you're only 19 and still have a lot of life to live. Don't rule out all possible options. If you're in college, there are PLENTY of guys out there just waiting for you to meet. Exercise, eat right, put a bit of effort into your appearance, have good hygiene, and you'll be fine. And it's a big turn off if you call yourself ugly and put yourself down. Confidence is attractive! Be comfortable with yourself and others are naturally attracted to you.
U shouldn't care if u 19 and a virgin you still yung. I lost it this year @31yrs old yes I'd date and let guys feel me up with out going all the way but yes jst take your time. lots of guys will make you believe if you sleep with em youl be together and its not always like that ey. sometimes you do it with them and they'll still run off pulling a hit and run on you. so yes ur hormones are raging but make sure you're doin it for yourself and not for some douchebag. and girl don't be so hard on yourself if you on the thicker side you can still be sexy cause its in your mind. I'm thin people think I'm pretty but I used2 have a low self esteem so I ddnt attract good guys to myself but I'm learning to not take shit. so yes jst exercise put yourself first and everything will fall in to place. maybe you'll even land yourself a date ; )
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Hey. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with this.
First off, don't worry about being a virgin. It's just an experience you have yet to try. There is nothing magical about it.
Second, I would recommend this: Get out more. A lot more.
I'm not talking discos etc. But meeting guys and having relationships will be much easier if you are meeting a lot of people all the time (irl, not online). So what you need to do is to figure out activities, groups and events you are interested in, where there are guys too, and get involved in them. The more, the better. Gradually, you'll get much more relaxed in social situations. A great place to start would be to start participating in a team sport regularly. More effective and more challenging than exercising at home.
I also imagine that since you have been bullied, it would help you to take matters in your own hands and just meet a lot of new people. That way, you get to control who you hang out with, rather than the other way round.
Hugs and good luck.You are still young. Be yourself, do things you enjoy, and try to be happy. Sex and love will come with time.
As for how you look, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But if you are not happy with how you look, that is something that you can change. It will take time and hard work, but it is something that can be changed. Just be safe in the way you go about changing how you look.
On the subject of being a virgin, I do not think that it matters. If people are giving you a hard time about it then they are defiantly not people worth paying attention to.
I can somewhat understand where you are coming from. I am 22 years old and also a virgin (not entirely by choice).You will find someone eventually dear. Go on www.iifym.com and look up you macros and start following it it's a diet where you can eat whatever you want as long as you aren't over eating for your body. Macros are protein, fats and carbs, fiber is also important. Then go on www.myfitnesspal.com and download the free calorie counting app on your phone and your good to go. Good luck I hope you find someone :)
shit what you worrying about? A lot of girl would wish to be in your position right now. Your still a clean, young, beautiful and vibrant young girl. And guess what im 19 year old guy and im still a virgin. You shouldn't feel rushed, pushed, influenced, encouraged or persuaded to do it thats just straight wrong. You should feel comfortable and take your time finding an appropriate, righteous partner. Many people say sex ain't what its hyped out to be its not all that glamorous. But it is special and what you have right now is special because its what most people look back on and desire and wish to still have.
A doctor might give you other options. However, the only exercise that guarantees weight loss is aerobic exercise and it takes a lot. Furthermore, it only works if you have the body structure that can handle it. Obviously, if you body keeps breaking down, it will not work. If ever you can run 20 miles a week averaging 10 minute or less mile times, you cannot be fat.
Start by walking. When you can walk two miles and that may take a month or more, find a track or jogging train, walk a quarter mile and jog a quarter mile. When you can do that 4 to 8 times and assuming you body is not breaking down, you can add distance to your jogging. If in six months you can jog 4 miles a day, 5 days a week, eat whatever you apatite or body wants; you will not fat because one is not compatible with the other.
Guys like that are trashy. Don't be dependant for a man to fuck or leaning on your friends and whoever comes around for social acceptance. Shit like that will get you hurt and involved with the WRONG PEOPLE! A girl with a gut is NO big deal!! ;) Every man goes down the road of a big adventure eventually!!! So do not fret about when he will come, VALUE yourself MORE sweetheart!!!
You most likely need a better diet, because your weight is a health risk. Eradicate soft drinks like Cola and fast food from your diet. Decrease sugar intake. Eat more salads. And try to get some physical activity. It helps if you have a friend who knows how these things work. You really shouldn't be over 170 lbs at max.
I'm 22, in the same boat and I used to model. It's not all about looks, trust me
You should lose weigh to be healthier, it's not magically gonna get you boyfriend. Other than though I don't really have any advice, as I said, I'm in the same situation. And I know how feel, I'm also embarrassed by it and I lie when people askyour time will come. Don't rush anything. As far as diet goes maybe talk to a doctor and come up with a meal plaan. Or choosemyplate. gov is a pretty good food tracker and can help with weight loss goals. Also, confidence is a huge factor in attractiveness. So try building yours up a bit b/c i'm sure you're great:)
you're 19 and a virgin and that's what you're worrying about. Hun I'm 19 too and also a virgin. And I have never kissed a guy either. It doesn't matter. When the right guy comes, then it will be fine. Don't worry. I guess if you're freaking out then I should too. I haven't so you shouldn't either
Hey there's 7 BILLION people in the world! You might think you're ugly, but someone i the world will love you for who you are. You're 19, you have you whole life ahead of you. Don't let this situation bring you down. When the times comes im sure you will meet a wonderful man who will love you for who you are! Dont stress about it, there more you think about it, the more its gonna come bite you in the ass!
there is hope for everyone, with billions of people in the world, there is one especially for you, all you have to do is be patient, give yourself a break you deserve it. Learn to love who you are and if you I mean you not everyone else, don't love something about you then change it but don't cause harm to yourself. It took me a while , I'm 26 I'm a bigger girl and a virgin , and I use to cover up , now Im proud of who I am, I'm 260 lbs of awesomeness and I'm not afraid to show it. I'm also proud of being a virgin, there is nothing wrong with It. Just be patient and get to know who you are. One thing guys love is confidence and once you take time for yourself you will gain it. Even though I'm a big girl, I'm confident and the guys love it. So don't worry so much about losing your virginity, you are not broken.
I haven't really decided my reasoning yet on why I like virgins. But I think it's because
1. I may have a deflowering fetish.
or
2. I'm probably insecure and I don't like girls who have experience with other guys or girls who were more satisfying than me.
I think you'll find someone. Being healthy should be a goal for you right now though.19 is still very young. Don't let peer pressure dictate your actions. You'll find the right person eventually.
getting bullied for it. wow that seems pretty childish. you should be proud to have held on. lose it when you are ready not when other tell you to.
I'm a Virgin too lmao. If people judge you based on that; they're not worth your time. Someone will come for you don't worry. Just be confident.
needless to say 200 pounds is a huge barrier if you want to find a guy. but it´s not only about that xD i am not fat or something but have the same problem and i´m 29 -.-
Well you're very young there's still plenty of time for you to find a guy who really deserves you
I would date a girl like you. Don't worry, you being a virgin means you have commitment and integrity. I too am also a virgin.
I am 20 and a virgin and athletic. When did most of your friends lose their virginity?
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